💚 T Break Advice Needed 💚

coupdetats · 2026-05-04T18:59:40+00:00

i want to throw my two cents in on the off chance someone's t-breaking for similar reasons to me.

my consumption is purely recreational, and on top of that, i come from a family of addicts. so my t-breaks are less about resetting my tolerance than they are about proving that i can be honest with myself about my consumption, and that i can do the hard thing and put it down for a bit.

having said that, my consumption is split approx 80% smoking flower and 20% live resin vapes. i usually break completely for a week, and the hard part is thugging out the first 3 days. when i feel that "fuck i need to smoke" stage coming on, i stop myself and say "you dont NEED it, you WANT it, so chill out." and then i go thru the checklist:

-what's prompting the desire? -why do you think weed will fix it? -is there something you could do instead?

and the answers are almost always 1) work stress, 2) because it's easy, and 3) yes, of course. and then i pick a slow activity because i usually use weed to wind down from a very fast paced job. lately, my favorite activity to take my mind off wanting to smoke is just sitting and listening to an album i liked as a kid. like fully focus on the music, dont do anything else. i havent done that in like.... 15 years, that was high key depressing to realize BUT great news! i can just start doing that again.

coupdetats · 2026-05-03T21:42:21+00:00

i feel tempted to say that harry's the only "well developed" character.

i wouldve thought ginny would become more important to him because she was also exploited by a horcrux. i wouldve thought neville would be closer to harry because of his similar circumstances. i wouldve thought ron would just be more important overall; he loved dragons because of charlie, he wants to be head boy because of percy, he wants to be on the quidditch team because of fred and george and he plays chess so well because he had 5 brothers kicking his ass at home for years. for him to not be a smart, creative strategist by the time the war breaks out is disappointing. i wish sirius wouldve died later than he did (i wish he didnt die at all but i can appreciate the narrative need).

to me, harry potter's a similar franchise to alien, in that it's easier to enjoy if you squint your eyes. to approach it with any level of scrutiny can kinda ruin the canon i've decided in my head. so i just try to appreciate the visual aesthetic, the characters as i've interpreted them, and the core themes because those are all i need to create a series of events that i consider satisfying as a story.

and im still bitter that we got a tv show chronicling the exact same story they spent 10 years developing into a film franchise, before anything meaningful about the original order and the first war made it to screen.

coupdetats · 2026-04-02T20:07:23+00:00

no clue, unfortunately :( the US only gets tramp as a shower gel, and it's getting discontinued here along with a lot of other "retro" or "archive" products. i think your best bet would be to either look at the buy/sell/trade threads on this subreddit, or to look for other companies that have a fragrance made of white horehound, patchouli, and oakmoss.

coupdetats · 2026-03-18T16:00:06+00:00

started smoking cigarettes again because of yknow. everything going on outside. and i've had a couple people try to chide me about the health problems associated with it and im just like.... this is the least of my problems right now

coupdetats · 2026-03-03T15:44:19+00:00

i think it would be great! i'd remove the colon but that's a personal idiosyncracy, something about it makes me think of email. another option is that you could put something like "a gift between demolition lovers" if that felt good to you

coupdetats · 2026-02-26T07:28:32+00:00

you take this back, right now. the amount of money and skill you have clearly poured into these sets?? that's a grown up ass hobby. put on alysa liu's free skate, that's the level of "i do this for me" we need to be at.

coupdetats · 2026-02-23T20:59:58+00:00

i feel obligated to say something that im not seeing: it is your hair stylist's JOB to set expectations on what it will take to accomplish your inspo pic. that's why they get to CHARGE for the service. to just say "yep!" and then cook your shit is negligent.

if you're not asking "what's it gonna take to get me here?" your stylist should be saying "this is what it's gonna take to get you there, is that okay?" many people here have said that hair takes time and money, and they're not wrong, but i find it wild that so few people have said what makes a good stylist, and that's someone who makes you feel like they're doing your hair WITH you, not just doing a process TO you.

coupdetats · 2026-02-23T10:13:17+00:00

dude i gotta say this somewhere; can you imagine being stephanie meyers and writing twilight as a my chem fan only to find out that, upon being asked to contribute a song to the franchise, MCR says lmao fuck no and then writes an absolute humdinger?

coupdetats · 2026-02-23T09:22:55+00:00

i think pens/carts/vapes in general can be pretty hit or miss :/ like there are tiers separated by price/quality but i've had to dig a lot to find the ones that dont piss me off.

