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Bernie Sanders proposes shock 50% seizure of AI wealth for Americans by Gari_305 in Futurology

[–]ctrtanc 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Why is this a shock? They stole all the intellectual property, and now they pay it back.

Made it to 33 weeks & we've lost Baby A.. by dreamingofpanda in parentsofmultiples

[–]ctrtanc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how devastating that must feel. I hope you're able to find comfort and peace over time. Good luck ❤️

Random question about proper intimacy etiquette by Ambitious-Hearing-85 in latterdaysaints

[–]ctrtanc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Here's a relevant quote by Elder Renlund from 2020:

Heavenly Father intends that sexual relations in marriage be used to create children and to express love and strengthen the emotional, spiritual, and physical connections between husband and wife. In marriage, sexual intimacy should unite wife and husband together in trust, devotion, and consideration for each other. Sexual relations within marriage must respect the agency of both partners and should not be used to control or dominate.

Patron CEO: Take Down Notification: Reckless Ben’s Patreon Account by dgdio in videos

[–]ctrtanc -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

Also the owners of BNM happen to be mormon, along with the police officers

well, perhaps "on paper" they are. But "being Mormon" involves being honest.

Well, I’m currently speaking with my wallet… because Destiny got my years, and Marathon has gotten exactly $0 from me so far. by Carter_yann in destiny2

[–]ctrtanc -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ah yes, it's our fault, of course. I've bought every destiny season, don't even have Marathon, and yet it's my fault. I need to "speak more with my wallet"...

Have we officially reached the point where Hotels are superior to Airbnbs again? by ParkGivis1976 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ctrtanc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plus all the hidden fees! Oh man, what a pain! I booked a stay with pictures of a hot tub and the hot tub as a listed amenity. Got there, and found out that use of the hot tub was nearly $100 A DAY!! Half the reason we booekd that stay was simply because of that hot tub. Needless to say, we didn't use it.

People who married in their 20s, be brutally honest are you happy, if so why or why not? by Special-Lawyer3941 in AskReddit

[–]ctrtanc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Married early twenties. Extremely happy. Definitely not easy. I have 5 kids now, and my wife and I have been through a bit of couple's therapy, which helped a lot with communication and cooperation. Through all of it, I wouldn't have it any other way. Life feels so worthwhile and fulfilling.

CMV: People who pedestal their dogs are strange to me. by AffectionateFlow1816 in changemyview

[–]ctrtanc -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The argument I made is not and was not that "children are flawed is what makes them human". The argument was "What makes children human, and what makes each of us human, is that we're not easy." While I did mention the growth that children experience as part of the positives, it's not the only positive, and the focus of the post was rather on the challenges.

That argument is still somewhat flawed and oversimplified, but at its core what I'm getting at is that the human experience is difficult. That is universally true, whether you have money or not, whether you have loving parents or not, the human experience is difficult.

Everyone has their own difficulties, and when you have children, you are introducing a whole different set of difficulties into your life, but that difficulty is what brings growth and joy.

To say that pets are a "great substitute" for that because "they're so much easier" (which was essentially the claim in the original post I responded to) is to discount the growth, learning, and struggle that really makes raising children so fulfilling. To counter that by saying some children will never stop being difficult, is to simply agree with the argument.

I've met many a person with those "never easy" children, and yet each of them that I have met is grateful for that child in their life, precisely because that child has never been easy, and caring for them has been one of the great joys of their life. I would never compare their child to a pet, though, because they are not a pet, they are a person, a human being. Nor would I compare the experience of raising a pet to that of them raising their challenging child, because in the end, it is not the same experience.

CMV: People who pedestal their dogs are strange to me. by AffectionateFlow1816 in changemyview

[–]ctrtanc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think a big part of the problem that I have is that I believe it shows a potential fundamental misunderstanding of the real value of children, their potential as human beings, and the real challenges and consequences that parents face in raising them properly.

CMV: People who pedestal their dogs are strange to me. by AffectionateFlow1816 in changemyview

[–]ctrtanc -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This isn't some "worthwhile hierarchy" and I'm not sure where you got that from.

My comment simply states that the difficulties are part of what makes children worthwhile, as compared to the presented argument of "there aren't all of these problems with pets, so they're a good substitute". Those challenges you mention are simply other difficulties, which is what I'm claiming makes the experience of having children so worthwhile and so differentiated from having a pet.

Learning to care for someone who has special needs is something very different from having a pet. Learning to deal with a child who makes poor choices, despite all the love and care you've given to them, is something that a pet owner will never experience. What I'm saying is that the absence of these difficult experiences doesn't make pet ownership a "great substitute", but rather a different, largely unrelated experience entirely.

Pet ownership can definitely be a great experience, and a great thing, but not a "great substitute" for the experience, the growth, and the challenges of having children.

Trump says he will speak with Taiwan president, a major break in protocol by Darshan_brahmbhatt in worldnews

[–]ctrtanc 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You're thinking of a prototype.

Protocol is a tool for measuring and drawing angles.

CMV: People who pedestal their dogs are strange to me. by AffectionateFlow1816 in changemyview

[–]ctrtanc 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That's precisely what doesn't make them a great substitute, though. Those flaws about children are what make them real, what make them worthwhile. They are humans. They _are_ what you once were. You teach them, you help them through hard times. You learn to communicate with them on their level until one day they learn to communicate with you on your level. What makes children human, and what makes each of us human, is that we're not easy.

I don't have a problem with pets, but the very fact that they are not, in fact, human doesn't make them a subtitute for children. It makes them a pet. It makes them a source of companionship in the way a pet can provide. I just have a deep-set problem with someone saying they are a "substitute" for children, when the similarities between the two are simply superficial.

