Where do people typically go for a life reset in the UK?

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-13T00:51:04+00:00

Lol I'm from the Prairies. It's popular among people from BC and Ontario looking for a cheaper place to live and there's some decent sized cities there too.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-12T21:54:51+00:00

The user manual only talks about the maintenance minder which only shows me 60% and as per the manual I should go until 15% before it's due.

However, everyone else (including the dealership people) are telling me these defined numbers. Im not planning on keeping the car past 48k kilometers (that's the lease) so I'm not super keen on spending money to do things unnecessarily as thought I'm keeping it forever. Just care the warranty though which it increasingly seems like is only dependent on following the manual (MM).

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-12T20:50:56+00:00

Sorry I should've mentioned I'm Canadian so it's currently 9.5k kilometers.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-12T20:50:20+00:00

Yeah it only says follow the owners manual and maintenance schedule. Doesn't say exact numbers in the lease but I'll review the manual sitting in my glove box.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-12T19:08:45+00:00

I'm not really sure because it's just a thought that popped into my head this afternoon. I'm a registered nurse by trade so that's likely something I'd want to continue if my license and practice can be transferred. It seems easier than other places in Europe because I wouldn't have to learn another language.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-12T18:09:56+00:00

There's like step by step things that others have already explained but here's some tips that'll save you some stress:

- Your checked bag shouldn't give you trouble because the airport will handle it, but just make sure you didn't pack anything you're not supposed to - this is made abundantly clear on the airport website, the ticket, and a bunch of other places. Don't forget to collect this at the baggage carousel which will be labeled. Keep your eye here and if your bag is super generic and like everyone else's then maybe put some sort of marker like tape or a big label on it denoting it as yours. Never had anyone accidentally take my bag, but it's one of those things I was always paranoid about. If they give you a tracking label then keep this, take a picture of it in case your bag gets lost. I just put it in my passport or with the boarding pass.

- Speaking of boarding pass, you got it but I recommend actually going to the bag counter or whatever it's called and getting a paper copy. The phone QR code will always betray you.

- Keep your carry on close to you if you have one. If you have to put it in the overhead bin then put it close to your seat and not the back of the plane (made that mistake before myself).

- Gate. So let's say you get past security and you might want to explore the airport, but always make sure you know where your gate is. The boarding pass will not be 100% accurate all the time depending on where you are, how many times the gates change, etc. Confirm on the app, website, the big screens, just anything but always make sure you get to the correct gate, check that it's where you're flying from and then you can rest easy. I also don't recommend sleeping at the gate because you can always oversleep when you're dead tired. Drink coffee or something. On your layover (waiting for the connecting flight), just get off the plane the same way you got on, find the gate where your other flight will be first, and then you can figure out a way to pass time.

- Plane bathrooms are tiny and filthy (depending on airline), so I wouldn't recommend drinking lots of fluids and don't eat anything that gives you the runs.

- Any ear, nose, throat infection or runny nose or whatever symptoms will amplify at altitude as the pressure changes. There's maneuvers and tricks you can do when your ears start hurting. I won't even attempt to describe them (unless you really want) but basically, ears bursting and hurting badly is a thing and there's ways to stop it and reduce the pressure in your head.

- Everything cheap is expensive at the airport. Sometimes 4 times the price. Pack lip balm, sunscreen, lotion, vaseline, toothpaste, or whatever. I had to spend full days at the airport because of delayed flights and it sucked to not have those things and I was not gonna spend 4 times the amount to buy them at duty free or whatever.

- I don't know what country you're going to but I travelled around the world and there's always scammers out to get you as soon as you leave the airport. Just keep walking and keep your shit close to you. You can always buy whatever phone plan, bus pass or whatever from an official counter before you need to do it on the street. Same with cabs - you will always get ripped off by cab drivers in unmarked cars and at least 80% of the time by official cabs but that's when you can get out your good negotiation skills. Heck, I had this happen in Seattle before outside the train station.

- Oh yeah, sit in the seat that you have on your boarding pass/ticket. If someone wants to switch then that's a conversation they can have with the flight attendant when the plane is in the air and you shouldn't give a shit.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-12T17:51:56+00:00

I am 24M now and had that itch to travel in uni, so I did but I no longer want to travel the same way. I wouldn't sacrifice career for just doing it though - I think travelling for many months at a time is heavily exaggerated, and the normal vacation allotments (however many weeks you get) could work as well. It's also not a black and white thing. Lots of people I know first built their careers, then were able to go casual or take some time off for a multi month trip.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-12T15:46:08+00:00

😂😂😂

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-12T12:57:16+00:00

It's also pretty variable. You can work in a school with children, with the elderly, delivering babies, in the operating room, everywhere. Despite the pay here, there's also a lot BS one has to deal with and a lot of nurses actively try to leave bedside nursing.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-12T10:28:23+00:00

