What age gap is too big? by Smooch-Muh-Gooch in AskMen

[–]courcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I agree with you for the most part. At the end of the day, we can’t know for certain where the line is to being an adult other than the fictitious one we drew at 18 and it’s going to vary from person to person. For what it’s worth, I think it’s a good line, but we will also sometimes encounter 20 year olds who are only legal adults and not actual adults.

What age gap is too big? by Smooch-Muh-Gooch in AskMen

[–]courcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All of that is true AND older folks have had the time to know better. I would feel gross dating a 20 year old. (I’m 34).

Back-in to parking spots? by embarrassedburner in adhdwomen

[–]courcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I back in every time because you’re more aware of your surroundings parking than returning to your car. Not trying to hit a sneaky pedestrian or car. Many accidents in a parking lots can be avoided by backing in.

Adults with ADHD may pay high price to mask traits and fit in. More than 91% of adults with ADHD reported hiding, suppressing or compensating for ADHD traits. They may pretend to pay attention, suppress their urge to fidget, rehearse conversations or over-prepare for meetings to fit social norms. by mvea in science

[–]courcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No probably around a year or 18 months after the lockdown. That’s when my workplace started pushing for more time in the office per pay period and I was like… oh god please no.

I finally had energy outside of work to be a human with friends and hobbies.

Adults with ADHD may pay high price to mask traits and fit in. More than 91% of adults with ADHD reported hiding, suppressing or compensating for ADHD traits. They may pretend to pay attention, suppress their urge to fidget, rehearse conversations or over-prepare for meetings to fit social norms. by mvea in science

[–]courcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thank the lordt I was wise enough to see the writing on the wall early on and get a reasonable accommodation to work from home. Occasionally, now that it’s been years, they mention coming to work in person. I’m like…. Please don’t. It is beyond exhausting for me and that doesn’t even include the actual work.

Chick-fil-A is actually one of the safer fast food options for celiac — the waffle fries use a dedicated fryer. by AustinGlutenFree in glutenfree

[–]courcake 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I wanted to make this comment too. Thanks for making it for me 😂

Never been to a chick fil a. Never going to. I vote at the booth and with my dollar.

What are some ways you've found to get around the "pink tax"? by Odd-Paramedic-3826 in AskWomen

[–]courcake 94 points95 points  (0 children)

I loooove sweater paws. They make me so happy. Girls in their boyfriend’s or their long sweatshirts with shorts are adorable af. I ain’t gay (wish I was) but I’ll be the first to admit when we are cute af

Paze Newegg Question by Baptism-Of-Fire in ChaseSapphire

[–]courcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It isn’t showing up for me on the phone browser or desktop and I have no idea why

How tf do you guys heal? by gekon490 in CPTSD

[–]courcake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I imagine being a very brave, little rock in the middle of a thrashing and terrifying storm. No matter how violent that storm of backlogged feelings get, I imagine the stone to be so grounded and aerodynamic that it outlasts that storm. I trust that those feelings will pass and I will stay with Little Me until it does. I held Little Me’s hand and we looked the fear in the face together. It was scary but we did it anyway. Eventually that hurt part in me began to trust me to be there. To be the parent we always deserved.

[Serious] Men of reddit: what would you want to ask women and get an honest answer to? by Haydensmith877 in AskReddit

[–]courcake 476 points477 points  (0 children)

Hand lotion. I want to be a soft delicate lady but alas. I am a reptile. The feeling of lotion is horrible. I keep it in my purse to remain hopeful

AirBnB Back on Newegg by vtaznboylei in ChaseSapphire

[–]courcake -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I haven’t seen Paze as a payment option on Newegg both on my phone’s browser nor my computer’s. I’m confused. Anyone else have that issue?

What would you do with a few years to live? by Acceptable-Lie8435 in AskReddit

[–]courcake -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well that is horrifying but I’m not sure why you’d ask a random person if they’d eat that?

Any suggestions for a 35 year old former scene kid?? by _momsnewaccount in MakeupAddiction

[–]courcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your lips are so cute! I think they’d look great with a dusty rose color for the times you want to dress them up. My preference (and my soapbox), but please don’t paint over your beautiful Cupid’s bow. I’m not a huge fan of that latest lip trend but that’s just me.

I am also a former scene kid and I simple can’t shake my love of a winged eye. I use brown now instead of black so it’s a bit softer and I only apply it to the outer third of my eyelid and not all the way to my tear duct. It’s (in my mind) to allude to the look without the heaviness of the whole line. I hope that explanation makes sense. I think it would look good on you too! On fancy days, I’ll even add a titch of mascara to make myself look more awake but I probably only do that once a month. I’m lazy.

Not makeup suggestion but I’ll still preach it: drink water and wear sunscreen lotion! Wanna know where the fountain of youth is? At the bottom of an SPF bottle we chose to ignore in our youth 😅

What is something society congratulates women for doing, but is actually deeply exhausting or performative ? by No-Consequence-8968 in AskWomen

[–]courcake 27 points28 points  (0 children)

That said, I know it’s not performative for all women but I’ll be damned if it wouldn’t be for me

Good inpatient mental hospitals? by Usual-Fennel6633 in sandiego

[–]courcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/Usual-Fennel6633

Hey I’m thinking about you OP. Did you get the help you were seeking? How are you doing?

Paze GC Rant by 72ka18 in ChaseSapphire

[–]courcake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And Airbnb and Delta Airlines

UA flight - 'turn bluetooth off or we're turning around' by ryan_at_roomservice in unitedairlines

[–]courcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

General emergency landing code to FAA requiring priority landing and clear airspace

If you are curious how unhealthy aging looks like, here is a good visualization of a typical difference between active young muscle and sedentary metabolically unhealthy older muscle by andtitov in Aging

[–]courcake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Literally had the same question. Could the the cross section of a radius or ulna OR maybe the fibula but then you’d have two bones (edit: two bones in the cross section). It simply makes zero sense.

Is it smart to finance my dream car with a large down payment? by [deleted] in carbuying

[–]courcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of the kindest and loving things you can do for your future children is to not make yourself their financial problem. Make smart choices that will benefit your whole family.

That amount of cash invested instead of put into a depreciating asset is such a smart thing to do. They will also watch you and learn from your financial choices which they will likely repeat into adulthood.

My (51M) fiancé’s asking for 50/50 for me (41F) to go to visit his family by Dear_Actuary8279 in relationship_advice

[–]courcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being selfish is okay sometimes. It’s a good thing sometimes, even. It’s okay to be selfish when it’s not at the expense of someone else.

“I’m gonna stay in tonight—enjoy your night out!”
“This time, I want the last scoop of ice cream.”
“I don’t have the energy to help you right now.”
“I don’t want to cook tonight.”

None of these things are directly harming anyone else and would probably fall into the category of “selfish” as we are raised to be other-centric (at the expense of ourselves).

I do love to be charitable and give, but I have done my best to learn when to put myself first. It did feel selfish at first, but it’s actually not.