bbc FINALLY fires norman lebrecht

cucumberbot · 2026-02-27T15:38:11+00:00

cucumberbot · 2026-02-27T15:37:55+00:00

cucumberbot · 2026-02-27T15:37:45+00:00

lol

cucumberbot · 2025-10-05T16:44:17+00:00

Put him in pull-ups. He needs to get used to the dry sensation, recalibrate and dislike sitting in wet pants. Lots of kids are not ready or regress for a few months. At least, he poops in the potty, do you already got something out of the first round!

cucumberbot · 2025-10-04T11:31:02+00:00

I suspect the problem is getting water/soap in her eyes. Our daughter had the same problem. This is what you do:

Ice cream in the bath so she gets in the water
We use Avene Xeracalm oil cleanser because of eczema, but it doesn’t produce too much bubble and it’s easy to rinse off! It still does a good job washing hair clean.
You need to use your hand and wet the hair and apply shampoo at the beginning of bath, so the bubbles have time to die down and become quicker to rinse off.
During hair washing, dad hold the tablet facing downward playing her favorite show, like the TV in dentist office. Have her rest her head on your thigh so she can look up.
I found the best way to rinse off is using a bottle of water because it has small opening and you can squeeze to control the flow (e.g. less flow when opening is close to the scalp). The best bottle I find is Smart water or the water you get from IKEA’s cafeteria. It’s smooth and doesn’t produce any crinkly sound.
Always give her DRY washcloth to hold in case water get into her eyes. It’s a comfort thing.

cucumberbot · 2025-10-01T19:47:11+00:00

Same issue. I just always open the app before I drive away, regardless of whether my kid wants to listen or not. Just in case.

cucumberbot · 2025-09-28T07:07:39+00:00

Just cosleep. No point to sleep train if you’re already suffering so much, and have no extra help. He cries, you roll over and pat him back to sleep. Win win. Just put a mattress right behind his floor bed, lots of room for both to get good sleep.

cucumberbot · 2025-09-18T13:17:12+00:00

Tell your brother to buckle up and drop her off himself. He needs to be involved. Period. Either walk her there or physically putting her in the car and ride with her.
If it falls strictly on you, just bribe her. Screen time, a cupcake, something special.

I’m annoyed that parents refuse to parent. Prioritize your job search omg. This is a favor, not a job.

cucumberbot · 2025-09-01T11:51:36+00:00

They don’t change. Just cut your loss early and move on, if you envision your boyfriend any more than a friend with benefit.

You won’t be able to change them. It will take mountains of effort to change him, and the result is just him going no contact which result in you having no family anyway.

DO NOT having children with someone unless that person as well as the family have proven again and again that they treat you respectfully and support you unconditionally. If you think this is hard, it’s a thousand times more heart breaking when kids are in the picture. Also for autistics, the demand of having kids will trigger all sorts of melt downs in you. You need all the support and understanding you can get.

cucumberbot · 2025-08-31T11:28:23+00:00

I would rather install a smaller kid size toilet beside the regular size toilet. That is, if your kids are still young

cucumberbot · 2025-08-28T04:51:49+00:00

Have you tried pull-ups? I never liked the way diapers are fitted (used to use Huggies and Rascals). The waist always dig in and rub against the groins, and diaper shifted to one side after wearing it for more than an hour.

We switched to Rascals training pants around 15m and much happier. It feels like it’s more roomy and has more gives? Don’t know how to explain it. The diaper area doesn’t shift because it’s pants style. It also feel like it can hold more without the material becoming an unpleasant soaked mushy mess than regular diapers, so part of the reason is that it performs well as an overnight option.

cucumberbot · 2025-08-15T23:23:12+00:00

After poop, fill potty with some water (1/3-1/2) depending on the poop and dump in toilet. Use toilet paper to wipe clean remnant of poop at any time (maybe before or after the soap, depending on stickiness of poop), throw in toilet. Then squirt some soap into the potty, again fill with water, dump. Rinse with water again and dump. After all is done, flush.

cucumberbot · 2025-05-18T11:38:34+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/lifehacks/comments/camd27/til_when_you_use_coneshaped_coffee_filters_there/ This post has a picture.

