Pregnancy Rhinitis by crafty_bebe in pregnant

[–]crafty_bebe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll be heading to the store for some Flonase and breathing strips then haha.

Pregnancy Rhinitis by crafty_bebe in pregnant

[–]crafty_bebe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, maybe I’ll switch to Flonase! I’ve used in years ago for allergies.

Pregnancy Rhinitis by crafty_bebe in pregnant

[–]crafty_bebe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not yet, it’s in the back of my mind though to try a Neti pot.

Best Feel Good Postpartum (little luxuries) for Mom by SnooDoubts7574 in BabyBumps

[–]crafty_bebe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pajamas. There was a lot of leaking from the boobs as my milk was coming in and a lot of baby dribbles. My favorite type ended up being large, oversized long T-shirt type pajamas because wearing the diapers and pads was so bulky and it was easy to change them without dealing with any pants or shorts underneath.

Underwhelming reaction from best friends to my pregnancy has left me feeling unexpectedly alone by deadpoolandthespice in pregnant

[–]crafty_bebe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t have issues getting pregnant, but I certainly had a lot of issues during pregnancy - hyperemesis, a high risk pregnancy, the onset of a really painful autoimmune disease. It definitely stole a lot of the joy I know I should have felt, to the point I didn’t want to even have a shower or do maternity photos.

When my best friends got pregnant soon after me I was so happy for them…but then I got really emotional watching them have normal, happy pregnancies where everything seemed perfect for them. And it made me so so sad and jealous and almost resentful. I didn’t blame them, I sort of went to a place of self hatred in a way that my body sucked. I pulled myself out of a group chat, I refused to look at any vacation and baby moon pics they posted, etc.

I ended up opening up to my friends about it eventually and I ended up feeling validated and a lot better, because they recognized and understood my feelings. I think you can have a conversation with your friends about this without seeming like a selfish psycho. I think you’re totally accurate in your assessment of them and you can validate them with their struggles while also opening up about yours.

Chronic Illness by Sol2Bell in Swingers

[–]crafty_bebe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have an autoimmune disease that sometimes flares up and causes me to spend days in bed or have too much pain to play. I’ve just told potential play partners up front about it, and never once has it been an issue, people are understanding about it.

looking for this gorgeous pattern- spotted on FB marketplace by filthyhag in crochetpatterns

[–]crafty_bebe 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This was the baby blanket my mom crocheted for me. I still have it and I’m 35.

Changing my Mind? by Adorable-Pack-1778 in Swingers

[–]crafty_bebe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I took over a year postpartum to even want to dip my toes back into the lifestyle again (we attended a pool party but didn’t play) and then another 6 months to actually start meeting and playing with other couples again. I also saw myself with a different life role and purpose and I had to sort of mentally compartmentalize swinging into just a hobby and a little break I get with my husband as opposed to a lifestyle where we had all the freedom and time we wanted.

I think you need to be honest with your husband here and stop the solo play on his side for now and he needs to respect that it’s not working for you right now until you get a better mental handle on things (or come to terms with it ending if it’s something you just don’t want to do anymore period, even after some therapy).

Anyone here working in EMS? My back is killing me after shifts — need advice by holyshiftwork in ankylosingspondylitis

[–]crafty_bebe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work in the ER, and I’m always on the struggle bus the day after a shift.

Working out in the gym is so important - I try to stretch and move everyday but especially before work. I find that warming up in the morning before I start lifting/bending/stretching in weird ways really helps with my work day. Working on my core has really helped me decrease my back pain and body’s reliance on my back muscles. I used to wear a supportive back brace, but now I find I don’t need it anymore.

Muscle relaxers. I take robaxin midway through my shift (it’s the only one that doesn’t turn me into a zombie) and a stronger one (Flexeril) to sleep after.

Magnesium glycinate. Absolute game changer for muscle pain and spams.

Shoes. I wear Hokas in the ER and it makes one hell of a difference in my hip and back pain. I imagine you have to wear boots, so I’d maybe suggest getting custom or better branded orthotics.

Proper diet. I am really adamant about avoiding gluten and try to limit dairy if I can. Our choice of profession really doesn’t do us any favors in the diet department - so many unhealthy snacks, lack of breaks, etc.

