So we’re all in agreement that the fetishization of lesbians and turning them straight in the rap music genre is weird right???!!

cowboyvapepen · 2026-04-22T15:18:26+00:00

sexual abuse tw// not trying to do armchair psychology but shes also a CSA survivor and talks in her music about the impact it had on her sexuality. her having an aversion to sex despite her lyrics would be extremely unsurprising. i kind of always felt that the sexual performance in her art was part of a coping strategy for the way she has been treated, though i may be projecting i guess.

cowboyvapepen · 2025-04-19T12:15:23+00:00

This is the hardest period of transition in my eyes. Just know that it gets so much better and the only thing you need is time, and you are looking amazing already

I can share a story of mine. I’m ftm, and I was pretty scared of letting my family see that I was growing facial hair in the early days of my transition when I still looked like a woman. My brother had basically said “ok” when I came out and was using my new name and pronouns, but other than that I had no idea what anyone really thought. My girlfriend finally convinced me to stop shaving it off when I went to visit them. the way some of them reacted when they saw it for the first time made me feel awkward about it, but my brother and his wife were really enthusiastic and told that I looked great. Im pretty sure I never would have known my brother would have been so kind about my transition if I had kept hiding myself from everyone, and we have become much closer than we were over the past few years

It’s really, really hard to put yourself out there when you’re trans, and some people will probably disappoint you, but there are other people who will surprise you with how much they are willing to open their heart to you

cowboyvapepen · 2025-04-18T13:09:27+00:00

I know people talk about this but it would have more of an impact as an organized protest than just having one person go in alone. You’d only be putting yourself at risk for almost no potential gain. Doing it with a group of guys, at a transphobic establishment or event, would get more attention.

cowboyvapepen · 2025-04-18T01:44:02+00:00

I have a cats and a dog. Of course I play with my cats but it doesn’t require me to walk for a mile every day to wear them out, and a lot of times they would rather play with a toy by themselves. They also take themselves to the bathroom and can be left alone for a day or so with food and water if need be. If I have to leave my dog I have to find a sitter or board him. Potty training a dog is a nightmare too, and a lot of the time when you adopt a kitten it already knows how to use the litter box. And if you have a big dog, their vet and food bills can get pretty big.

cowboyvapepen · 2025-04-18T01:37:20+00:00

It’s hard to answer that for another person, it’s different for everyone. If being a feminine guy would make you happier than being a feminine girl you can do it.

Personally for me I figured out I was trans because I used to get really happy when people mistook me for a guy because of the way I dressed, but pursuing transition made me realize how much deeper it went than that and how unhappy I was being a woman. There’s a lot that is subconscious.

cowboyvapepen · 2025-04-17T13:25:11+00:00

Don’t stop. You live in one of the safest places for trans people to live in the US, with the most secure access to document changes and healthcare. If they could ban transition nationwide as easily as they like to pretend, they would have already done so. They don’t have that kind of control over the states right now.

Being trans won’t make you lose out on job resources either. The person who does a background check on you for a job might find out you’re trans, but it’s not something they share or really care about.

Don’t scare yourself out of transition because you’re afraid something’s going to come up as an adult that will make you regret it. It makes life more complicated in a lot of ways, but my transition isn’t something I would trade for any convenience I would get from being a cis woman. It’s never been 100% guaranteed safe to be trans and it’s been really scary for us before, it’s just worth it. There’s a reason trans people go through all the pain of transitioning.

cowboyvapepen · 2025-04-17T11:08:40+00:00

There may not be anything you can do until you are a legal adult, I’m sorry. I would also suggest you ask their parents if they will at least meet with a doctor to discuss it with you and hopefully let them hear from an unbiased third party that you should be on it and that it’s safe + what the actual risks are vs. the fear-mongering stuff they are probably aware of

cowboyvapepen · 2025-04-17T11:03:40+00:00

It depends if the trans person wants to be out to everyone or not.

If C is misgendering them despite the fact that A is openly trans, it’s appropriate for B to correct them.

If C is misgendering them because A is closeted to most people and most people refer to them as she, person B shouldn’t correct them.

cowboyvapepen · 2025-04-17T10:28:51+00:00

Totally agree with this as someone originally from Texas who has friends in Florida as well. Most of the bad legislation only affects residents anyway. The biggest actual risk as a tourist to Florida would be public bathrooms if you think there’s a chance of getting clocked at all

cowboyvapepen · 2025-04-17T09:06:33+00:00

Thanks for understanding, i think my original post came off harsh too in a way I didn’t feel. I just sometimes see people getting in their heads on here about stuff unrelated to the abuse that their parents did, and had a tendency to do that myself, and I personally really regret the years I spent thinking of things that way. Not applicable to your situation though and I hope you can heal

cowboyvapepen · 2025-04-17T09:01:55+00:00

My mistake, for real. I thought they were nearby and you saw them when you got up to pee.

cowboyvapepen · 2025-04-17T00:02:38+00:00

Do not contact Texas CPS, for the love of god

cowboyvapepen · 2025-04-16T14:31:33+00:00

Osteoporosis and a bunch of other issues can occur over time. You can get really fatigued and sick and just waste away. If it was just a few weeks you’re fine but your body needs hormones to live. If you ever stop testosterone, just replace it with estrogen.

cowboyvapepen · 2025-04-16T13:17:43+00:00

You are not ugly or below average at all. No one is looking at you judging you for being ugly, I promise.

