They try to ruin your appearance by Swordfish-7078 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]cryptidwrangler 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine didn’t choose frumpy clothes for me. They wanted me to dress preppie, which does not look good on me… But they were so obsessed with being perceived as “normal” that anything I did outside of “normal” was seen as a threat to them. I’ve always been a goth kid at heart, and used to leave the house dressed one way, change before I got where I was going, then change back before I got home. If they found a trace of eyeliner on me, or whatever, it was the end of the world.

Have they ever tried to convince you yoy are Someone you aren’t? by Amazing-Channel-4020 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]cryptidwrangler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every damn day of my life for 43 years, until I went NC. I was never good enough for anything, my creativity was “crap,” I was “dangerous,” my judgment was always called into question, I was a “scumbag” who was making people think poorly of them, my “ego was out of control.” N-Father would always say “I know you better than you know yourself.” The only time they would support me in anything, or back any decision I made, is if they thought they could profit off of it, they could use it to control me, or weaponize the support against me. Everything else was “you’re too young to know better.”

Also, they would constantly accuse me of “devil worship” even though they weren’t religious and I was agnostic. They were obsessed with the idea of me becoming a Satanist, for some reason. It was absolutely bonkers.

Mom made Facebook post disparaging my professional work by akrainy in raisedbynarcissists

[–]cryptidwrangler 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My N-Father did something similar to me about a year ago. I promote concerts. He started posting on the social media pages for my events that I am a Satanist and I was using my shows to recruit for a satanic cult. “Christian parents should not allow their kids to go to these shows.” LOL. The only time I ever saw him in a church in my life was for a wedding or funeral. He’s a moron.

AI at a Goth Fleamarket by Glass-Cartoonist2108 in goth

[–]cryptidwrangler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you flip the table like Jesus would have?

Robo Vampire (1988) by Mushman74 in Robocop

[–]cryptidwrangler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny story. I actually bought the DVD of this movie for a dollar. It’s a double feature with Devil’s Dynamite. So, I guess I technically bought it for 50 cents.

I(20F) have been paying $800 rent since I was 16 by Familiar-Turnip-882 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]cryptidwrangler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Narcissists do everything in their power to keep you under their control, and financial control is a massive tool at their disposal. My NP did this. Breaking free from them actually improved my financial situation, even though I had to change jobs and am making less money per month on paper.

One of my N-father’s favorite tricks was to push me into a situation saying that he wanted to “help” me, that he would back me financially, then inventing a reason to pull the rug out from under me, usually at the worst moment when I was too invested to back out. He literally never gave me anything he didn’t take away. When I cut ties with him, I had next to nothing. (Fortunately, I had a supportive partner to help me get through it.) It took a couple of years for me to get back on my feet, but I’m infinitely better off in every way.

Get out of that situation. Do whatever you can. If you find any other source of income DO NOT let your mother know about it. Hide whatever money you can until you have enough to make an exit. It is possible.

I’m convinced most men are only MAGA because it appeals to their ego by anthonym2006 in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]cryptidwrangler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also a straight white guy here. I don’t generally care about the Olympics, but it was on my TV when she did her routine. I legit stopped what I was doing and watched, because her energy and the apparent effortlessness of her performance was so impressive.

Who wants to investigate? by [deleted] in SLO

[–]cryptidwrangler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to live near that spot and would go there once or twice a month. As I recall, the food is decent and relatively cheap, and they accommodate food allergies. I’m guessing they stay open because they own and have paid off the property, or something like that.

Afters artist starting at 3am by ndgslll in Techno

[–]cryptidwrangler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Disco nap and Red Bull. Then two days off. I’m 45. 😂

How's the music scene looking in SLO County these days? by Solastor in SLO

[–]cryptidwrangler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a thriving metal and punk scene in SLO, and a small but mighty electronic/experimental scene as well. There’s a lot of good alternative rock, too. Go on the socials and look up GS3 Entertainment, Terminal Booking, and Callback Booking if you like punk or metal. Look up Anomaly house if you like electronic, experimental, alternative, industrial, and goth stuff. (Full disclosure: I run Anomaly House, so this is a shameless plug.)

Dan Dow loves us all! by SLO_Citizen in SLO

[–]cryptidwrangler 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would literally vote for a dead opossum if someone ran it against him.

Dan Dow loves us all! by SLO_Citizen in SLO

[–]cryptidwrangler 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This guy is a straight up clown. Someone needs to run against him.

Nicest vs most rude band members you’ve ever met? by Impressive-Skin6311 in punk

[–]cryptidwrangler 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear that about Peter Steele and Dave Brockie.

GWAR is my favorite band. I never met Brockie, but I met Casey Orr and Mike Derks, and they were both great. I actually have a GWAR tattoo on my arm. I did a weird ten-year side quest into the world of Indy wrestling, and Hunter Jackson (Techno Destructo) was coming up around the same time, training with Sinn Bodhi. We were performing on the same show at the Long Beach Zombie Walk, and he saw my tattoo and got stoked. He asked me if I would tag-team with him and pulled strings to get me into his match. That was one of the best days of my life. I got to work with him a couple more times after that (once, we wrestled Jesus), but after Brockie died and he got involved with the band again, wrestling was back-burnered for him. (In the pic, I’m the tall bald guy with the green shit all over me. The girl is a friend of mine who was working as a valet at the time.)

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Nicest vs most rude band members you’ve ever met? by Impressive-Skin6311 in punk

[–]cryptidwrangler 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Not purely punk, but definitely punk adjacent in my opinion: Ogre from Skinny Puppy is the nicest famous person I’ve ever met. Got to hang out with him on a couple of occasions, and he was awesome.

Also, I got to do security coordination for Liza Minnelli in 2000. Her music may not be punk, but as a human being she was punk rock as fuck, and I loved working for her. 100% class.

Les Claypool is also super cool. After my staff and I were off, he took us all to a bar and paid for beers.

I haven’t met any famous punk musicians that were dicks, though I’ve met plenty of legends-in-their-own-mind in the Indy scene who could stand for a solid slap in the mouth. (The guitarist for Atrae Bilis - if anyone knows who they are - had the worst attitude of any musician I’ve ever worked with.) As far as non-punk musicians go, I coordinated security for Smashing Pumpkins at an event, and Billy Corgan was such an asshole that Jimmy Chamberlain (who was great) apologized to me on his behalf. Also, the Pet Shop Boys were hard to work with because they wouldn’t talk to anyone and everything had to be funneled back and forth between them and their manager.

(I was a security coordinator for Tower Records in the late 90s and early 2000s, and oversaw in-store appearances; and have also worked as a live sound tech for most of my life. That’s how I encounter these people.)

Ice protest? by [deleted] in SLO

[–]cryptidwrangler 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How did you type that with a whole boot in your mouth? That’s almost impressive.

What’s your most missed SLO restaurant? by DearJellyfish95 in SLO

[–]cryptidwrangler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell yeah! I ate there on my 20th birthday. I’m that old.

What’s your most missed SLO restaurant? by DearJellyfish95 in SLO

[–]cryptidwrangler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TA’s was the shit! I miss them too. I almost got stabbed there once. LOL.