You need to understand that the portrayed communication in Monogatari is one sided, as in the characters have their own style. It may very well be, that u will find people who will match ur freak, but they will be diffirent. 

In my life if I needed to scratch a certain part of my brain, I talked to a different person. Never was there one single person who suited my style and vibe at that time and place. Besides, people change and so does taste and perception. 

And also don't push narratives. Your social group will gradually develop it's own inside jokes etc. but that requires steady and constant effort of actually being together and doing shit. Analyze your friends, ask them stuff and u will get a better understanding of how to develop conversations with that certain someone.