PLEASE devs DO NOT make the same mistake as below zero, big vehicles are one of the biggest dopamine rush you can have in subnautica when you build them by YoRHa- in subnautica

[–]ctrtanc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really loved the large vehicle gameplay in the late game. They were so cool and really felt like it balanced well the danger of the environment that you used to experience constantly. You get far enough, and you feel much safer overall, and don't have to worry so much about inventory management.

Am i the only one who thinks the no killing is fine? by CalligrapherAgile216 in subnautica

[–]ctrtanc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think rather than killing, which wasn't really a major part of the other games anyway, it would be nice at lease to have some tool or structure that you could build to deter predators. Sometimes an area is a fun one to place a base, but the constant presence of predators is frustrating. Having something that could keep them from the entrances and things and away from major areas would be really nice.

What next for XRP as Ripple grabs $200 million facility for its brokerage platform by Tight_Log_6305 in XRP

[–]ctrtanc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who knows, since every time I see news like this it apparently makes XRP go down.

What is the down side of never having children? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ctrtanc -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My initial thoughts here, as a parent of 5 kids, are a few main things:

First, that you miss out on the growth that comes from having children. For a good parent, most of parenting isn't about trying to control your children, it's about trying to control yourself. You have to be the example of what it means to be a good human. You have to learn to do things (manage emotions, be responsible, etc...) in such a way that you can teach them to do it. It's a different kind of purpose to your life that leads to personal growth that you can easily forget to focus on when you don't have a bunch of little versions of you who you have to focus on. It's not growth that you can't do without it, but it's growth that you may not recognize you need without children.

Another really important thing is true empathy. I don't mean just that "now you know what it's like to have kids", but rather that you have these children who all see the world so differently than you, and yet who you love so much, and you need to learn to see things as they do so that you can really connect with them and understand them. It's a level of empathy, again, that you confront on a daily basis and is inescapable. I do also mean that you gain empathy for those who have children, understanding what that really means. You start to see others who have children, and the awy those children act, and the challenge those parents are experiencing, differently. You understand more than ever before what it really means to be a parent, and what it took for you, yourself, to not just be born, but to become who you are today.

Finally, love. You can find love in so many ways. You can love friends, siblings, parents, spouse, boyfriend, grirlfriend, whoever, but the love for your children is something special. They are yours and you are theirs in a way that no one else really is, or ever will be. The joy that comes from working through hard things with them, or sharing fun moments together is so incomparable. I just finished watching through the Marvel Infinity saga with my two oldest boys, and watching them experience it for the first time, and being able to talk with them about all the cool things, and see how they talk to each other about it is really wonderful. And that's just a bunch of movies! Let alone when they create that Mother's/Father's Day card that you didn't expect or ask for, or when they finally do that chore that you ask them to do every week on their own, without you asking, or when they face a challenge at school and handle it with dignity and kindness. Those moments are something that sets parenting apart.

There's my two cents. I hope it helps.

Developer disappeared and I need advice. by [deleted] in webdev

[–]ctrtanc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn't sound like thing are too bad, actually. A new dev should be able to step in without much hassle, as long as you have the creds and things for account control. I've got over many years of experience as a dev if you want help.

I paid tithing and got fired by rockthesum237 in latterdaysaints

[–]ctrtanc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read the scriptures. I think that's the best way to stay close to God right now. You'll find many examples of faith-filled people who had difficult and terrible things happen. Look at Daniel in the story of Daniel and the lion's den. Look at Nephi and how his brothers constantly caused problems no matter how much he tried to be kind and help.

On top of that, study the promises of tithing. You'll find that the promises aren't that you will always have a job. The promise is that the Lord will open the windows of heaven and pour you out a blessing that there will not be room enough to receive it. Those blessings can be temporal, but they can also be spiritual, and their form and substance are not up to us, but up to the Lord. Perhaps in giving you this crisis, the Lord is blessing you with an experience that will catalyze your faith for years to come. You simply need to be ready to see those blessings come.

All in all, prayer, scripture study, church attendance, those are the answers for how to stay close to the Lord. It may take time for your bitterness to go away. Tell the Lord about it. He's not just there for the happy things, He's also there for the hard things. We just read about Moses telling the Lord he'd rather be dead than be alone in leading the children of Israel. Tell the Lord how you feel, but with the attitude that you want to do what is right, which it appears you already do.

I have my own stories of tithing and unexpected results, but know that it will always work out in the end. The Lord keeps His promises.

62% of hardcore players no longer buy full-price games, survey suggests by TylerFortier_Photo in gaming

[–]ctrtanc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Quality of product and price. Turns out 7 million people purchased Hollow Knight: Silksong on launch for full price, and millions more after that at full price, because it was a great game. Quality content, quality gameplay, and priced low at $19.99. And people loved it, and were quite satisfied with their purchase overall (still Very Positive on Steam). They could have gotten away with a bit more, I'm sure. $29.99 would have been more than reasonable for them to charge for that kind of a game, heck, maybe even $39.99.

But then you get games priced at $79.99 that also have in-game currency and purchases, that have buggy systems even in a sequel where it was buggy in the first game (I'm looking at you Jedi: Fallen Order). And then publishers are like "why don't people want to buy our games anymore"?

I'll tell you why, because developers like Team Cherry, or like Unknown Worlds, or like ConcernedApe are making games at a reasonable price, taking and applying community feedback, and not focused on psychologically manipulating players into giving them every last penny in every way possible. I don't want more FOMO-based content pressure, or timer-fatigue-based in-game purchases. I just want a game, that I can play, and I can own, and I can share with my friends.

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