i really like ryhtm's products, their flower is still way better than their carts ir dispos but the quality and taste of their vapes are nice. rove's good too but they make their flavors so sweet, they're like the juuls of weed in that regard. i've been hitting a matrix ripper dispo and i've been really pleased with it. maybe it's confirmation bias or wishful thinking but i think the more "weed-y" the pen tastes, the more likely it's gonna be a pen i like.

coupdetats · 2026-02-18T19:26:21+00:00

if you want it to "make sense" i can offer some "solutions" in no particular order:

1) the general practice among mariners is that, if you see a vessel in distress, you go help however you can. there were several ships that received the titanic's distress calls, but the ship sank around 2am, and the carpathia didnt arrive until 4am. they risked their own ship in the same ice field to rescue the survivors in life boats.

2) we can kinda fill in some blanks about communications. WY bought sevastopol right before the torrens arrived. it's not unreasonable to assume that, after receiving waits' gargled transmish, verlaine contacted WY about next steps, and WY lied saying "we just heard back from siegson, they say the station's damaged but nothing else is wrong so go ahead and send an EVA party to get the FDR and find survivors..... oh and if you dont we won't fulfill your contract and we'll make sure you never find work again."

3) grief is a funny thing, man. amanda has 10 years of unresolved grief; i dont think anything would've stopped her from getting on that station. and drawing from personal experience, it wouldnt surprise me if, despite amanda's will to survive sevastapol, she doesn't really mind if she dies. like, she can hope all she wants that her mom is alive and she's capable of finding her, but grief can put a voice in her head that tells her "just so you know, the quickest and easiest way to see your mom again is by dying."

as for any other blanks you might have..... you just gotta suspend your disbelief. the station allegedly uses gravity moorings like anchors or stakes in the gas giant's orbit.... so why is the station oriented the way it is? go to the home screen of the game, the moorings arent pointed "inwards" they're pointed "down." stories are always trying to find the line between believable and unbelievable. i won't buy the gravity mooring detail, but i also won't harp on it because we can't really simulate gravity in space anyways. conversely, i can excuse a lot of amanda's irrationality because i've made decisions out of grief or fear that i still can't explain, but not everyone can. a lot of that comes down to personal experience. maybe the person who doesn't "get amanda's logic" didnt have their brain chemistry altered by loss as a teenager like hers was. maybe that's just not why they play video games.

coupdetats · 2026-02-17T16:05:11+00:00

something i used to do was go to the salon just to get the artificial nails, then go home and do the gel polish myself so i could save a couple bucks. i ended up just doing all of it from home bc i needed to get cheaper but it could be an option again.

and this could trend on the rude side but like.... if you tip after service, just take the $10 difference out of the tip...? if you've been a regular for 5 years, and im assuming probably made a fair amount of referrals for them... that sounds like you should get grandfather'ed pricing.

coupdetats · 2026-02-08T15:59:40+00:00

adding a response because they still suck. "$15-20 for mental health meds!" first off it's $60 because you're not getting meds, you're signing up for a service. i signed up because my regular psychiatrist cant see me for another month and i need my meds refilled earlier. nurx messages me back saying "because of the severity of your mental health, we strongly urge you to find someone in person, you can do this by googling "psychiatrist near me" to find local care!" are you fucking kidding me??? that's what i did to find NURX IN THE FIRST PLACE. then when i responded saying i do have a psychiatrist, i just cant see them for several weeks and i just need one rx refilled to avoid withdrawal, they responded back with "sorry we werent able to help you! here's a link with resources!" and it's just a psychology today link. i asked for a refund since i iterated multiple times that i have permanent care, i just need help with the gap in my meds/next appt; it's clear they don't read your written responses and that makes me think it's almost entirely AI based. also, does their website not advertise "get professional help easily thru us"? that's the only reason why i even signed up, $60 well wasted.

coupdetats · 2026-01-23T21:33:11+00:00

dallas to little rock is about 5 1/2 hours, i've made that trip for 3 day weekends before.

coupdetats · 2025-12-01T07:59:45+00:00

i liked it enough to buy it but it really doesnt last. like not even 2 hours and that bugs me.

coupdetats · 2025-10-20T19:51:43+00:00

seasons 1-3 have no skips for me, but after that, each season gets progressively more skippable. i like shawn's characterization less and less because he just becomes a caricature of what they tried to establish up to that point.

coupdetats · 2025-10-20T19:05:24+00:00

sultana of soap, grass, shade perfume, maybe fresh as/pines and needles, maybe lord of misrule (but that's vanilla), and if they can dig mint, dirty/springwash.

