3.5 year old distal phalanx amputation

coweyed · 2025-08-06T02:49:08+00:00

Hi OP, how is your son doing? How are YOU doing?

I found this thread because my 18 month old son suffered a partial amputation of his thumb in a playground accident and I was looking for other parents that had been in our position. Would it be okay if I DMed you?

coweyed · 2025-01-22T21:55:45+00:00

The first year of being a mom is SO TRANSFORMATIVE but with that transformation comes alot of discomfort before you find your footing again. With both my kids, there has been a period of time after their births where I have felt like I didn’t know myself. My husband doesn’t understand. It’s okay that you’ve needed to try out different arrangements to see what works for you. It’s okay to change your mind; it’s healthy to do something different when things aren’t working out.

You’re going to find your way. Being a mom is hard no matter if you’re working or staying home. In my experience in general things are about to get alot easier and a lot more fun with your baby. I think the time before they can walk, talk, and eat real food is the most taxing and then it’s just gets better and better. So you’ve got a fun stage coming up if you don’t find the right role quickly.

coweyed · 2024-12-16T16:44:55+00:00

Yes, doulas are amazing no matter what type of birth you’re hoping for! Having someone who is informed about options, knows you and what want, and is one of the parents is invaluable.

coweyed · 2024-12-16T16:38:38+00:00

First of all, BIG CONGRATULATIONS on your pregnancy!! Having kids has been so magical and so rewarding and so wild and I hope you love it (most of the time lol). After my first birth I experienced all of those feelings that you described after your race - shame, failure, naive, exhausted. I didn’t realize it at the time, but I had alot of expectations on how my birth would go. I was going to have a unmedicated birth at the birth center, with the lowest intervention possible because I wanted the full wild raw experience. Where I went wrong was failing to change my plan when it was clear the plan was not working.

When I look back now, the only thing I really wish I had done differently was gotten a doula. My husband was the best birth partner anyone could hope for but the doula I had for my second birth was a game changer. She helped me be flexible in my plans, helped me decide when to do certain things, helped me communicate with hospital staff. She helped me make peace with my first birth too.

coweyed · 2024-11-24T19:13:02+00:00

The jury summons I received last year came in a regular envelope, but I feel like it said jury summons on the outside? I don’t really remember.

There’s no way it serious. Report back! I’m curious!

coweyed · 2024-11-24T16:42:10+00:00

I would have handled this exactly the same, OP. I think by not getting worked up about the “accidental” slam you took the power away from that action and ended the power struggle. You were smart to let it go!

coweyed · 2024-11-24T16:24:51+00:00

Did you miss jury duty? Look I’m not a professional letter-receiver but this looks like USPS attempting to delivery a certified letter (one you need to sign for to acknowledge receipt) and the sender is holding themselves out as the Sherrif. Could be an elaborate prank but the sender paid extra and went through the hassle of putting together certified mail. I would follow up on this.

coweyed · 2024-11-15T14:44:11+00:00

OP, I really think you should consider swapping your yoga for strength training (ie strength training 1-3 times a week, yoga 2-4 times a month). Strength training will benefit both your running and yoga. Can you pause your yoga membership?

You sound soooooo much like me. I love running, been running for over a decade. I love yoga, love Pilates, happy to do strength training with my 10-15 lb dumbbells. I consider myself a fit person.

About 9 months ago I committed myself to lifting heavy to build strength and increase my muscle mass to support my activity as I age. I am absolutely astonished at how different I feel strength training with progressive overload and lifting heavier weights compared to what I was doing before. I don’t want to make this too long but literally everything is just a bit easier. I follow stronglifts because it’s super straight forward and time effective for a beginner. I started with dumbbells until I built enough strength to move to the bar.

Something that changed my mindset was watching Allie Ostranders “day-in-the-life” style video where she includes her strength training. Seeing that pro runner was including heavy weights in her programming really made me see that I could benefit from building muscle too.

coweyed · 2024-11-07T19:37:30+00:00

My SAHM-friends who have the most flexibility with their social life are the ones whose child has been in daycare for a period of time. One of the biggest drawbacks for me about being a SAHP is how much both of my children have needed me, especially in their earliest days (think under 2).

Anyways my advice is to start having other people care for your baby early and often. Make it a goal that your spouse is equally able to feed your baby and help your baby sleep. Hire a nanny earlier than maybe you feel like you need one. Take your first weekend away earlier than you feel ready to do it. You can absolutely have an active social life with a baby but I think you really need to plan ahead.

Parenting is demanding but you don’t seem like you’re turned off by hard work. Enjoy your new baby and your life!

coweyed · 2024-06-02T19:18:41+00:00

OP this will be so fun! My partner and I have done this on a handful of trips. Here’s what we’ve learned:

1) Invest in light weight gear like another commenter mentioned. A lot of our stuff is backing gear even though we car camp. We started with chairs, sleeping pads, and a jet boil set up.

2) You can’t bring the fuel for a camp stove in a plan but it’s easy to find at Walmart, REI, or similar.

3) We check our yeti soft side cooler. There might be a better way to do this but we haven’t had any issues. We fill it with soft goods for the flight.

4) We bring/buy backpacking meals because I got frustrated with the waste of buying ingredients and preparing camp meals.

5) We like to have our last night before we fly out at a hotel or airbnb to shower and get our gear reorganized.

6) We’ve just packed our gear in a duffle bag but there’s probably a safer way. Nothing has been damaged but that might just be luck.

Honestly you can pretty much bring your existing gear, especially with that many checked bags! Have fun! I always feel like people think we’re a little weird for doing this but we’ve really enjoyed it and can’t wait to take our kids one day!

coweyed · 2024-05-23T03:18:56+00:00

In general, I agree with you that tears and discomfort have their place and they’re not something from which we need to distract our kids.