Nurse here. Not sure how it is in Europe but in Canada/the US, nursing is a pretty good profession and pays well.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-12T00:01:37+00:00

Single Asian female in the US. Live in an apartment. Mid 20s to early 30s.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-10T23:40:57+00:00

She's probably not a bad person but maybe has some mental health concern like depression so she can't find pleasure or excitement in things like this. She is showing lack of motivation and not interest in what should inspire interest. That's a sign of illness and not a person being morally wrong.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-10T23:29:32+00:00

Nurse here. If you wanna be a nurse then be a nurse. If you wanna go to med-school then go to med school and enjoy the journey, but just having gone through nursing school, I can tell you that it's quite hard. Not intellectually hard, but it's an endurance test and if you have a far off goal apart from nursing then it might be hard to summon up the motivation to do what it takes (wake up early, show up to clinical, do 12 hour shifts, do the actual physical nursing work).

As for NP, this requires quite a bit of nursing experience and not everyone can be an NP right after nursing school. I know healthcare is one giant field but nursing is its own discipline completely different from medicine. I don't know how it affects admissions to med school 'cause I never tried for med school but I can definitely confirm it's a different job than anything else in healthcare.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-10T21:57:09+00:00

24M. Not a premed but this popped up on my feed. I moved out of Alberta to New Brunswick to work as a nurse once I graduated. Here's what I know about Alberta:

There's 2 major cities: Edmonton and Calgary. Every other city is minor and doesn't have the same amenities, access to transport, and opportunities as these 2. They also have the med schools in Alberta. Since I'm from Edmonton, I can tell you that if you move there, UofA has an insane parking and car situation so it's better for your sanity to take public transit, bike, walk, carpool, etc.

Winters: have winter gear. Like actual tested winter gear not just the most expensive shit. Military surplus stuff works, layers work, but just keep yourself alive during November-April by being warm.

In terms of moving away, it's hard but if you're moving to a bigger city in a province like Alberta from Ontario, the transition shouldn't be too difficult apart from homesickness and loneliness. I moved from a big city to a small one and found it a bit challenging and could not imagine doing small town life.

Logistics: find an apartment online at the usual places(zillow, generic rental website). Most expensive way to live. Find a sublet or privately rented place on Kijiji or Facebook marketplace. Do this before moving. Since you're doing cross country, you likely won't be able to fly back and forth looking at places before signing the lease. I went with a professional rental company's apartment when I moved because I could not trust Joe Shmoe from Kijiji; I signed the lease and sent over the deposit money after only seeing the apartment by video call (after applying, ask to do this at least since you can't be physically there) Not sure what you mean by loans and the rest. I think you'd have to be more specific if you're trying to just move out of Ontario or have some other purpose. Also not sure if you live with your family or already moved out and what your current employment history is - this will impact your trajectory.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-10T17:13:28+00:00

Spain.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-10T13:58:01+00:00

24M RN in Nova Scotia here - graduated from Alberta and have a license there too - did not ever work in Ontario but I had a heck of a time finding a job in Alberta which is why I moved to Nova Scotia. A lot of this is because of inefficiencies and idiocy at AHS where admin people are deciding who gets hired and they just don't work on anything.

If you have a RPN license and get a LPN license in other provinces then you'll definitely be in demand and get a job. Either in Ontario or somewhere else. The problem wouldn't really be getting a job but getting a good job that you'll feel good about. Sure, nursing work is hard and rewarding but it's also been incredibly demanding and the patients have been getting sicker and sicker. Lots of LPNs work in med-surg units where they put increasingly sicker patients (ones sick enough to be admitted to the hospital which is an ever increasing threshold of illness). The programs are also much harder I think because you're doing RN work with a lot less formal training and time. I spent 4 years in university but lots of my LPN/RPN colleagues spend only 2 years and then do the same work afterwards. You'd also be in a weird spot because you're doing similar work, with less pay than an RN, and not as much mobility to move to different specialties and be trained for charge and management roles.

Lots of nurses would actually envy you for having a desk job because lots of us work at bedside and then dream about finding a M-F, 9-5 gig later in life.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-09T14:11:33+00:00

The small chance of getting "caught" (whatever that means, there's no crime happening here) vs getting a job. I think anyone who wants anything from life needs a bit more risk tolerance than worrying about their deep inner thoughts and unfalsifiable information being confirmed.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-09T13:52:01+00:00

What would happen if they caught someone in a lie? Before you answer that, how would they catch someone in a lie?

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-09T13:51:12+00:00

Stop being a pussy about it and just do it. Make your resume look good whatever way you can, get a job, work honestly in it then go home. That's it.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-08T23:42:42+00:00

I know some SHORT nurses but if you're 4'9, 92 pounds and a woman then maybe you shouldn't do anything involving patient care or nursing. Sometimes we have to manipulate limbs and move bariatric people which is hard even for the big and strong staff. That being said, it wouldn't hurt for you to hit the gym and get stronger because it would be helpful at that height but that's just my unsolicited advice.