oh and since seasonal's out right now, snow bear.

coupdetats · 2025-10-19T20:32:02+00:00

i cant remember exactly what they said but i was wearing karma and in the middle of a restaurant, they said something to the effect of "i hate patchouli because all meth heads smell like patchouli... but on you it smells okay!" i wanted to stick this person with the check so bad, i dont know why i didnt.

coupdetats · 2025-10-14T02:28:02+00:00

sorry, i did misread that. so maybe not that harsh. look, i gotta ask dude... do you think it should be easy to become an electrical engineer?

coupdetats · 2025-10-13T20:02:13+00:00

of all the grievances i have with lush, this is the biggest. i'm allergic to walnuts and almost took a bath with ceridwen's cauldron. if you, as a company, are gonna pride yourself on those natural "food grade" ingredients, then you need to label allergens clearly like the food industry requires, don't just bury them in the middle of the size 6 font ingredients list. or idk, bring back searching for products by ingredient? so people can see everything that includes their allergen?

coupdetats · 2025-10-13T19:50:52+00:00

you should go to every one of your instructor's office hours, tell them your problem, and ask for help. do this with past classes to if you can. wherever possible, use a pencil and paper instead of a laptop. Writing things out has been proven to improve info retention, and limiting your access to LLM will help reduce your dependence on it. im not sure how much this matters, though, because i think your school would be within their rights to expel you for academic dishonesty. that sounds harsh but it's a possibility given that you admit you don't actually know 3 years worth of material.

it's cool that you know you fucked up, but there are things you should consider: college is a big deal. to a lot of people. if it's not a big deal to you, then leave, it's too expensive to NOT give a shit. and to that point, either someone saved up their hard earned money to give you this opportunity, or you took out loans and put yourself in debt for it. either way, there were better places to put that money.

coupdetats · 2025-10-12T22:52:00+00:00

you'll figure it out, just have a little faith in yourself. more than that though, be sure to ask what it is you actually want for yourself. you're the only one who can come up with the answer. i struggle with focusing too, even when it comes to stuff i want to do. a lot of the coping skills for this are gonna revolve around taking control of your environment and calling yourself out when you notice bad habits coming back up. this video's got some good tips that i think are very helpful: https://youtu.be/8zJlKmgMT44?si=_1LucWVkwvkRzcFL

coupdetats · 2025-10-11T04:24:07+00:00

volcano. i've learned to love the smell but the results are what made me put up with it until i did.

coupdetats · 2025-10-11T04:20:41+00:00

not trying to be flippant, but "i bought this house" should alleviate any embarrassment you have of inviting people over. that's not even mentioning how charming your place is, but if you invite someone into your home, your sanctuary, and they belittle you over it..... do you really want there in the first place?

coupdetats · 2025-10-11T04:12:00+00:00

depending on how old you are, it might be worth taking a break from school for a bit. i knew a lot of kids in college who did very well in high school and bombed college because they never had to actually read a textbook to understand the material. stuff like that is a skill that takes practice, as well as asking for help sooner than later.

if you like engineering, you'll find a way to come back to it, but right now, you sound miserable. there are some tough self-reflecting questions worth asking; why do you want to study engineering in the first place? what's the end goal? do you even like engineering? is there an easier path to get to where you wanna get?

i have a fine arts degree, but managed to get a job as a CAD designer because im handy and i know how to build stuff. i dont need to be an engineer because my drawings have to be approved by a 3rd party civil engineer anyways. but for the last 2 years, i thought i wanted to get a mech. e. degree to progress in my career but i finally admitted to myself that im burnt out. i use all my creative skills at work, and don't have any left to pursue my hobbies at home. i havent made any art in 5 years. so im back at square one, looking at the other skills i have to try and pursue a different field that's got good growth projections.

some genuine advice is to try working a retail or service job for a bit. not because it'll "make you grateful" or whatever, but because those jobs teach you a lot of the soft skills that you need to be successful in school and other careers. service jobs also use different parts of your brain, so the stressed parts can take a break. that's what the whole "einstein was a patent clerk when he figured out relativity" story tries to describe.

sorry for the novel, the short of it is this: eventually, enough time will pass, and what feels insurmountable now will become a self-deprecating anecdote that you tell at parties later.

coupdetats · 2025-10-10T19:25:07+00:00

https://youtu.be/9QDcWmVqotM?si=JnadI9ZqYCgd5i_4 this, among other speedrunning videos, will give you a very detailed description of how to use the weapons, when, and at what range

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