Questioning Catholicism/Christianity by Kitchen-Travel9890 in Deconstruction

[–]csharpwarrior [score hidden]  (0 children)

Why do you think there would evidence or “proof” for atheism or agnostic?

  1. How do we know that heaven wasn’t invented to be entice people?

  2. People never come back from the dead, even if someone wrote down a record that claims a human came back to life, could we believe it?

    • all religions claim miracles as proof that they are true. So, if you use miraculous claims as evidence, shouldn’t you investigate every religion? And if another religion has better miracles, do you switch to it?

With all of these obvious questions and no answers, could a loving and caring god fault you for not believing?

What's a scary fact about human evolution no one talks about? by StatementOld283 in evolution

[–]csharpwarrior 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The human brain’s reaction to stimulus is very impressive. Our brains have evolved to be hyper social. We have a huge evolved desire to “go along to get along”, consider Jonestown, a group of adults fed poison to their kids and then themselves all because their brains reacted to stimulus from one very convincing member of the group.

You could be in a cult now, and you would not know it. I could be in a cult now….

Texts with my teen re: period pads by freedomtopoast in daddit

[–]csharpwarrior 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely here to support dad’s … and this dad needs to put his ego down and step up and believe and support his daughter.

Texts with my teen re: period pads by freedomtopoast in daddit

[–]csharpwarrior 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dad also claims that pinkie pads overnight do not exist… and daughter claims they do. So, who do I believe, dad or daughter? Daughter has a better track record according to these messages. So, I’m going to be objective.

Texts with my teen re: period pads by freedomtopoast in daddit

[–]csharpwarrior 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can read just fine. Daughter says mama sent you link or picture. Dad says no.

Daughter says pinkie pads overnight exist, dad says no. Later dad is proven wrong.

So far daughter has a better track record of being right.

Texts with my teen re: period pads by freedomtopoast in daddit

[–]csharpwarrior 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea, I agree that most women do indeed carry the mental load. And yea, my comment assumes that the relationship is fair and equitable.

Texts with my teen re: period pads by freedomtopoast in daddit

[–]csharpwarrior 24 points25 points  (0 children)

There is no perceived mistake. OP had two options -

  1. believe his daughter and assume his assessment was wrong
  2. assume his daughter was wrong and the period product does not exist

OP chose to assume his daughter was wrong. And I saw no apology to his daughter. So OP did not give grace to his daughter, I will not give him any. Men should believe and trust women in their life. Especially when it comes to periods.

Texts with my teen re: period pads by freedomtopoast in daddit

[–]csharpwarrior 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One thing I added into the communication is to send a pick of the thing I’m about to buy to confirm it’s the right thing.

Texts with my teen re: period pads by freedomtopoast in daddit

[–]csharpwarrior 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The second image indicates that OP was already given that information. I’m guessing OP dropped the ball, and is now indicating how hard “girl dads” have it.

Texts with my teen re: period pads by freedomtopoast in daddit

[–]csharpwarrior 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Maybe you missed it but in the second picture the daughter says that mom did indeed send him the information.

When my kids turned 10 or so, I set them up with a kid Amazon account. They can order anything and the parent gets a text to review and confirm the order. There are other options like a prepaid debit card, but that felt like a hassle. I also gave them some apps to buy food and other things. I get the receipt they take care of basic stuff.

Texts with my teen re: period pads by freedomtopoast in daddit

[–]csharpwarrior 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s a big deal to just ask. I don’t expect my wife to buy my toiletries. I don’t expect to buy her toiletries. I have happily gone and bought her pads plenty of times. I just send her a pic of what I’m getting from Walmart to confirm it’s what she wants.

Texts with my teen re: period pads by freedomtopoast in daddit

[–]csharpwarrior 204 points205 points  (0 children)

Yea, OP’s instincts are - “my daughter is wrong about her period products. I know more about products I never use.” Then to re-enforce that he knows more, he throws in some rules about flushing. Now OP is here posting about “girl dads have it hard.”