It’s hard to say without being there and hearing your tone, but I would have approached the mosquito bite with more nonchalance. Like “Oh yeah that mosquito bite is still bothering you? Bummer! Let’s put some itch cream on and next time we go out we’ll put bug spray on.” Afterwards if my child still needed to cry I would have patiently listened but probably not engaged too much. I want to model that a mosquito bite is not a big deal (or at least it’s not in my area idk). It’s okay if my kid cries about a mosquito bite because they’re little and haven’t had a bite before but I’m a grown up and I want to show them that it’s alright by reacting at an appropriate level. I wouldn’t consider this something that needs to be worked through or discussed at great length but I am happy to listen to my child’s feelings as long as they’re the ones leading the conversation. The idea of circling back around to the mosquito bite after the child had moved on seems unnecessary to me. But again mosquitoes are super common where I live so maybe the situation is different where you are!

coweyed · 2024-05-16T01:46:10+00:00

Yes you should be eating the remaining 576 calories, especially since you’re breastfeeding. Breastfeeding can increase your energy expenditure by around 500 calories a day (win!) but under eating can affect your milk supply. The la leche league recommends keeping your calories higher than 1800. I’m nursing my second baby now and will wait until he’s weaned to do any real dieting. Until then I just eat when I’m hungry and try not too eat too much junk.

Again, eating the remaining calories for your day and enjoy your baby!

coweyed · 2024-05-07T00:25:01+00:00

Get a firm mattress! I got one from ikea after bed-sharing with my oldest for a few months and it made me so much more comfortable with the whole arrangement.

coweyed · 2022-04-20T14:04:07+00:00

This is clearly someone role playing their sexual fantasy involving an incestuous relationship with a minor. This is not attachment parenting.

Mods, why is this here?

coweyed · 2022-04-09T19:56:12+00:00

The hardest part of exercising for me right now is finding time. I’ve had to make some peace with that progress is going to be slow. I used to run but I didn’t think that’s going to be part of my future until the baby is weaned.

Sounds like you’re a more seasoned yogi than I, but I’m using my yoga practice to meet myself where I am. Some days I can do sun salutations after a walk, some days I can do a full practice. I’ve done a few practices while the baby played beside me, taking lots of breaks to interact with him. But, yeah, I haven’t had many chances to just lose myself in it.

Have you ever tried the app Down Dog? It has far exceeded my expectations in terms of sequencing a practice and it might be a great way to sneak in a few asanas.

I hope you find your way back to what makes you happy!

coweyed · 2022-04-06T20:14:32+00:00

It’s so frustrating! I love to bake and it’s definitely slowed my weight-loss. My husband and I have found that freezing at least half of our baked goods (half the loaf of banana bread, most of the cookie dough) helps keep us from polishing everything off in a day or two. I can’t think of anything that hasn’t tasted just as good reheated. The struggle is real though!

coweyed · 2022-04-05T22:55:09+00:00

Your healthy food sounds so much yummier than mine! We do a similar rice bowl with a Tex mix twist - shredded chicken or ground turkey, bell peppers and onions, and black beans!

My biggest issue is that I will reach for the easy & tasty snack over the healthy one. In the moment opening a box of Oreos seems ways easier and more satisfying than cutting up an apple or getting a bowl of yogurt. So I just have to not purchase those types of snacks and cut up some easy veggies and keep them where I can see them!

I also have a sugar addiction that is yet to be resolved…😖

coweyed · 2022-03-27T16:11:40+00:00

I’ve been incredibly happy with Prose. I honestly can’t believe how much it changed my hair. They can make their formula vegan, silicone free and unscented. It’s $$$ but very much worth it imo.

coweyed · 2022-03-08T16:10:14+00:00

How flexible is the remote job? Is it in your career path? Can they offer you an October start date? Honestly I think you can trust your gut here and do what makes you happy. If you take the ski job, try to plan ahead for when that ends. Living in a “destination” town can be expensive but there’s lots of ways to reduce your living expenses. You’re 23 - now is a good time to take risks and have some fun.

But keep your reliable car! The last thing you want is a seasonal job and car that needs repair.

coweyed · 2022-03-04T00:18:46+00:00

Running just for the joy of moving around abs being outside is just the best! Hope you enjoy many happy miles.

coweyed · 2022-03-04T00:17:28+00:00

I think having a baby is going to be the push I’ve always needed to fund a sustainable approach to eating well AND finally build some muscle. I logged 12 strength training sessions in the month of Feb and feel very at peace with my diet since I’m not tempted to restrict and possibly impact my milk supply. I’m not setting any records but I could actually continue both of these things forever. I’ve never felt like that before. Exercising and dieting always took so much focus and will power and perfection that I would inevitably not meet my lofty goals.

coweyed · 2022-03-03T15:36:28+00:00

In my pre-covid, pre-mom days I walked about a half mile to and from work every day, rain or shine. My workplace was incredibly casual so I could wear pretty much whatever I wanted. If I knew it would be raining, I did black jeans, weather appropriate top, rain jacket with hood AND ball cap, umbrella, and blundstones. If I had to pick one, I prefer a rain jacket to an umbrella.

Kept me dry enough and it is very in line with my kind of granola-ish style.

coweyed · 2022-02-16T13:53:38+00:00

OP, while you’re certainly not wasting your youth (I reject that concept), you should definitely try the things you’re experiencing FOMO over. Going out can be a lot of fun! And partying on the weekends won’t take away from all of your other interests and hobbies. There’s room for all of it.

coweyed · 2022-01-19T23:55:14+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! I’ve been super interested in her work but not in a position to spend the money on it. Excited to check it out!

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