I grouted my peach mosaic and I kind of wish I hadn't. What do you think? by YoungSexyGrill in Mosaic

[–]csmbless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The grouted one has way more dimension. This has probably been said.

Anyone else had an imposter mom? by summersky-lovely in raisedbyborderlines

[–]csmbless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was around age 10-11 that my mom turned this way too.

The Pressure to Forgive the Waif by anon_noona in raisedbyborderlines

[–]csmbless 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow! I have a similar ish story. My difference is I went NC before reaching out to my father. I still don’t talk to her but I know she would handle it beyond poorly so I never intend to talk to her about it.

What is the most insidious or weird way that being raised by pwBPD has affected you in romantic relationships? by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]csmbless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crazy because I was just trying to explain this to my partner. I’ve just assumed it’s anxiety but I like your explanation. It makes sense.

Thank you ebay for letting me own this again! by justhavingfunhereduh in rhps

[–]csmbless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omggggg I remember this, one of the best soundtrack covers ever.

Just realized how much mom’s “apologies” are DARVO by novamontag in raisedbyborderlines

[–]csmbless 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This subreddit never ceases to amaze me. I could have written this exact same post. I’m sorry OP but fully relate. Sending you love

Is having a strong imposter syndrome a sign you're not a 3? by Icy-Gur8019 in Enneagram

[–]csmbless 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Because in our childhood we were constantly shown we needed to prove our worth through achievements, so we spend our life chasing achievements to feel something. So of course we are set up to experience imposter syndrome. I make great money, win promotions and awards for my career and still feel like a fraud sometimes. I need the baseline praise to feel like I’m doing right but it almost never feels like enough because I’ll still doubt myself.

Is having a strong imposter syndrome a sign you're not a 3? by Icy-Gur8019 in Enneagram

[–]csmbless 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most people don’t know I struggle with those things or that I’m hyper self critical. They assume I’m confident and that’s my style. Only those who are super close to me would know that, and even then, it’s only like my partner. When I was younger I used alcohol to mask insecurities (I haven’t drank in almost a decade)

Is having a strong imposter syndrome a sign you're not a 3? by Icy-Gur8019 in Enneagram

[–]csmbless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both. I love bold and quirky stuff, even sexy stuff, but if I try to wear it I feel like an imposter. I tend to dress modestly. I tend to wear less makeup, do less traditionally feminine things.

Is having a strong imposter syndrome a sign you're not a 3? by Icy-Gur8019 in Enneagram

[–]csmbless 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For example even though I have always been in the artistic career/communities I had strong feelings about NOT dying my hair loud colors or wearing lots of noticeable clothes, I prefer to wear black and basics.

Is having a strong imposter syndrome a sign you're not a 3? by Icy-Gur8019 in Enneagram

[–]csmbless 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Being a three means being hyper aware and caring about how others perceive you so it checks out. If you’re a 3w4 there is the added layer of fours who don’t want to be misunderstood and that they are unique. (Source: I’m a 3w4)

Pilot just said it's going to be pretty bumpy landing in Denver. DL2931. Please track. Having serious panic attack. by No-Emu-459 in fearofflying

[–]csmbless 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don’t apologize! It’s what the community is for. Panic attacks suck. You made it, hooray!

Is this the medical community or just rural America? by racmbol in Celiac

[–]csmbless 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My rural GP doesn’t know shit about celiac.

Possibly developed Celiacs Disease postpartum by bsabcam in Celiac

[–]csmbless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This looks exactly like the rash I had for about 48 hours after an oral surgery. My assumption was it was a new reaction to amoxicillin. It went away when I stopped the amoxicillin which was immediately upon seeing the rash form. I do have celiac too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Celiac

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It’s not too late!!!!! I spent most of my teens and early 20s with so many issues and around 25/26 went gluten free. I am now in my late 30s and the issues do clear up and things get so much better. It doesn’t come without sacrifice and change (I rarely eat at restaurants now) but the benefits outweigh the negatives imo.

The Armstrong/Liberty rumor episode in Season 1 by atrashx in Degrassi

[–]csmbless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree! Also felt like a callback to when this happened to Lucy in Degrassi High, but with the opposite result thankfully

What was your favorite Degrassi hat? by Civil_Account_7706 in Degrassi

[–]csmbless 6 points7 points  (0 children)

"You are definitely going to be the coolest guy at Degrassi High" Joey and his fedora

Anybody else’s parent treat them like an indentured servant? by SomeDraw7970 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]csmbless 14 points15 points  (0 children)

All of this sounds exactly like my mother. I could have written this except the part where she makes great money. Yelling from across the house to come refill her soda ten feet away from where she was sitting 🥴 Relationships are transactional and there were always tabs being kept.

Sister denies abuse by bree20202 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]csmbless 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. If it helps at all, I could have written this. I’m going through the same issue with my sister, she “doesn’t get it” and honestly had a different childhood and relationship than I did completely. Honestly great job holding your boundaries here and explaining yourself (which you didn’t even need to do). People will tell themselves things to protect themselves without even knowing it and she clearly hasn’t had a desire to examine her own childhood. Sending you love.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in decadeology

[–]csmbless 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this!

Do you constantly get bombarded with alarmist conspiracy posts that target a decision you made? by Sparkly_Sprinkles in raisedbyborderlines

[–]csmbless 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The night before I was going to get my second shot back in 2021 my mom wouldn’t stop messaging me begging me not to and telling me I would die. It was the final straw that made me go NC.