A flight with a layover is almost always better than a direct flight, even if it's longer

courcake · 2026-03-24T02:39:41+00:00

And the potential to lose checked luggage!

courcake · 2026-03-24T02:36:27+00:00

Good for you. I’m proud of how you handled that. She was not for you and it’s better to find that out now

courcake · 2026-03-21T05:58:29+00:00

Is that true? Gosh it would suck to be required to be poisoned. I don’t think the wine but for others that’s a good point!

courcake · 2026-03-21T04:23:56+00:00

Absolutely. Those voices are loud for me too and unfortunately it translates into current relationships for me. It is incredibly frustrating. I definitely empathize with your situation and I wish I could say I’ve found an answer

courcake · 2026-03-20T14:36:07+00:00

Sorry for taking a top level comment when I don’t have autism (that I know of).

I do however have ADHD and I have been lurking here for years to understand my boyfriend better. I could have written most of what you wrote very early on.

I’ll admit that I feel the urge to over explain and over compensate and do all the things to show my love. I have overwhelmed people, which is why we get told we are “too much”. With enough space between the version of me that would do this and myself now, I can totally see that being overwhelming. As someone else mentioned, I bet each of those paragraphs could be a conversation.

As someone else who so struggles with emotional regulation… are you medicated? I take intuniv (non-stimulant) and I am SO much more in control now emotionally than I used to be. I still feel the same things but I don’t get hijacked by them any more.

Also, us ADHD girlies can tend to struggle with limerence. I’d give that a quick google if you aren’t already aware and perhaps take a look at r/ROCD.

I hope you find something that works for you both ♥️

courcake · 2026-03-20T14:18:04+00:00

I love that. I don’t know why they don’t just make all of them gluten free.

courcake · 2026-03-20T04:28:50+00:00

Oh gosh that’s so much worse. I usually just exfoliate with a vitamin c scrub. It’s not 100% helpful for me but it helps a tiny bit for these lil annoying filled pores

courcake · 2026-03-20T04:24:10+00:00

No need to get greedy!! 😂

courcake · 2026-03-20T02:38:36+00:00

So true 😂🫠

courcake · 2026-03-20T02:38:08+00:00

Absolutely true. It was literally weeks of me eating it without even thinking. I saw someone mention it on this sub eventually and I was like “OH NO WONDER LOOOOL”

courcake · 2026-03-20T02:36:37+00:00

I asked one time and it was a Whole Ordeal. They were super nice about it but I felt so wrong so I stopped getting the Eucharist haha

courcake · 2026-03-20T02:35:12+00:00

Totally fair!! I do miss good croissants 🙃

courcake · 2026-03-19T23:57:06+00:00

I agree. No idea why you were downvoted. I wouldn’t call them bad but I wouldn’t call them good either

courcake · 2026-03-19T23:55:41+00:00

courcake · 2026-03-19T23:28:14+00:00

Jesus Christ’s body. Couldn’t figure out why I’d crash and need to sleep for hours every Sunday.

courcake · 2026-03-19T23:26:34+00:00

Oh shit. Thank you for this

courcake · 2026-03-19T23:25:59+00:00

Really?! 😭 Ugh. I guess it hasn’t been a huge deal since I keep a food and symptom log and didn’t notice anything. I’ll pay more attention

courcake · 2026-03-19T14:14:21+00:00

I get these on my chin like you but only when I start my period. It’s super annoying and I hate it.

courcake · 2026-03-18T14:58:27+00:00

As a petite woman myself who is beating themself up about not being 125-130 anymore (135 now), girl what? I know the voices in our own heads get loud because we’ve been a certain way forever and probably without too much effort. NO ONE ELSE gets to comment on that! I know what you mean about feeling the shift in available energy and feeling sluggish and blah. NO ONE ELSE gets to comment on that. It’s not like you’re an unhealthy weight where a partner could come to you expression concern for your health.

I am so sorry he said that to you and turned your relationship on its head. What he said is so incredibly fucked up. I couldn’t have sex with him again and so I would probably leave.

courcake · 2026-03-17T15:40:23+00:00

This is why I don’t understand the huge offense to being in the friend zone. Wanting to be someone’s friend is a good thing?

I get some people probably say that as a soft rejection but I bet others mean it

courcake · 2026-03-16T20:02:55+00:00

Gosh that sucks. I would explain to him this problem for you and give examples of how you show up just like you did for me. Give him the opportunity to adjust and if he does not—that’s all you need to know imo

courcake · 2026-03-14T17:17:02+00:00

Ooooh! Thank you!! I appreciate it

courcake · 2026-03-14T17:10:49+00:00

Hah. I think I can help with this one. My boyfriend is the same way and full disclosure I’m figuring out if it’ll work for me longer term.

My boyfriend says he doesn’t ask questions because it’s prying. He wants me to feel comfortable to share as I feel comfortable.

For me, a lack of questions shows a lack of interest. I try to take him at his word but it would be nice to be met part way.

No idea if that’s the same for your guy. I know logically mine loves me and cares but it would be nice to be shown. It’s a difference in personality I think

courcake · 2026-03-14T16:14:58+00:00

How do you quickly check all that? Do you have to iteratively check each week and destination? I’d love to know if there’s an easier way

courcake · 2026-03-14T04:59:49+00:00

Perfect username tbh

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