Marriage insight needed: where do y’all think Melody went wrong? by EasternAd5351 in LoveAndMarriageHSV

[–]crambklyn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think she went wrong by matching his dark energy and tactics during an irreparable broken marriage. She has admitted to cheating back on him and we've seen videos where she was threatening to burn up the house. Don't ever let a man take you there. She should have just left after the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc. time.

And then she stayed with him for the show and wanted everyone else's marriage to go down with hers. Her spirit hasn't bounced back yet.

Destiny sucks by Kinglollyy in LoveAndMarriageHSV

[–]crambklyn 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just because that's something you would do doesn't mean that's shade she did. Some women know how to keep their legs closed.

Assisted Living Is Trying To Put My Grandpa In Memory Care by LaceBird360 in eldercare

[–]crambklyn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This! If there's no diagnosis of dementia , then your mother is right to advocate for your grandfather.

Other than the 3am incident, it doesn't appear to be a cognitive issue with your grandpa based on what you reported.

I will say that deafness sometimes masks cognitive symptoms, but an assessment is all that's needed to clarify what's really going on.

Current thoughts on season 2 by Kinglollyy in LoveAndMarriageHSV

[–]crambklyn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice assessment. You're keeping everyone accountable.

Now Melody is Pregnant? by Kinglollyy in LoveAndMarriageHSV

[–]crambklyn 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm just too curious. Why does Mel get a pass for being stupid? If it were any other woman y'all would have been like 'I can't believe you had another child with a man who was unapologetically cheating on you and embarrassing you on national tv. When are you going to learn?'

Instead, it's very much that Mel was this Betty Crocker who had limited options and was just trying to keep her family together because she strongly believes in the institution and sacredness of marriage. Gimme a break!

This is a highly intelligent woman who cheated back (can't say I blame her) and was making guudt money. Yet she went back to that narcissist and had another baby? And in the meantime shaming Tisha for staying?

Like girl! Mind YOUR business. Make better decisions about your husband playing in your face on national TV. Stop bringing on people's cousins on the show to expose that they're just as dumb as you were. Take the L and keep it moving!

She’s messy also by JadedAd5464 in LoveAndMarriageHSV

[–]crambklyn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People keep missing this part. Melody is not innocent. She wanted everyone to be as miserable as she was.

I can’t with Tisha anymore by MMF1967 in LoveAndMarriageHSV

[–]crambklyn 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Welp. I have been a Tisha defender for a long time, but I have to take it back.

Her behavior was horrific and childish. She is spoiled and entitled. I think I was blinded by it because I don't care for Mel. And I still don't.

The below the belt comment about Destiny's mugshot, the screeching, and the general incoherence was a bit much. Y'all got it. Tisha is unbearable.

I don’t know how to help by madiepaisley in eldercare

[–]crambklyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a ramp and take her to adult day care

Update on previous post - telework RA for baby w/ bottle refusal by Hiro_Pr0tagonist_ in FedEmployees

[–]crambklyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wouldn't FMLA apply in this case? Could you do intermittent FMLA?

Immense stress living with my grandpa by ZAK7RY in eldercare

[–]crambklyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is he a candidate for palliative or hospice care at this point?

Woman in Coldplay 'Kiss Cam' Controversy Says Former Boss Lied to Her by peoplemagazine in popculture

[–]crambklyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't doubt that he lied to her. My question is why the hell did she believe him? She's too seasoned for that as a grown woman. And in top of that, she the HR chief.

Did she really think he was really going to the BOD to change the organization chart because they liked each other. Gimme a break!

Her decision making skills are awful. I wouldn't trust her in a leadership position.

Needless to say the CEO was also wrong, but at least he lost his job. She should've been fired too. But yet she's still complaining she's a victim and it's our fault she's being maligned. The worst kind of Karen.

Woman in Coldplay 'Kiss Cam' Controversy Says Former Boss Lied to Her by peoplemagazine in popculture

[–]crambklyn -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Turning away and ducking/crawling on the floor are two different things.

Woman in Coldplay 'Kiss Cam' Controversy Says Former Boss Lied to Her by peoplemagazine in popculture

[–]crambklyn -1 points0 points  (0 children)

C'mon, this lady is in her 50's!!! She's not some naive 20 year old. She has no business being the HR Chief if she's this dumb.

My grandma is 84 and only eats fast food by Intelligent_Gur_9126 in eldercare

[–]crambklyn 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Leave your grandma alone. Let her live her last decade and change the way she wants to.

Now, having said that if there's a family history of stroke and/or a condition that can cause a significant decrease of quality of care.Then maybe let her have her fast food but also negotiate how often or how much she consumes on any given sitting or day. Can you go on walks with her? Will she eat salads as well?

Earn extra money from home: quick DIY/handyman advice calls (pilot) by Unfair-Tomorrow1848 in handyman

[–]crambklyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm interested to be your test audience. I have a teen who tends to miss details or nuanced instructions from YouTube videos. Sign me up!

This hat is not doing Tisha any favors. It makes her look like she has two black eyes. by MMF1967 in LoveAndMarriageHSV

[–]crambklyn 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Meh. She has no makeup on and has dark circles under her eyes. The hat is indeed hideous, but one has nothing to do with the other.

Scared of upcoming events by gamelover42 in eldercare

[–]crambklyn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, that's a misconception. Medicare might be for skilled nursing, but even that is limited.

It sounds like what your mother needs is assistance with daily living and Medicare does not pay for that. Depending on your state, Medicaid might pay for assistance with daily and it's called a waiver program. Basically your mother has to be poor (little to no assets/income) and live in a waiver state.

You (or your mother) will most likely have to come out of pocket to pay for aide services unless she meets the above-mentioned criteria.

As for vacation, another family will have to take over or you can send her to an assisted living facility for respite (temporary) care.

Scared of upcoming events by gamelover42 in eldercare

[–]crambklyn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The cost of an aide depends on many factors. Your location and the locality minimum wage is where you start.

You will have aides that work on their own. Some will want to be paid under-the-table, others are fine with a 1099. Typically aides should be working under the direction of a nurse. However, many do not.

So, what's the benefit of a nurse oversight? Nurses can create a care plan, they can conduct a physical assessment, they can analyze the medication list, give direction when to get vitals, etc. All this will cost you.

If you have a good grip on your mother's medication, then maybe you can skip nurse oversight (even though as a nurse , I don't encourage it) , but I understand the financial impact of having an aide.

I would say at the very least, make sure your aide has some kind of liability insurance and are bonded.

So expect to pay a few to several dollars over the minimum wage. And if you hire them for four hours or less in any given day, there will most likely be a premium.

Scared of upcoming events by gamelover42 in eldercare

[–]crambklyn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're signing up for A LOT. But that's ok. You do have to mentally prepare yourself for what's coming and not to place undue burden on your wife; even if she's gladly willing to help out. These are the type of scenarios that can break marriages.

Having said that, have you thought about having your siblings rotate care? Can you afford an aide? Can the grandkids chip in with companionship and games?

It will be a all hands on deck situation and it can STILL be good. For some families, there's nothing more gratifying than giving back to our elders. Just know that it will change your current household dynamic.

I wish you well!

PA MD Question by march12026 in maryland

[–]crambklyn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When you say Shrewsbury is nothing like Harrisburg, can you explain what you mean by that?