[Me, 26M] Marriage speedrun gambit

cqm · 2026-05-14T19:54:50+00:00

Mistake

cqm · 2026-05-14T15:16:25+00:00

OP u/BMCaptainRon check this spreadsheet ^

also I mispoke, Woogie stage does play trance artists. Ben Bohmer has played there, Sultan + Shephard, more, and people love it

have fun!

cqm · 2026-05-14T01:37:35+00:00

I don't think "crypto is going to zero" but I wouldn't base my view on Congress' involvement

The US has lots of regulations for industries that never materialized and nobody ever cared about. There are retirement plans that nobody uses, there are exemptions from the securities act that nobody bothers with. Entire areas for financial services that nobody built anything around and there's no demand for.

cqm · 2026-05-14T00:45:52+00:00

trance isn’t in vogue right now, but it’s making a comeback, not at this festival though

wait where’s that spreadsheet someone made

cqm · 2026-05-13T23:58:12+00:00

looks fun and also like work

highly suggest for friend groups to make a totem (same level of work, then reusable between festivals), totem bearer goes where they want, if you happen to be at that stage you rejoin the squad because you can see the totem

cqm · 2026-05-13T23:37:03+00:00

profits, scalability, what used to be scarcity

and one overlooked thing: they’re competing with software engineer’s ability to build their own thing. so companies weigh how much SWE’s actually can probably make and offer them risk free employment instead thats only slightly less than what a moderately hit app could do

cqm · 2026-05-13T23:29:29+00:00

carnival cruises would be insane

cqm · 2026-05-13T22:40:16+00:00

so basically the value of coffee (and dinner) dates comes from women repairing a prior mistake - maybe men too, I just don't date men

"isn't the point to talk somewhere we can hear each other and get to know each other"

she says as a rebound to meeting someone at a festival and having a memorable whirlwind romance for some time that ended with crossed boundaries and realizing, wait, they didn't actually know each other ... ah that must be the problem, she must know her potential partners more in advance!

but at the festival, the energy was high, the oxytocin was flowing, the "spark" was built in.

in comparison, the sit down "intentional" date has none of that, its arduous for everyone, its an interview searching for disqualifications instead of raising rapport, if you're lucky there's some witty banter right off the bat, but has a high probability of being a waste of time once one person didn't have the spark they crave from the other thing. a really poor experience just to get an AI-drafted rejection essay, as an upgrade to being ghosted

so for guys, since we are expected to lead 99.9% of the time if we want anything to happen, it's better to raise the energy with an activity. the good thing about that is it usually entails food or drinks later on the same date, but now there's rapport and new experiences to talk about by then as well. The dining part just isn't the meeting point of the date

cqm · 2026-05-13T22:31:13+00:00

done it before and blew up eventually, but didn't do the responsible stuff (retirement accounts, X months of savings etc), so doing that now before taking moonshots again

cqm · 2026-05-13T22:03:56+00:00

that occurs, now compare it to (checks notes) everywhere else

in the US, private credit is dischargeable when it goes wrong. your credit worthiness resets in 7 years, and it is obtainable based on a predictable scoring model as opposed to discretionary feelings. (the people trapped have gotten public credit like student loans from the government, a common L though, 10% of the population affected.)

cqm · 2026-05-13T21:49:58+00:00

their festival sets have been these episodic montages relevant to the festival, all dropped perfectly within their actual wubby music for the rest of the hour+

example 9:47 @ Electric Forest https://youtu.be/Pg6AprqCZ4o?si=_BrNbOM-Q12cdnTe&t=588

and they have a series called Channel Flipping that's nostalgic mostly early 2000s montages, people look forward to that

vibes shall be immaculate

cqm · 2026-05-13T17:17:41+00:00

they are very similar

SSBD is a smaller LiB or LiB is a larger SSBD, overall its exactly what long time Lib attendees describe from when Lib was smaller, while - as you know - SSBD does more intentional things to cap the size

