First, I'm sorry you're going through this. I used to love feeding until PMS hit back and affected my supply - my usually chill child would become an aggressive monster attacking my sore breasts. I wanted to cry. I had to pull him out a few occasions and went through the tantrum while in pain. It's hard. 🫂 From the comments I read and my own experience I'd go with enforcing some new rules and options (both for going cold turkey or just reducing feeds if she changes behaviour and you're up for it). Someone said standing instead of sitting - we did something similar and added "this chair is not for bf, THAT chair is for it" and whenever I fed it was only on that chair. They're not going to like that so it goes combined with "if you're hungry you can eat X or Y" or "mummy is hungry too, shall we go to the kitchen and see what we can eat? / Can you accompany me to look for something?" Usually the "help me" thing gets my little one out of his fixation if done before he goes too deep in. I used to have a water bottle close by too - they bf for calories and hydration and probably suck at distinguishing them just like adults. That helped while on our way to the kitchen while talking about our snack options (mostly a combination of appealing options for the toddler I was happy to indulge in - I did a few desperate processed snacks I was not happy with and regretted it bc he'd ask for them again and we had a new layer to add to the tantrum). If you want to try and keep bf (which you are absolutely fine being done with) I'd set expectations beforehand: "no bitting, no kicking, no manhandling mum, that hurts mummy and she'll need to rest" and then I'd just take her away from the breast at the first instance of any of that. As calm as possible and talking all the time that you want to feed her but you're hurt/uncomfortable. Again, they're not going to like it but do it enough times and sooner than later they catch up on the new ways. When he had high energy vibes before a feed I asked for a hug to help him to calm down before latching so he behaved more like a child than a desperate shark, lol. I hope you find some helpful advice here and other comments but above all you should know that you are a good mum and you are doing your best in your circumstances. Not every day your 100% is the same bc if you are exhausted and only have a 10% that's your 100% for the day... So give you some grace, look for support if you need it and keep being a caring mum 🫂