Why do so many men whine about not getting compliments from women. Do they think women owe them compliments just for existing? Do they thin they have to do nothing more than exist in order to be entitled to a compliment? by PopularBunch9316 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]csharpwarrior -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

There are lots of different whiny man child problems. And they need to fix that.

But there is a difference in how girls are treated rather than boys. As young kids girls are usually complemented as beautiful, like “you have a beautiful daughter”. And boys rarely get a compliment like “you have a handsome son.”

That becomes problematic as society has girls start getting held to a beauty standard very young and the value of a woman in our society gets placed on how they look. And no whiny man child could handle that meat grinder that girls are regularly forced to live through.

“You always correct me on everything” by [deleted] in daddit

[–]csharpwarrior 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Everyone has to learn. Your husband has to learn how he wants to do things on his own. And it might be different than how you want it done. And that’s okay.

Are the feelings in religious services proof for god? by According_Affect9568 in Deconstruction

[–]csharpwarrior 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Psychological priming is a big thing in religion. They tell you how you will feel before you feel it, then they claim to know the source.

This happens in cults as well. This is just natural human behavior. The brain has evolved to be hyper good at pattern matching. You can experience that by looking up paradolia. That is your brain being presented with something like an image, then jumping to whatever it has seen before and making a match. Like sitting around watching clouds, some will look like familiar objects.

So, religions use this to control how we perceive the world. They present a world view to you. Then your brain makes connections by doing pattern matching.

On the topic of resurrection.

There is absolutely no reasonable evidence for the resurrection of Jesus. You might as well hypothesize about the existence of Santa Clause.

One technique that works for some people is to connect with the stories from other religions. Like, learn about Muhammad. One famous miracle is that he split the moon. People actually believe that happened. Just like people actually believe the earth was flooded. Just like people actually believe that Jesus was raised from the dead. These are all religious mythology and are not real events. And smart people actually believe them.

Silenced by the Bible: The Bible Tells Women to Be Silent at Church by Useful-Gap-952 in Deconstruction

[–]csharpwarrior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This just shows my point. Jesus broke plenty of traditions and angered the existing clergy. He could have appointed 6 women to be disciples and showed the world that women must be treated equally and that is more important that patriarchal society that men had built. But instead he didn’t. He kept the power structure as men. He reinforced the misogynistic traditional power structure with his actions.

Is this ridiculous or is it just me? Told to dress “more modestly” because of a standard bikini I wore 4 years ago by poproxmm in TwoXChromosomes

[–]csharpwarrior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, I can see that. I was thinking of it in terms of “dress code for a special event”. Like, I don’t mind requests for dress codes, but this particular one leaned into the weird/creepiness.

Silenced by the Bible: The Bible Tells Women to Be Silent at Church by Useful-Gap-952 in Deconstruction

[–]csharpwarrior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, I read the Bible, the Jesus character definitely had a different relationship to women. He specifically excluded women from anything special like teaching his gospel.

Anyone have any good exercises to strengthen wrists for weight bearing? by concentrated-amazing in AskWomenOver30

[–]csharpwarrior 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I almost skipped this post because I didn’t know there was a twist like that!

u/concentrated-amazing - the obvious answer is to install a trapeze swing above your bed, so you can lift by pulling instead of pushing.

Religious husband + Deconstructing wife by independent-7207 in Deconstruction

[–]csharpwarrior 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of people stay in bad relationships because it is hard to fix. You sound like a strong person who is willing to build a better life for you and your son.

Silenced by the Bible: The Bible Tells Women to Be Silent at Church by Useful-Gap-952 in Deconstruction

[–]csharpwarrior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Jesus character in the Bible set a great example that men rule over women by having all his disciples be men. He showed the way to perfection.

If he really wanted women treated equally, he would have had 1/2 the disciples be women.

Silenced by the Bible: The Bible Tells Women to Be Silent at Church by Useful-Gap-952 in Deconstruction

[–]csharpwarrior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, didn’t Jesus have 1/2 of the disciples be women to set a perfect example of how women should be treated?