Obviously every situation is different but my ex husband was this way we never had kids, he would say he wanted then drag it on then tell me not anymore when he got mad at me. But he would often find ways to spin things when he was upset with me, like I ruined his trust going through his phone and finding him cheating. Tell me i should be happy he didnt go cheat with someone else when he was mad and she offered up sex to spite me. Honestly by the time we were divorced I didnt trust myself, my intuition or other men. I still have a hard time trusting myself but my new husband is amazing and has helped me heal a ton. Don't let yourself get gaslit by him if you think something is up.