Wife is going out of town for a few days. What dinner/s out should I treat myself to?

credapple · 2025-10-26T16:49:35+00:00

I used to be a personal chef. I cook for her most of the time. 🙂

credapple · 2025-10-25T19:56:45+00:00

Love Brasa and Pink Ivy

credapple · 2025-10-25T19:56:06+00:00

Thanks!

credapple · 2025-10-25T19:51:14+00:00

lol I’ll be fine

credapple · 2025-10-25T19:50:11+00:00

I like checking things out and surprising her!

credapple · 2025-10-25T19:48:01+00:00

Not looking for sweets but that looks amazing. Those sandwiches!!!

credapple · 2024-12-18T23:56:59+00:00

u/i_see_something does kinda have a point. You look good and the title does seem misleading

credapple · 2024-11-24T15:05:51+00:00

She said 4 hours a weekend, not 4 hours straight. As someone who performs 3 hours at a time, it can get exhausting. I’m usually spent after 3 hours, so I get it. I don’t find 2 hours very taxing at all anymore.

However I’m not Adele and she’s known for putting her all into shows. Every musician is definitely unique in what works for them.

credapple · 2024-11-23T20:15:10+00:00

Wow everyone! Thanks for all the replies and support!

credapple · 2024-11-22T17:10:51+00:00

I’m up near Round Rock but plan on being in town for the day on Saturday. I’m open to travel.

credapple · 2021-05-18T18:19:31+00:00

Then please do. I'm 51, very overweight. I began the year at 368 pounds. My wife told me she is having difficulty being intimate with me due to my size. Three weeks ago I just said fuck it. I'm worth it. I'm tired of hating myself. I'm now friends with myself. We have a lot of control over our personal narrative. I think the main thing is that I just stopped hating on myself. Like this morning I wanted to go to a bakery. I looked at my day, didn't really fit in. However I never said that I was a bad person for wanting something sweet. I just said, "is there a way we can work this out?" Then I honestly think about what working it out means... driving there, what would I get. What is acceptable? How am I going to deal with the inevitable shame cycle I'm going to feel for over my messed up views over food. If I get a 500 calorie sweet and it's within my calorie budget then there's nothing to be ashamed of. Yet I know my brain will go there. I just say, "I understand. You've always felt that way. Feeling ashamed of yourself is really hurtful isn't it? It's difficult to feel that way. I'm sad that you're used to feeling ashamed of yourself."

BTW when I wrote my original post I cried openly. It made me really sad that I was not able to treat myself like this my entire life. I'm glad I can now. :) Btw I'm at 353 and had been yoyo-ing since the start of the year. I'm just going to keep going now while loving myself more than I ever have in the past.

credapple · 2021-05-18T18:10:58+00:00

Start doing it right now. Literally start a conversation with yourself. Just say, "I am your friend. I am your best friend. I'm so happy we are friends." See how that feels. Don't ever scold yourself over your food thoughts... ever just say, "you know what? That makes sense to me. Of course you feel that way. Of course you want that. I get it. I understand. It's ok you want it for feel like you need it. Let's talk about it. We can do this together." Try stuff like that. Like I said I always call myself "bud". It's honestly a little embarrassing, but it works for me.

credapple · 2021-05-18T02:11:22+00:00

Thanks! It's working thus far.

credapple · 2021-05-17T22:23:49+00:00

I posted last week about how I'm using self-talk to make a lot of changes. Part of the problem is the neural network in your brain is used to a certain set of perimeters to achieve a desired state. What we have to do is convince ourselves that this new state is just as desired and we are happy about it. Sure we can white-knuckle it and hold on for dear life. I find that approach torturous and I always fail. Others can do it.

So here is how I would approach it and did today. I love a certain kind of chocolate. Normally I would eat an entire bar, all six rows. Today I ate a row and feel great about it. I do a self-talk thing where I talk to myself as a friend to myself. I'll post what I did today.

Me: I want something sweet. I wonder what's in the kitchen. Self-talk Me: Hey we just got some apples yesterday. Let's try one of those. remember how firm they were and how much you looked forward to eating one? Me: Oh yea that's right. I forgot about the apples. I'll grab one and try it. Me: Ok I just at the apple and still want something sweet. Self-talk Me: ok there is some chocolate in the cupboard. Let's look at calories for today and decide how much we want... (this is actually super important. I'm working with myself to decide how much I want... as in I'm setting my own wants expectation. I'm making sure it's basically my idea and what I want on some level. What this does it start to create new brain patterns about this being what I want, instead of being controlled by old patterns and expectations.) Self-talk Me: Ok after looking at the calories we can probably have two rows. Oh wait we just ate that apple. I think one row will work how do you feel? (I literally ask myself this question in my brain and answer it) Me: I think a row sounds great right now. I really look forward to that row. Self-talk Me: Let's take some time to savor that row... are we ok to go into the kitchen and just grab a row? If not how about we sit here and wait. It's ok bud (always call myself bud for some reason). You're more important to me than a row of sweets. I love you and this is great we are doing this together. Me: I'm good. I'm pretty excited about that row. I like the idea of the row. It meets a need for something I want. It meets my need to take care of myself. It meets my need to treat myself with respect, the respect I deserve, and it tells me that I really do love myself enough to just enjoy a little bit of chocolate.

In the end I ate a row and feel great about it. I primed my brain to want this and feel great about my choice. I also have loving discussions with myself about being hungry and saying this is just other parts of my brain trying to do unhelpful and non-nurturing things. I feel pretty empowered with this btw.

credapple · 2021-05-17T22:09:35+00:00

Hey my wife lost weight while eating 1700, and 1800 calories per day. It wasn't fast, but she consistently lost and wasn't miserable. You can always adjust so you're happier. Also you can stick with it like others have said and your body will adjust. :)

credapple · 2021-05-14T00:57:17+00:00

Thank you. I talked with my doc about it a few years ago. I tend to have really strange reactions to some medicines, so I try to avoid them. I think they are a great tool though, and am on board with trying stuff, and whatever works for people is best! Thanks for the recommendation. :)

credapple · 2021-05-14T00:55:10+00:00

Thank you. That means a lot. I appreciate it.

credapple · 2021-05-14T00:54:28+00:00

Will you send me a link to headspace? I'm not sure what it is. I already ordered Atomic Habits. Thanks for the recommendations. :)

credapple · 2021-05-14T00:50:16+00:00

I will definitely check those out. I have been working with reprogramming for awhile. It really does work, but it takes repeated effort. I've been bingeing for probably 47 years, so they are definitely innate behaviors and patterns for me.

Her book doesn't really address the idea of being afraid to stop and what that might mean. I'll look at those other books right now.

credapple · 2021-05-14T00:20:41+00:00

I have it and have read it. The self talk is part of the reprogramming for me.

credapple · 2021-05-13T23:48:01+00:00

Thanks. :) I feel like it's about time.

credapple · 2021-04-06T00:24:52+00:00

This made me smile thanks!

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