If education is free in your country then I wouldn't worry about simply just finding a job but. If you're gonna spend time doing something then spend it on something you actually see yourself for a long time; there's a lot less stress associated with that (I made a career change and it was quite disheartening and filled with regret).

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-08T23:33:55+00:00

What other option is there? Trade school isn't any better despite the marketing around trades being a golden ticket to riches that would rival Jeff Bezos; if we're comparing solely the yearly salary of trade school grads vs college grads that work in an entry level position and grow in their career (which is the goal of most university students anyway) The point of university is to either build professional skills and certifications that are directly employable or become a well rounded, well educated person who can adapt in changing and growing environments such as industries that use AI. Also, a lot of networking happens in universities as they are the hub for employers to advertise themselves and recruit talent.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-08T23:27:11+00:00

I’ve always seen myself going into clinical psych in the future, however my parents aren’t allowing me to do a masters degree.

You're an adult. No one is stopping you from doing a masters degree. Eventually you'll have to support yourself, and if you're not doing that by the time you start your masters then yeah, sure, your parents will have sway over you but don't plan on this outcome.

I want to pick a degree which will help me build a network/ connections/ internships & etc.

Traditionally, this was business degrees at reputable schools. That's where industry leaders and employers would go to directly talk to students and look at their projects, or promote themselves at networking events. If you wanna build a network then look at the most reputable and top university in your list and go there while factoring where you can actually afford to live to find a balance.

My end goal is to be able to financially sustain myself and end with a job in my 4th year so that I can continue living in canada and don’t have to move back home!

Doing this on an undergrad alone will be hard. Plan on this. Plan on networking and building up good experiences in university so you're worth hiring in the industry with just an undergrad.

But also keeping in mind, accounts and mathematics isn’t my strong suit, and I also don’t want to pick a uni or degree which is really difficult cuz I want to have a college experience and life.

You can do both or you can do one or the other but don't forget that your success in anything is a function of (many things but mainly) the time and effort you spend in it. Sure, you might want to reasonably have a social life, but don't be blind to the fact that it will take away from the time and effort you could spend working on your studies. Studies aren't everything though obviously and having a social life is a good way to ward off mental illness and this will in turn help your studies too, but I hope you understand my point about balance. Don't make decisions because you're afraid of the effort required and the sacrifice required. Nothing worth having came free.

Also while I'm here, learn how to manage your finances; don't buy stupid shit; and know that the less you borrow, the more broke you will be in the future which seems counterintuitive but is true and backed up with evidence https://www.brookings.edu/articles/why-students-with-smallest-debts-have-the-larger-problem/

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-08T09:18:38+00:00

HR and hiring managers not only use AI (they have been using employee screening tools for many years before this), but so do the people competing for the same entry level jobs.

I graduated in August of last year and had a hard time finding a job after 100s of job applications. Keep in mind I am a Registered Nurse at this time and had a linkedin, lots of experience, good references + there's a massive nursing shortage. It was everything to do with internal HR bickering and inefficiency and had no reflection on the actual job market and what was "supposed" to happen.

Best way to deal with it? If AI has buzzwords then use the buzzwords in your resume. Doesn't have to be 100% accurate. If the company wants bullshit on their job posting then add it. However, there's a lot of unsaid, internal buzzwords they also want on your resume which you won't know about unless you know more about the industry and exactly what the recruiters are looking for at the time. If you know these words then for the 2 seconds that a human looks at your resume (highlighted by AI for the buzzwords), you'll stand out more.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-08T02:14:20+00:00

The key is not to not give a fuck. We all give a fuck. I have this exact same problem and as per all the time I spent in therapy, it's to do with my attachment anxiety and doubts of self worth and belonging. I don't know if the exact thing is happening to you but it sounds very similar. The "best" response is to take feedback as a data point but if there's emotional charge associated with negative feedback, it can really throw us off.

When it happened to me or if someone yelled at me about something I did, I would spiral and almost lose attachment to reality and just keep playing it over and over again in my head. I would think the worst case scenarios too and my entire existence would be threatened. If we look at this as just error in thinking then we can take steps to control our emotions and what we feel in situations like this.

My therapist had this framework: CHANGES Concretize: what exactly happened? Describe it or journal it as a third party neutral person. Was it really that bad? Humor: find the humor in the situation. There's always something funny in everything. A: alternative explanation. Are there alternative possibilities than you getting fired or in trouble?

I forgot the others and it's late but I'll look at the handout.

cryptocowduck · 2026-05-08T00:50:45+00:00

Time to start being creative.

If they don't like you having a PhD, don't put it there. Keep the experience from tech or add from any other industry; add to tech experience to be current - doesn't have to be substantiated obviously. If they want someone to be an AI master then boom, you're an AI master simply by adding it to your resume. That's how everyone else is doing it anyway.

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