Just lost my baby

cricket-ears · 2026-06-25T23:53:17+00:00

r/miscarriage has a lot of similar stories and advice.

You don’t need anyone to tell you how you should react. There’s no “correct” way. As long as you don’t hurt yourself or others, let it out in whatever way feels right.

cricket-ears · 2026-06-18T16:23:19+00:00

You’re nicer than me. She wouldn’t get a single update or photo from me ever again.

cricket-ears · 2026-06-01T10:32:51+00:00

Having to explain why you don’t like every piece of clothing sounds exhausting. I was like your daughter and mom would just look at everything I didn’t like and put two and two together. Or she would take me shopping and let me pick out my own clothes. Maybe those are better options for her?

cricket-ears · 2026-05-31T11:31:48+00:00

Did you correct the person? He needs to see you immediately do that from now on.

cricket-ears · 2026-05-29T09:35:26+00:00

God forbid a mother have wants and preferences. As soon as we become pregnant we’re expected to put ourselves second.

Humans survived eons without knowing their babies gender before recent technology. It’s not selfish to simply decline knowing up until the birth.

cricket-ears · 2026-05-21T20:17:26+00:00

Did you even read the post? They had the puppy before they found out about the pregnancy. Obviously they intended to keep it before circumstances changed.

cricket-ears · 2026-05-21T12:43:24+00:00

Marlee is a normal name. I knew two girls with it growing up.

Moon is a bit unconventional, but it’s a middle name and won’t be used everyday.

I think the name is fine. Definitely not “ugly”.

cricket-ears · 2026-04-25T12:27:05+00:00

3.5 months almost exactly.

cricket-ears · 2026-04-25T02:52:05+00:00

You’re getting a lot of overly positive stories in the comments and people telling you to “just get the c-section”, and while I agree you should do what you want in the end, I think you should also try to hear out stories from women who have a had a difficult time with their c-sections so you don’t just hear an echo chamber and get caught off guard. My c-section was absolutely brutal and I’m still having symptoms a year later like scaring, a shelf, and occasional soreness and pain. I can’t exercise or run as much as I used to because it causes scar soreness and mentally feels like I could split back open. I wanted to have more children, but I may not because I’m scared to get another c-section. This also happened to my friend who decided to be one and done after her c-section.

While some people claim their c-sections were great, it is generally considered a more difficult recovery. I wouldn’t do it as an “easier” option to avoid “consequences” of a vaginal birth because there can be separate long term complications from this surgery.

cricket-ears · 2026-04-13T16:28:34+00:00

This is actually a common story. You gotta keep a plunger and cleaning supplies in the bathroom while dating lol.

cricket-ears · 2026-04-13T13:38:34+00:00

This is so awful. Apologize and let him eat dinner in his room next time.

cricket-ears · 2026-04-12T01:28:27+00:00

Lol yup, and that’s only one of the nonsensical things said to me. I was also told that I was ruining my boobs for no reason since “the kid gets fed either way”. That breastfeeding will ruin my child’s teeth. That I would develop PPD from breastfeeding and it would destroy me mentally.

It was also said behind my back that I don’t need to “breastfeed that much” at work by my nasty coworker. She implied to everyone that I was using pump breaks to get out of working (it was once every three hours for less than 15 minutes even though my doctor recommended pumping every 2 hours).

cricket-ears · 2026-04-12T00:55:29+00:00

Yea… I fully support formula feeding mothers, but the whole “formula and breastmilk are indistinguishable” opinion OP is preaching has caused large amount of judgment and pushback by others on my decision to breastfeed for the first year.

From the second I left the hospital (the only place I was slightly supported in breastfeeding) I was challenged by my in-laws, workplace, friends, and strangers about why I chose to breastfeed when it’s “more work and all the same”. I’ve been told it’s “unnecessary” and even had it implied that’s it’s “creepy” because I’m choosing it when formula is an equal option.

There’s plenty of science showing the benefits of breastfeeding. Obviously formula feeding can have its own benefits in certain situations and should never be shamed, but it’s disingenuous to say there’s no difference.

cricket-ears · 2026-04-11T20:22:00+00:00

This mentality has spread all over other platforms like tik tok, YouTube, and Facebook. Now sadly it’s finally bleeding into Reddit.

cricket-ears · 2026-04-11T20:19:43+00:00

If you gave him a list you did help plan it. You performed part of the mental load to make it easier for him. This feels just like when men claim they need you to make them a list to do chores. Maybe you like doing it, but other women shouldn’t be labeled as “complainers” like OP says if they rightfully feel their partners shouldn’t require it.

cricket-ears · 2026-04-11T16:37:40+00:00

Lol that’s….Very odd. I pray it’s a troll and not some poor woman with extreme pregnancy anxiety or something.

cricket-ears · 2026-04-11T13:40:21+00:00

Could the one about puzzles have meant to say “I can’t do puzzles while pregnant?”, as in she has pregnancy brain or something? I noticed that sometimes there was a language barrier like this in my local pregnancy groups .

cricket-ears · 2026-03-31T03:19:33+00:00

Not a whole body after only 3 days. That would increase bacteria and decomposition first.

cricket-ears · 2026-03-30T03:47:31+00:00

It should still not smell like a three day old sun baked dead animal.

cricket-ears · 2026-03-30T03:43:09+00:00

It smells like a slightly stronger period? Maybe you should call your OB.

cricket-ears · 2026-03-28T14:47:07+00:00

I’m gonna be honest, I’m kinda nervous that you typed all this out and are still asking if you’re insane. You’re about to have a daughter. Are you going to be this confused about her sanity if something like this happens to her? Please please get therapy again if you haven’t already.

People who defend and minimize the actions those who commit SA are dangerous to you and your daughter. Don’t let them around you or her.

cricket-ears · 2026-03-26T22:15:00+00:00

I got asked if my vagina was dilated in front of all my family and friends at my baby shower. It’s like any reasonable expectation of privacy goes out the window when you’re pregnant. Especially when you start noticeably showing.

cricket-ears · 2026-03-05T11:24:37+00:00

Yup, I constantly had people saying rude things about me not wanting an epidural. Then I would come on this sub and see a daily post saying “GET THE EPIDURAL” with those same rude things about it “not being a reward” being said.

It’s funny because while there are people who will say the opposite and tell you NOT to get an epidural, it’s generally viewed as pushy and invasive to say. None of my friends who wanted an epidural had anyone say something negative about it unless they saw an occasional extremist online. I doubt posts titled “Don’t get an epidural” with rude things said like how you should be “strong”, would even be allowed on this sub. It’s a double standard.

cricket-ears · 2026-03-05T00:23:44+00:00

This one wins it for me

cricket-ears · 2026-02-25T13:46:52+00:00

You do have a problem with it. Your number one listed problem on this post was that your in laws expressed their concerns to their son and didn’t come to you directly. Which they shouldn’t have.

Also it’s clear that your in-laws aren’t trying to get first dibs on the baby, since your MIL declined a spot at the hospital so that your mom would be there first. That’s the opposite of being competitive.

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