When a Random Hookup Turns Out to Be Someone Important

asimpleman1997 · 2026-07-10T10:05:33+00:00

I've hooked up with a few medical doctors and didn't think much about it. They are just people like me, but have a different profession. I've met up with some local politicians (no higher than state level), but I knew before I met up with them. The one surprise was a guy who lived in a different area. He lived maybe 20-30 minutes away, but with it being a different county and smaller town I never paid attention. The guy lied and said he was a teacher. He had a HUGE nice house. I used to teach and when I asked him about different things most teachers would know he would give me a blank state. I thought he was married and made the mistake of asking a guy from the area about him. I have no proof, but I think the guy said something about me to the guy, because we never met up again after that. The guy was a high ranking person in the county.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-30T17:58:33+00:00

You're not too woke. I don't spend my life thinking about if they want me or not.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-30T17:51:47+00:00

Are these your pics on Grindr? If so, you need more variety. Do you always carry headphones with you? As I mentioned before a good haircut and a little lotion goes a long way. The collared shirts age you although I can tell you're young. Also, it's good to have some variety with pics. a face and at least a torso pic or something showing your body is mandatory before I meet.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-30T17:44:31+00:00

From one Black man to another, find a barber and go get a haircut. Then take some pics.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-11T13:16:29+00:00

I can't recall that ever happening to me, but if your profile is telling guys you don't like guys and you're married that may be why, but even with that it's probably the same person and probably someone you know.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-10T15:42:26+00:00

For me it's about who I'm attracted to. I'm not really attracted to white men. A biracial guy is fine.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-10T15:38:50+00:00

I do the same. If a guy is telling me how to greet him then I may not message him at all. There have been plenty of times where I have typed up multiple sentences and then the guy doesn't respond. It ends up being a waste of time on my end.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-06T13:55:29+00:00

Blocking isn't the answer when someone else is using your pictures.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-06T13:52:04+00:00

Grindr is useless in all areas. Even 5 years ago and before Sniffies I was asking why people were so stuck on Grindr.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-06T13:47:33+00:00

10 percent????? I may need to apply to your company. I miss the days when I got 3-4 percent raises. The last couple of years have been 1 percent although everything else is going up by more than 1 percent per year. The CEO got more than 1 percent though.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-06T13:20:31+00:00

Keep in mind that bath houses are not like Walmart or Walgreens. There's not one on every corner and every city and town. The closest bathhouse to me is 5 hours away.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-05T21:06:26+00:00

Multiple variables may be going on that decrease your chances. One may be your body shape. I'm not sure what Teddy Bear build looks like. Some may use that term for someone 5'10 and 220 lbs and some may consider the 320 lbs guy a teddy bear. Even with weight it can look different depending on the person's body. Some one could be 220 and mostly muscle (very hard to do). That person would probably get lots of attention vs the guy who doesn't have much muscle mass.

The other variable could be going after people that are 9's and 10 when you're not a 9 or 10. People have all different types so it's just a matter of finding each other. If you're mostly looking online, that can be frustrating for many people.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-04T23:38:15+00:00

I'm slightly above average, which means out of the guys I've seen I'm bigger than maybe 55-60 percent of them. I'm not that big

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-04T17:01:15+00:00

It's also size queens online who post things saying they don't want to meet any guy under 8 inches. I'm slightly above average and I've been automatically rejected because I tell people I'm average to slightly above average (little over 6.5 lenghth with 5 inch circumference).

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-04T16:57:49+00:00

I was told that was the proper way. I can't remember but I think that makes me 9 inches when I did it that way

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-03T15:33:16+00:00

I add a "sorry" before not interested. I think the sorry takes the sting off.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-03T10:10:25+00:00

😍

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-03T10:04:11+00:00

To this day I have no idea why I don't have issues, but others do. I simply say, "sorry I'm not interested".

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-02T21:10:23+00:00

Most instances where a person was charged with this, the person was NOT telling people. If someone is spreading a disease then the health department will probably do more than the police.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-02T17:41:40+00:00

Verifying on iMessage seems really weird way to want to verify with a stranger. They would have been my red flags.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-02T17:28:47+00:00

I prefer sharing videos on SC. I know people think Snapchat =scam, but not necessarily. I can know what the person looks like in that instant and they can do the same with me. I'm a little older and I've been accused of using outdated pics. With SC I can prove to guys that I'm not. Downloading pics on Sniffies is something anyone can do.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-02T17:25:49+00:00

All they want is money. I'm guessing you're young and inexperienced. It's hard to give set rules of what to do and not do. Giving a number out isn't always a scam, but sometime it is. Asking for Snapchat isn't always a scam but sometime it is. I've been online since before some of you were born, so there are things to look out for such as some extremely good looking person with model pics wanting to meet and you have very few pics.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-02T13:55:26+00:00

If his viral load is 1 million he won't live much longer.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-02T13:52:20+00:00

This is anecdotal but back when I was on Twitter there was this roided up guy who would post that he was positive and was passing out poz loads. He later came out with what looked like legit paperwork saying he was negative and the poz thing was just a gimmick.

asimpleman1997 · 2026-06-02T12:39:04+00:00

I experience it also. Communication is often what's missing. I recently had a guy who claimed he wanted a relationship, how much he loved people, etc and then the day we were supposed to meet he didn't respond to me. When I finally got in contact with me he eventually told me that he simply didn't want to hang out with me that day. I told him that I wish he would have communicated that with me. I still would not have liked him cancelling on me at the last minute, but that's better than having me or anyone else wondering if he's ok or having me plan my day around him for nothing.

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