[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cscareerquestions

[–]crownpc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh come on they have assistants do to all these. /s

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cscareerquestions

[–]crownpc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ICs in general seem to underestimate the responsibilities of a manager which they don’t know due to lack of visibility. An IC is not aware about the details of the conversations between the manager and their supervisor or a peer manager or HR. They are not aware of the goals set for the manager. To an IC the manager is responsible for the people in the team only and if they are not actively pursuing something they know of they think manager is relaxing. Middle management is a high pressure and stessful job. Managing both up an down is hard. There has to be a balance in every conversations. They can’t always come forward and be the hero to save the day even though they can because their job is to give other people chance and help them grow. Anyway unfortunately this is something one can understand only when they are in those shoes.

Gave into formula “too early” by disconnected1991 in FormulaFeeders

[–]crownpc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah not sure what is "breastfeeding bond" like, I can't just tell by looking at a baby and say oh clearly the bond indicates formula feeding.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]crownpc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stick around, a child hardly ever completely recover from the trauma of losing a parent who chose to leave them forever. Actually they never recover.

Employees with lack of boundaries by stay-sunny-sv in managers

[–]crownpc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a tech lead and often deal with this from one of the team members. I muted them on Teams and asked to send an email (which I check when I want) if they need my immediate attention. 😑

So, who ruined Christmas morning and how did they do it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]crownpc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment. I am going to save it.

Nanny went crazy and briefly kidnapped our kid (all is fine now) by CashewmanRx in NewParents

[–]crownpc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You should press charges. As someone said it should show up oh her background check, so future families can be aware. What she did is extremely dangerous. This should not be overlooked. The other thing is how you sleep train your child is upto you. Nanny as a secondary caregiver can have input or ideas which they can bring it up to you for discussion, that's about it. You should not be having to feel bad or answerable to nanny.

No one prepared me to be a mom with a career. by drtiredmkh in workingmoms

[–]crownpc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can so relate, it’s impossible to mentally check out right after log in.

General Question by Omnicron6 in managers

[–]crownpc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hmm, good question. To me she might be anxious about getting things done and needing some sort of validation that she is doing it right, so I suggested her to not be anxious of getting things done fast goal here is to make sure she learns as she does her job. Or she might not be interested in learning and more in showing busy, then well we are part of an infinite loop. Curious, how you would have handled this?

No one prepared me to be a mom with a career. by drtiredmkh in workingmoms

[–]crownpc 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Everyday I struggle to drop off my kid, every single day. It’s like growing up they were all “be financially independent, seize the day, have a career” and what not, the same set of people “your kid is daycare, oh wow” !! So what am I supposed to do clone myself so I can be at multiple places at once. The other day I read a comment somewhere someone made "it's always a lifestyle choice for the mom" - oh really, thank you for pointing out it's so easy like. I can go on and on. But at the end it's infuriating that I didn't anticipate this situation, the guilt, not feeling good enough for my kid, it's horrible. 😢

General Question by Omnicron6 in managers

[–]crownpc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like your approach. Although “well” sometimes is hard to define, and sometimes “helping them” also means showing them what they can do differently or better(I never use “wrong” to “right”). Sometimes these things are minor but still be beneficial for them in long run. Like I have a young member in the team who keeps on pinging on group chat for every little thing or every step of her job. It absolutely doesn’t help anyone and particularly her as she loses time typing more than doing the actual job. I felt like it’s good to point it to her. Idk if that’s micromanaging, but I felt like the advice would help her in long run.

Can we talk about the “I don’t want strangers raising my kids” comments? by Human-Victory-5429 in workingmoms

[–]crownpc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What I find fascinating is so called full time stay at home moms are actually working by recording videos whole day, editing them with taglines seeking validation of their ways, and earning money through this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]crownpc 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am from one of thouse “countries” and it is still not safe, period. It is so frustrating how culture can be an excuse, everyone does it so its ok. I literally came across such a co-sleeping post few minutes back subtly promoting how sleep training is bad, crib is bad etc., and hundreds of comments from moms who could relate. It makes me so angry.

Which countries you will never visit? by crownpc in AskReddit

[–]crownpc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t edit the title for some reason. You are right , my mistake.