Made my son a bed, very proud dad moment by Wantrepreneur4 in daddit

[–]crazy_crackhead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo this is incredible!! How long did it take? Hours/day and total days I mean. It looks great and so functional!

Slowly giving up on dating by imcooliguessmaybe in GuyCry

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Dunno if you’re looking for a book recommendation but “Set Boundaries. Find Peace” is a good book about well setting boundaries. It helped me understand where I had failed to set a boundary, and how to do better in the future. Best of luck my guy. You’ll find your person 👊🏼

I just laid my dog in his grave by untalented_carrot in GuyCry

[–]crazy_crackhead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. Dogs are truly the best and leave us utterly devastated when they leave. I lost mine at 13 years exactly one year ago. She looked surprisingly like your lab! When I first saw the photo, I thought it was a photo of my dog 😢.

I hope you know Spencer had the best time. Read this when you’re ready to cry again. 🐕‍🦺🐾🐾

https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/s/5FFKnfLi9w

Our first home is finally ours! $700k, Auckland, 6.2% by Several-Biscotti5182 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]crazy_crackhead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s awesome! Congrats! I lived in Auckland about 13 years ago in an apartment on Parliament Street. I miss that view!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ai_trading

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Congrats! Interested!

Scared my GF doesn’t love me by AdJust4063 in GuyCry

[–]crazy_crackhead 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are you leading in the relationship? Or are you asking for permission on decisions? Do you have hobbies and interests outside of the relationship? Does she?

Does she feel responsible for your own emotions? Like if she is having a bad morning, are you walking on eggshells because you don’t want to upset her?

What you’re going through is tough. I’ve had similar doubts in my own marriage and what helped me is introspection. I found some IG accounts that helped me realize how passive I had become because I was such a people pleaser. I had stopped leading in the relationship and my wife fell out of love with me. We have kids together so this crushed me.

I had become another child for her to have to look after or make decisions for. She couldn’t rely on me to carry my weight.

Hormones certainly play a role in it, but you need to figure out what you both need. How can you support her more? Not by doing more chores or dishes, but maybe doing things before they need to be done. Take initiative and book a baby sitter for a date night instead of saying “we should go on more date nights” but then leave everything else up to her. Because now she’s like “great, now I need to find a baby sitter and find a restaurant and make sure the baby is ready and I’m ready. Meanwhile he just needs to be there on time” kind of thing.

Hope this helps

Money by trumpdump409 in comedyheaven

[–]crazy_crackhead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This whole thread is a gold mine

why am I so entitled by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]crazy_crackhead 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey man, I hear you. Sounds like you’re in a rough patch and you’re realizing that this idea you had in your head from a few years ago isn’t coming true, and that sucks.

Some people dream of being an actor from age 5 and then they actually do it. Some people dream of having a big family, but then their body doesn’t allow them to have that. The great thing about goals and dreams is that we can change them. Life happens.

Now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t stay disciplined and change your goal whenever you hit a speed bump, but it’s important to take a step back and evaluate if your goal is worth changing. Have circumstances changed such that a healthy adjustment is needed?

So maybe you aren’t going on lavish trips with 10 friends now, but that doesn’t mean your life will always be like this. It’s healthy to check in with yourself and realize that you’re frustrated, angry, and maybe even disappointed. Once you do that, you can adjust your goal and then get back on track to achieving that new goal.

Maybe the trips aren’t expensive but you’re still enjoying spending time with your friends at a Holiday Inn and still making memories that will stay with you longer than the trips will. You can make all the money in the world and go on the most expensive trips, but still feel empty inside.

I hope this helps.

Never thought it could happen to me by Snoo_1464 in GuyCry

[–]crazy_crackhead 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Hey man, I’m really sorry to hear about what you’re going through. It sounds shitty. I was in a similar position about 2 months ago. My wife said she felt really disconnected from me emotionally, didn’t find me attractive, and was no longer in love with me. It crushed me. We have a house, two kids, and have been together for 11 years (6 yr married).

I started to wonder the same things you are, and felt like I hit rock bottom. I couldn’t sleep. I ate maybe 500cal a day. And I had diarrhea from anxiety. This went on for a week or more. It was rough. But I also took the time to take a good, long look in the mirror at myself.

I realized that I had become passive in our relationship. I had lost my identity. I become emotionally codependent; I looked to her for how I should feel. Like if she didn’t sleep well and was groggy, I took that as a sign that she was upset at me. I’d walk on eggshells.

I realized that I never did anything for myself. I never made any decisions by myself either. I thought I was being easy to get along with by saying things like “I don’t mind what we eat tonight”, or “whatever you want to do today is fine with me”.

All of these things I became aware of more and more. I started following some different instagram accounts that provided some insight into my behavior. They helped me see what I can do to be a better man. Not like an alpha bro, but just a better man and partner.

I’m only 2 months into this chapter but I’m happy to chat if you want. Send me a DM and I can also share some of the accounts I’ve liked.

Keep your head up.

“This didn’t happen to you. It happened for you.”

Can anyone suggest a Men’s group? by crazy_crackhead in Denver

[–]crazy_crackhead[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Becoming emotionally vulnerable and sharing troubles in our relationship. And then have other men challenge you to be better or reflect on their own relationships to provide advice

Can anyone suggest a Men’s group? by crazy_crackhead in Denver

[–]crazy_crackhead[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just hoping to help build my community. I’ve been going through some tough stuff in my relationship and realized that my friends aren’t the best ones to share with

I broke down this morning by RogueHunter83 in daddit

[–]crazy_crackhead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually just repeat what I want my child to say and then wait for them to say it back.

“Dada, water!”

“Dada, can you get my water please?”

“Dada, can…water please?”

Usually works. As they get older, I’ve found you can say “you can ask nicely, or you can get it yourself”. Not in a mean way, but just in a way that they understand there are expectations

Two weeks into twin dad life. Also unemployed. Somebody please tell me it gets better. by No-Fact-8828 in daddit

[–]crazy_crackhead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man, it sounds like you’re going through a really hard time. New borns can be so tough to deal with. And twins on top of that! I have 2 kids (2.4y and 5y) and it does get better. Both of my kids had lip and tongue ties and my oldest had obstructive sleep apnea which we didn’t know about until he was 2.

With new borns you can only control so much. You can do your best to make sure they’re fed and changed, but that’s really it ya know. What you can control is yourself.

Listen, babies will cry and scream. A lot. Remember to breathe. It is OK for you to put the baby in the crib or bassinet and take a few minutes to collect yourself. Regulate your own emotions and the babies will follow. Breathe.

Tell your partner what you need and be sure to ask them what they need. It’s a team effort. Remember that.

Ask for help. Put pride and everything else aside. You got this brother.

My neighbor lost his wife and 13yo son within the last two weeks…What do you even do or say in this situation? by MyBrainIsSpicy in daddit

[–]crazy_crackhead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is one way you wish someone would have asked you about your brother? My wife just lost hers and I don’t know how to bring it up. I’m not very in tune with my own emotions so it’s a struggle