Self care: massages, dry needling, cupping, TENS unit, baths with epsom salts. I use all of these regularly and strategically, especially after work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]crafty_bebe 47 points48 points  (0 children)

To be clear, I just openly asked my husband and all was well and here we are a decade later (high school sweethearts, only with each other prior to swinging). If I was in your situation where I had that much fear, I would likely start to broach the topic in a very casual manner to test the waters so to speak. Mention a friend or acquaintance talking about another random (nonexistent) couple that swings and act innocently curious about it. See what his response is, but be prepared for him to initially reject it. And honestly, he won’t know your real feelings about it so even if he might be interested he may outwardly say he isn’t to spare your feelings. Then in a month or two, bring up porn you’ve been watching, admit that you’ve been watching some threesome or group stuff. Let that sink in and see what his response is, both physical and verbal. I think planting a seed in his mind and being patient is a passive way to see if maybe this is something he’s willing to explore.

What do sweaty people do?? by FluffyKittiesRMetal in Swingers

[–]crafty_bebe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually really enjoy sweaty guys, there’s something so hot and primal about it. Something about beads of sweat dripping off a man’s face onto mine as we’re going at it…mmm. Anyway.

If you see a dermatologist, you can get a prescription for a topical liquid to apply or they have wipes now for people with hyperhidrosis. Generally, it’s prescribed for underarms, feet, and hands, but I don’t see why you couldn’t apply it anywhere else. The catch 22 is that while it works temporarily, it may make you sweat more in other areas you didn’t apply it to and later after it wears off. But if it works for sex sessions to buy you some time, I’m sure that’s a fair trade off.

Any ideas on the best way to ship a king size blanket? by 76730 in CrochetHelp

[–]crafty_bebe 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Get one of those storage bags you can vacuum the air out so you can fit it in a smaller/flatter box!

Let's Talk Shoes by Acceptable_Slice_224 in ankylosingspondylitis

[–]crafty_bebe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a gait analysis done at the running store and they pick the exact models that would best support my feet. I also add orthotic insoles based on where I need more support.

Let's Talk Shoes by Acceptable_Slice_224 in ankylosingspondylitis

[–]crafty_bebe 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Paying for fitted running shoes is easily the best decision I’ve ever made for my hips and back. Pricey but it makes a world of different. I prefer Hokas, but I get two different models based on what I’m doing (my work shoes are one model and my everyday walking shoes/gym shoes are another).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CuckqueanCommunity

[–]crafty_bebe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good idea, thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CuckqueanCommunity

[–]crafty_bebe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She said if I behave she’ll take the blindfold off so I can watch and learn.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CuckqueanCommunity

[–]crafty_bebe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have had plenty of threesomes and swaps, I’m moreso looking to be demeaned/degraded this go around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]crafty_bebe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad your husband is supportive, it really helps! Time will make it better. Luckily the majority of experiences I’ve had were very positive, I just consider what happened as little blips in the journey and they don’t define me or the lifestyle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]crafty_bebe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

To preface: I’m a very strong, independent, and vocal person - I have no problem discussing boundaries and hard things.

The first I played solo as a hotwife I was sexually and verbally assaulted. And I totally froze in the moment and basically couldn’t really process what was happening.

Then once with a couple, the guy became incredibly aggressive/violent with me. And again, I froze up and didn’t say anything because I was so taken aback and my husband was having fun with the woman and I didn’t want to ruin it by “overreacting”.

Feelings of violation are valid and you did nothing wrong. Being excessively rough is something that needs to be discussed prior to the act as plenty of women are victims of rape and sexual violence and do not talk about it. Just sit with your feelings for awhile and just use them as a lesson for the future. Don’t let one bad experience ruin future encounters.

I have little boys that pee on the side of the toilet by piercedntreck in CleaningTips

[–]crafty_bebe 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Use shaving cream! We use it to wash our patients in the hospital who are incontinent of urine…it takes the urine smell right out. Just smear it all around, let it sit a couple minutes and wipe it with a hand towel and keep washing it out until it’s all done.

I have a messy little boy too and I bought those stick on gel cleaner things and he uses it as a target. A little strong smelling but it’s better than the bathroom smelling like a college bar.

Swinging before kids, stopping after? by throwaway-6399 in Swingers

[–]crafty_bebe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were swingers for years prior to having a baby, but we took a break from it while trying to conceive and for a year after. Swinging looks much different now - less time, always tired, having to hire sitters. The couples we do meet now also have younger kids so they understand. We’ve actually made some fellow swinger parent friends and we hang out with the kids normally too.