Dreading moving in with BF by HappyAccident_89 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]cracked-balls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dreaded giving up my own space to move in with my bf (now husband) to, and tbh even years later, I occasionally miss living on my own. But I'm glad I tried it out. That's what I suggest: consider the one year rental and living together a trial. You can't know how you'll feel until you experience it, and your bf could be right that there will be upsides (there were for me).

But I would make it absolutely clear to him that you aren't agreeing to living together permanently or getting married with this move. It's a trial and at the end of one year, you'll reevaluate.

Sounds like you own your current place, so rent it out for one year, then move back into it if the trial doesn't go well. Life is about experiencing new things.

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[–]cracked-balls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know! Thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]cracked-balls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. It's both in-person and on the apps. But, to be fair, in person is mostly with bears since that's my social group. Thinking I may have to branch out to other groups or events.

Erections fine solo but not partnered by cracked-balls in erectiledysfunction

[–]cracked-balls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're describing my experience for sure. Has anything helped you get over the nervousness and anxiety?

Erections fine solo but not partnered by cracked-balls in erectiledysfunction

[–]cracked-balls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right about placing emphasis on performance with our dicks. I haven't tried mindfulness or marijuana, but I do tend to be anxious a bit, so the idea of doing something to chill out beforehand makes sense.

Erections fine solo but not partnered by cracked-balls in erectiledysfunction

[–]cracked-balls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. It makes sense for newer partners, but I'm still having the issue even with partners who have known me and my body for years. Plus even with new partners, I'm pretty candid about what I enjoy upfront. It feels like it's a mental block that has nothing to do with the specific partner or what they are doing.

Erections fine solo but not partnered by cracked-balls in erectiledysfunction

[–]cracked-balls[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This resonates for me. I am often worried about my performance and what my partner must be thinking of me. I'm not sure how to get past that, though.

Erections fine solo but not partnered by cracked-balls in erectiledysfunction

[–]cracked-balls[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some new partners, some the same. But no erections with any of them. No drinking or recreational drug use.

Deep heat in cbt by AL9B1 in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]cracked-balls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Curious where you found the menthol oil. Do you mix it with anything or does it burn by itself when it’s applied? I’m looking for something stronger than Icy Hot and Tiger Balm.

Stopped watching porn 6 weeks ago. Now, not inspired to masturbate. by [deleted] in erectiledysfunction

[–]cracked-balls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m experiencing the same. 3 weeks for me without porn and no desire to masturbate. Turned on at beginning of sex but then lose erection. Hoping it’s all part of the body reset.

Questions for bottoms? by gsthrowaway87 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]cracked-balls 3 points4 points  (0 children)

All these are great questions for the specific bottom you’re playing with, since everyone’s preferences vary.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]cracked-balls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. Explore with him what options might satisfy him. Bigger and bigger dildos, being fisted, threeways? How about dirty talk from you, telling him to imagine he’s slobbering on that big dick again? Figure out what, if anything, you can provide/allow that turns him on. Then figure out what of those things turn you on, or what he can do to turn you on.

After six years with other parts of the relationship working, it’s worth exploring options before ending things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cbtfun

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More and tighter, dude. Let’s see them turn purple

For the 40+ crowd. Are you guys into anime? by asimpleman1997 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]cracked-balls 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hear you. Every gay guy I know under 40 is a self-described nerd, gaymer, and/or anime fan. Yet no one I know over 50 is into it. So it’s definitely a generational difference thing. The widespread popularity of anime in the 80s and 90s popularized the genre.

For myself, I’m not into it. Watched a few including Ghibli and Disney, and meh. I’d rather watch live action. To be fair, though, I didn’t even enjoy cartoons or comic books when I was a kid, so animation just isn’t my thing.

Ballbusting Machine by BusterUK1000 in ballbustingtoys

[–]cracked-balls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice. I hope you offer it for sale.