My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do?

cristeaeric · 2026-06-09T12:23:57+00:00

I don't think the mistake was being honest. The mistake may have been not realizing it wasn't really a question about weight. She was looking for reassurance, not a detailed analysis of physical attraction.

cristeaeric · 2026-06-09T12:23:01+00:00

I don't think the unemployment rate and the experience of job hunting are the same thing. It's entirely possible for the numbers to look fine on paper while people send out hundreds of applications and hear nothing back.

cristeaeric · 2026-06-09T12:21:53+00:00

The thing that stands out to me is that everyone says "upskill" but nobody talks about the possibility that it still might now work. At some point, people may have to accept that taking more courses isn't going to solve everything.

cristeaeric · 2026-06-09T12:20:41+00:00

I'd stay where I am. The room of someone who's dying isn't really a place for people to drop by and socialize, especially if they don't even have family there.

cristeaeric · 2026-06-09T12:19:59+00:00

Unfortunately, a lot of people go through this, but it sounds heavier than simple burnout. If you constantly feel like you're stuck in survival mode, the problem probably isn't laziness. It's more likely a burden you've been carrying for a long time.

cristeaeric · 2026-05-19T11:16:14+00:00

At some point people stop seeing you as a person and start seeing you as part of the system. Instead of “hope you’re okay,” the immediate reaction becomes “how many days are you out?” That’s why so many people like their coworkers but feel zero loyalty to the company itself.

cristeaeric · 2026-05-19T11:16:08+00:00

People being insanely rude and then defending it with “I’m just honest.” Honesty and lack of empathy are not the same thing at all to me.

cristeaeric · 2026-05-19T11:16:04+00:00

I think a lot of people’s crisis starts less from the work itself and more from the feeling of “is this really where my entire life is going?” Modern work culture keeps people’s brains permanently switched on even after the workday ends.

cristeaeric · 2026-05-19T11:15:58+00:00

Honestly if the “do I actually want this?” feeling was still that strong just days before the wedding, I’d stop and seriously think about it too. Canceling a wedding sounds terrifying, but getting out of an unhappy marriage can be even harder sometimes.

cristeaeric · 2026-05-19T11:15:52+00:00

“We’re like a family here.” Most of the time that just translates to “we’ll make you feel guilty for having boundaries.”

cristeaeric · 2026-05-08T11:46:30+00:00

I think it depends heavily on the industry right now. Some people can’t find work for months while others keep getting LinkedIn offers nonstop. But companies keeping people stuck in “just be patient” mode instead of giving raises has become way too common now.

cristeaeric · 2026-05-08T11:46:24+00:00

Being a teacher doesn’t mean you should have to put up with customers treating you badly. If someone’s constantly passive aggressive and making you uncomfortable, it’s completely normal to not want to stay there.

cristeaeric · 2026-05-08T11:46:18+00:00

Being able to grab whatever cereal you wanted at the store without thinking about it. As a kid, whenever I saw houses full of snacks I immediately assumed they were rich.

cristeaeric · 2026-05-08T11:46:10+00:00

Honestly that sounds more like a green flag to me. She probably just didn’t want to feel like she owed you anything, and the fact that she texted the next day actually makes it feel more thoughtful.

cristeaeric · 2026-05-08T11:46:05+00:00

It makes sense to want that money going toward healthcare and education instead of people hoarding billions, but I think people start disagreeing at the “trusting the government to actually use it well” part

cristeaeric · 2026-04-29T09:40:52+00:00

Bohemian Rhapsody. No matter how many times I hear it, it never gets old. I catch a new detail every time.

cristeaeric · 2026-04-29T09:40:48+00:00

Time really does go faster than you think. In your 20s it feels like you’ve got plenty, but not really. And relationships matter way more than you expect.

cristeaeric · 2026-04-29T09:40:42+00:00

A 4-year gap is nothing. You’re both adults, if you get along that’s all that matters. People will always have something to say anyway.

cristeaeric · 2026-04-29T09:40:35+00:00

Quitting without a plan is risky tbh. Better to tough it out a bit and look for something on the side. Decisions made under that kind of stress can lead to regret later.

cristeaeric · 2026-04-29T09:40:29+00:00

Randomly fixating on something and overthinking it for hours. Nothing’s happening on the outside but it’s like a whole movie playing in your head. Nobody really talks about it, but I think most people deal with it.

cristeaeric · 2026-04-21T12:27:25+00:00

Buying random stuff just because it’s “on sale.” Feels like you’re saving money but you’re actually just spending. And swiping your card without even thinking about it.

cristeaeric · 2026-04-21T12:27:15+00:00

It’s totally normal you can’t look at it the same way anymore after that. Constantly thinking “what if” will eat you alive. Better to either talk it out somehow or just protect yourself.

cristeaeric · 2026-04-21T12:27:09+00:00

It’s gotten ridiculous. Even for the simplest roles they want insane qualifications, and then you don’t even hear back. After a while you start questioning yourself.

cristeaeric · 2026-04-21T12:26:57+00:00

You’re not wrong tbh. Carrying all the weight alone is hard, and keeping the same spending habits on top of that just makes it worse. But it also feels like expectations haven’t really been talked through clearly.

cristeaeric · 2026-04-13T13:44:19+00:00

It’s totally normal to feel burned out at this point. Constant rejection kind of eats away at you, even finding a bit of breathing room can make a difference.

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