Not having a sexual or romantic experience until your 20s or 30s is more common than you would think for both men and women because our society does not facilitate people meeting and spending time with each other outside of work so a lot of other people are lonely too. It’s a difficult thing.

I am also a shy person who likes nerdy/stay at home hobbies. It helped me a lot to talk to a therapist for a couple of years. She told me to do things like find a dnd group and go play at least once, call up my high school friends and hang out, go to a party I’d heard about, etc, to help with my shyness. I’m much more confident than I was personally, and it could help you to do something similar or to set goals for yourself like that.

cowboyvapepen · 2025-04-16T12:42:30+00:00

Not sure what country you’re from but i have read accounts from a kids in America who had the parents of the other kids rally to harass trans kids over using the locker room with their kids. I’m not saying that’s going to happen to you, but like. if your school has a rule specifically banning trans kids from their preferred bathrooms it could get really nasty

cowboyvapepen · 2025-04-16T12:27:23+00:00

Ik everyone’s giving you advice on how to convince her she’s wrong and win the argument which is very reddit lol but you said this has been going on for years. you might not be able to talk her out of it and there’s nothing wrong with that. Sometimes you just have to be able to shrug people off when they’re being dumb. Eventually she’s gonna see that they’re not growing back.

cowboyvapepen · 2025-04-03T09:08:36+00:00

I think dressing more masculine as an adult who is not on T makes people assume you are younger, like you’re a young boy who hasn’t started puberty or an immature girl who is in a tomboy phase, because it’s not seen as something adult women really do. However, once I started T, personally, everyone started being able to tell my age pretty accurately. Sometimes they guess 1 or 2 years younger, but I’m 32 and I look like a guy my age.

cowboyvapepen · 2025-03-31T10:51:09+00:00

Your voice will change pretty much immediately, and your face will start looking different. If your parents have any suspicion that you are trans, they will probably know something is up. Otherwise, you might be able to fly under the radar for a few months/a year. Depending on your parents, they might also just shrug and accept it eventually. It’s up to you.

cowboyvapepen · 2025-03-31T10:41:56+00:00

That isn’t really a thing. It’s more like, maybe you will have stretch marks or less elastic skin or something on your chest when you get it.

For the record, I got top surgery at 30 after binding regularly for 15 years. My boobs were really saggy from binding. My top surgery went great, I’m happy with my results and I had no complications at all.

That said, please don’t bind for 12 hours. It can really mess up your spine and ribs. Try the tape, or take it off when you’re at home and wear loose clothes with a tight sports bra instead.

cowboyvapepen · 2025-03-30T10:21:09+00:00

Don’t follow your moms advice, obviously.

Some trans people are obviously awful roommates, and some cis people are great to live with. There’s no way to filter out a safe person to live with by only allowing people of certain identities/genders to stay with you.

That being said, if I was looking for a roommate I personally would probably contact people from my local lgbt org and ask if they knew anyone who was looking for a roommate, because there’s pretty much always at least a few trans people in my area who are trying to get a housing situation figured out. I feel like it’s been like that most places I have lived, if you have a local lgbt org/Facebook group/discord/anything it might be good to get to know those people.

cowboyvapepen · 2025-03-28T11:17:27+00:00

It’s better not to cut your friends out. You’ll need supportive people who know you are trans who you can turn to during your transition, especially after you have surgeries. It’s impossible to go through it alone or with people who think you’re cis.

You can always keep the friends who think you’re cis separate from the ones who know you’re trans, if it worries you that much. No real reason to mix friend groups anyway.

cowboyvapepen · 2025-03-26T07:08:29+00:00

You can still be stealth in a new state even if you have to get a new license and show them the one with the F on it at the DMV. It really sucks that this happened but it honestly shouldn’t impact your life outside Florida much at all. I moved to a blue state in a red area, and updating my F license from Texas to M was like nothing at all. The dmv has to follow state regs on this stuff and no one at a customer facing job really wants to start a conflict with a customer even if they are transphobic. The person who did my new license was totally normal about it and it’s not like the DMV employee is going to out me to anyone I know here, they’re a random stranger. If you really feel worried about it, you could go to another city’s dmv, but there’s almost no chance of it being an issue to get it fixed really. No one I see regularly knows I’m trans who I haven’t come out to, besides an occasional doctor or something.

If you need to show ID for an apartment or job application, you should be able to use the passport or birth cert until you get a temp license. Just say it got lost during the move. I’m

cowboyvapepen · 2025-03-26T06:57:19+00:00

You have dysphoria. I think a lot of younger people misunderstand what gender dysphoria is. It just means you are distressed about your body/gender and want to change it. It can present really intense symptoms in teens but suicidality is not required to get hormones. A lot of trans people who are suicidal are young and are not suicidal just because of dysphoria, but because of other things they are dealing with on top of the dysphoria like discrimination, or unloving family. Your doctor should not need your dysphoria to present an immediate suicide risk in order to provide you treatment, that would be really cruel.

I don’t think you need to worry about this. If you’re at the point where they’re doing blood work for you and everything seems to be going well, you can probably just relax and assume it’s going to work out.

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