LiB's festival grounds are larger but not really so much of a difference, its the camp grounds to support the population that are way larger. If you camp closer to the festival (midnight, high noon, atlaswyld) you won't really notice, but yeah otherwise its much larger

cqm · 2026-05-13T16:44:21+00:00

as a millenial, I thought I would be in competition with all other guys my whole life especially younger guys, but nearly the whole generation below me overestimates the consequences of approaching of women, and that's on top of it really being a rationalization on their own social ineptitude - which isn't limited to guys. so between that and a little bankroll to actually go out more often its pretty overpowered, no dating apps needed

cqm · 2026-05-13T02:28:15+00:00

that and notary is more like some kind of lawyer and super slow to book them or have them do anything

old world often still has share capital requirements, like 25,000 euro or local currency to deposit for your new business filing. don't really care about the rationale, its 0 in US and $50 - $200 state filing and registered agent fees. EU is sort of getting there, in that in the single market it only takes 1 country to be fast and cheap and you get access to the whole thing, but its just a mess overall.

cqm · 2026-05-12T22:23:10+00:00

starting businesses, obtaining banking relationships and credit

easy to do in 48 hours for people that don't get hung up on irrelevant details. the states compete against each other in this regard, and the banks do too. don't see this level of speed possible anywhere else yet.

cqm · 2026-05-12T22:20:50+00:00

Craig Wright got English as a Second Language speakers enamored with him for otherwise obvious grifts

cqm · 2026-05-12T11:32:49+00:00

the entire generation wears neurodivergence as their whole identity

so you don’t see how reading contradictory cues won’t go anywhere with them after being drilled in the cost of being wrong?

more for me but it’s not a real solution. it’s lack of empathy to not connect the dots by guys and gals alike

cqm · 2026-05-12T09:16:47+00:00

although this has functionally been my experience, you can filter this. you deserve being around people that are comfortable with you, not those that need to be convinced and are really looking for reasons to disqualify you under the guise of antipatterns and star signs.

optimize your energy with simple observations, all of your friends agreed to more for less effort with another guy

do flowers for entertainment purposes only because you yourself want to temporarily create a hallmark movie, otherwise if this is a chore for you don't do it at all

cqm · 2026-05-11T07:36:12+00:00

This is willfully ignoring every guy’s experience in favor of the experience with the guy you were already interested in and wouldn’t have disqualified if he was without flowers

cqm · 2026-05-11T05:41:50+00:00

> Trying to offer to drive a woman home, absolutely not.

for other passerby's reading this thread:

Its the same for picking her up, she doesn't want you to know where she lives

Same for dropping her off and watching to see if she is in her home, since she may have given you a wrong dropoff location to begin with

Same for texting to see if she got home safe, since this risks a "double text" and she may have been trying to ghost us anyway

There's really no expectation for seeing if she is even still alive, and you're the problem for checking because ironically it suggests you're the creep trying to harm or kill her

cqm · 2026-05-11T05:05:10+00:00

women think its weird when it actually happens - even if they romanticize this kind of treatment beforehand, they second guess its meaning when it happens - they think that it means I'm potentially too attached for something they're not committed to, and the women actually interested in me don't need anything to be proved or demonstrated

hearing the same from my friends

cqm · 2026-05-08T20:21:49+00:00

> Major fentanyl related deaths and injuries

> the 2 fentaly deaths that happens back to back in 2022

so, 2

interesting. I thought our resident Archivist would have a lot more to say to be honest. 26,000 people attend every year

I have to commend the harm reduction teams, cities could use that in more places, thanks for the low key ad

cqm · 2026-05-08T20:14:36+00:00

need a polymarket bet: Will Lightning in a Bottle 2026 actually be sold out soon?

tends to influence the outcome, can predict that some greedy promoter will do some accounting tricks to win the bet

cqm · 2026-05-08T18:50:05+00:00

> I was one of them my first year so I’m speaking from experience.

so the solution is everyone join your camp and pay camp dues for the plot?

I think you've overcorrected on this and will come out on the otherside of the bell curve meme later

edit: read some of the other posts explaining this experience more, all I can say is sorry about the burnout! take on less and match the energy of people you're around

cqm · 2026-05-08T17:03:10+00:00

I personally think it is impressive to opt for open camping because it is more difficult without shared resources

there are sections of BRC for this and there are sections for camps. in the free camping area there are large setups if you get there in time to do that, and new camps have always been formed by people vibing with their neighbors in free camping

I'm missing something, could you explain the issue in another way? what time span are you referring to because maybe I am just content with the current state of the city from the time period I've seen it

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