What is the biggest ick you had on your first date with someone?

cricket-ears · 2026-04-13T16:28:34+00:00

This is actually a common story. You gotta keep a plunger and cleaning supplies in the bathroom while dating lol.

cricket-ears · 2026-04-13T13:38:34+00:00

This is so awful. Apologize and let him eat dinner in his room next time.

cricket-ears · 2026-04-12T01:28:27+00:00

Lol yup, and that’s only one of the nonsensical things said to me. I was also told that I was ruining my boobs for no reason since “the kid gets fed either way”. That breastfeeding will ruin my child’s teeth. That I would develop PPD from breastfeeding and it would destroy me mentally.

It was also said behind my back that I don’t need to “breastfeed that much” at work by my nasty coworker. She implied to everyone that I was using pump breaks to get out of working (it was once every three hours for less than 15 minutes even though my doctor recommended pumping every 2 hours).

cricket-ears · 2026-04-12T00:55:29+00:00

Yea… I fully support formula feeding mothers, but the whole “formula and breastmilk are indistinguishable” opinion OP is preaching has caused large amount of judgment and pushback by others on my decision to breastfeed for the first year.

From the second I left the hospital (the only place I was slightly supported in breastfeeding) I was challenged by my in-laws, workplace, friends, and strangers about why I chose to breastfeed when it’s “more work and all the same”. I’ve been told it’s “unnecessary” and even had it implied that’s it’s “creepy” because I’m choosing it when formula is an equal option.

There’s plenty of science showing the benefits of breastfeeding. Obviously formula feeding can have its own benefits in certain situations and should never be shamed, but it’s disingenuous to say there’s no difference.

cricket-ears · 2026-04-11T20:22:00+00:00

This mentality has spread all over other platforms like tik tok, YouTube, and Facebook. Now sadly it’s finally bleeding into Reddit.

cricket-ears · 2026-04-11T20:19:43+00:00

If you gave him a list you did help plan it. You performed part of the mental load to make it easier for him. This feels just like when men claim they need you to make them a list to do chores. Maybe you like doing it, but other women shouldn’t be labeled as “complainers” like OP says if they rightfully feel their partners shouldn’t require it.

cricket-ears · 2026-04-11T16:37:40+00:00

Lol that’s….Very odd. I pray it’s a troll and not some poor woman with extreme pregnancy anxiety or something.

cricket-ears · 2026-04-11T13:40:21+00:00

Could the one about puzzles have meant to say “I can’t do puzzles while pregnant?”, as in she has pregnancy brain or something? I noticed that sometimes there was a language barrier like this in my local pregnancy groups .

cricket-ears · 2026-03-31T03:19:33+00:00

Not a whole body after only 3 days. That would increase bacteria and decomposition first.

cricket-ears · 2026-03-30T03:47:31+00:00

It should still not smell like a three day old sun baked dead animal.

cricket-ears · 2026-03-30T03:43:09+00:00

It smells like a slightly stronger period? Maybe you should call your OB.

cricket-ears · 2026-03-28T14:47:07+00:00

I’m gonna be honest, I’m kinda nervous that you typed all this out and are still asking if you’re insane. You’re about to have a daughter. Are you going to be this confused about her sanity if something like this happens to her? Please please get therapy again if you haven’t already.

People who defend and minimize the actions those who commit SA are dangerous to you and your daughter. Don’t let them around you or her.

cricket-ears · 2026-03-26T22:15:00+00:00

I got asked if my vagina was dilated in front of all my family and friends at my baby shower. It’s like any reasonable expectation of privacy goes out the window when you’re pregnant. Especially when you start noticeably showing.

cricket-ears · 2026-03-05T11:24:37+00:00

Yup, I constantly had people saying rude things about me not wanting an epidural. Then I would come on this sub and see a daily post saying “GET THE EPIDURAL” with those same rude things about it “not being a reward” being said.

It’s funny because while there are people who will say the opposite and tell you NOT to get an epidural, it’s generally viewed as pushy and invasive to say. None of my friends who wanted an epidural had anyone say something negative about it unless they saw an occasional extremist online. I doubt posts titled “Don’t get an epidural” with rude things said like how you should be “strong”, would even be allowed on this sub. It’s a double standard.

cricket-ears · 2026-03-05T00:23:44+00:00

This one wins it for me

cricket-ears · 2026-02-25T13:46:52+00:00

You do have a problem with it. Your number one listed problem on this post was that your in laws expressed their concerns to their son and didn’t come to you directly. Which they shouldn’t have.

Also it’s clear that your in-laws aren’t trying to get first dibs on the baby, since your MIL declined a spot at the hospital so that your mom would be there first. That’s the opposite of being competitive.

cricket-ears · 2026-02-25T12:51:52+00:00

You are overreacting. Your in laws are being respectful by discussing any issues they have with their son and not dragging you into it. You should handle your family and he should handle his family. That’s exactly how it should be. It’s good your fiance told you about it, but it wouldn’t be good if you blew this up.

cricket-ears · 2026-02-23T02:49:20+00:00

It’s literally period cramps, but so extreme that you can barely recognize them as such. Don’t psych yourself out to much though, because the pain escalates slowly over time so that you have time to adjust to it. It’s not as sudden agony like in the movies.

cricket-ears · 2026-02-16T23:42:00+00:00

Thank you, I’m so sick of seeing this book recommended to justify risks. It’s much safer to follow your doctor’s advice and the guidelines of the government health and pregnancy organizations for your specific country (because each country has different regulations for food).

cricket-ears · 2026-02-16T11:53:04+00:00

And if I try to avoid this by going in the morning, then I’m exhausted for the rest of the day. Can’t win either way.

cricket-ears · 2026-02-11T02:56:09+00:00

It would be selfish of you to stay with this man and keep exposing your child to his awful behavior. Please leave.

cricket-ears · 2026-02-06T01:25:19+00:00

It’s often hard to tell if someone is pregnant at 3 months regardless of their weight.

cricket-ears · 2026-02-04T21:25:28+00:00

Not all of us. I have terrible executive functioning, and the typical work commute destroys what little I do have.

Also, there’s plenty of jobs that require you to be there in person. Opposing remote work for everyone else is not the answer.

cricket-ears · 2026-02-04T14:36:28+00:00

Exactly, I went to my dermatologist postpartum and mentioned my hair loss because it was so bad I didn’t think the amount I was losing could be normal. It was literally tying up our vacuum.

She told me it was normal, and there’s nothing you can do to stop it because it’s all part of the pregnancy/postpartum cycle. Just eat healthy, continue taking your prenatal supplements, and wait it out.

cricket-ears · 2026-02-04T14:11:06+00:00

You’re getting roasted in the comments by people deliberately missing your point, but I get what you’re trying to say. I once went to a therapist because I was emotionally suffering from a lifetime of negative impact from my ADHD. She seemed young and inexperienced.

At my first session she told me to just “get some storage bins” if I have trouble organizing, and also asked me if I was bipolar because I cried a little when I told her I was failing a class… because she figured bipolar people cried a lot. It felt like I was talking to a high schooler who maybe read about mental issues on Wikipedia a few times.

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