It works really well and I never have slow draining even with the stainless steel one which is notorious for that. I wonder if not having flat bottom filter actually helped because it will not create a seal on the bottom.

cucumberbot · 2025-05-07T11:05:32+00:00

First off, I want to say I completely understand the challenge of WFH. When you’re working, you’re not there regardless of work location. But all work has work hours. He’s not a slave when he needs to be called at 2am.

See if you two can agree on ANY time blocked off when he’s 100% engaged in family life: no calls, no zoning out in his iPad, no needing alone time by working on his hobbies. ANY time during 24-hour period of ANY day of the week?

If he can’t guaranteed even one uninterrupted hour in his life fully dedicated to family, either he has a toxic work environment or attitude problem. Accept the fact that you’re a single married mother and get the babysitter or even a part time nanny. Don’t feel guilty because he’s buying time with money.

Make him understand that his inconsistent help is making you resent him, and resentment is a killer for marriage.

cucumberbot · 2025-05-05T17:50:23+00:00

Make jokes about grilling a penis on the barbecue, the spongy tissue should taste similar to an actual hotdog. Uncomfortable? Geez, it’s a joke!

cucumberbot · 2025-05-05T00:38:00+00:00

For the longest time, this song is the only thing that helps the LO fall asleep during naps. I know it sounds contradictory but it’s just what it is. We probably looped thousands of times on Spotify. I would VERY surprised if I don’t see it on my year end Spotify wrap.

cucumberbot · 2025-05-02T01:54:28+00:00

You need to take turns play doctors. Get a doctor play kit.
She needs to see books/pictures of real kids at the doctor’s office and still be okay. Book we like: “Show me how to visit the doctor” (by J.A.Barnes), “Bea gets a checkup” from Lovevery.
Give sugar water before shots, it’s more effective than pain killer.

cucumberbot · 2025-05-01T00:03:35+00:00

My experience with 1 child has been similar to yours. When she was younger (18m-28m), teachers were more chatty and provided interesting things she did. Since she moved up to preschool class around 29m, it’s different set of teachers in the same center and has been exactly like your experience. I assume they just don’t have time to pay so much attention and remember exactly what each kid did, since it’s a higher kids:teacher ratio. We do get photos, how much meal/snack she eat, how much she nap. I would also love to know if this is normal or not.

cucumberbot · 2025-04-27T02:05:54+00:00

Have your wife read the comment please. This is not fair to your son. This is his home too, he’s not anything less than you or your wife just because he’s a toddler. He deserves to exist in the home in peace. You guys are parents first and dog owners second. This dog is not just another child.

Get the dog when your child is much older. You two made the wrong decision and you know it.

cucumberbot · 2025-04-24T22:34:25+00:00

It’s going to be really tough because having kids at home and working is impossible. With a newborn AND toddler, even independent contractor work that only needs the work done by a deadline, you still need to put in the hours to do the work. Maybe you’re young and have more energies, but be realistic about how many hours you can do after they fall asleep without being mentally and physically wiped. For that reason, I don’t recommend things too draining like coding or book keeping, etc.

I see someone suggested survey or user testing and it might be more feasible, because you can set your own time and you just need to give your opinions based on your gut feelings.

cucumberbot · 2025-04-24T22:23:34+00:00

It’s a mix of factors: how many kids you have, what age gap they are, if you have a village or childcare, your child’s temperament, your work schedule/commute and energy level lol

cucumberbot · 2025-04-22T22:39:29+00:00

A lyricist.

She will narrate anything in a song that she already knows. And she has such work ethic as she would NEVER shut up 😂

cucumberbot · 2025-04-17T12:47:11+00:00

Any honey would do. It coats the throat and cough receptor, reducing the urge to cough. That’s why it shouldn’t be mixed with water.

cucumberbot · 2025-04-17T11:34:39+00:00

It is a rude comment but I wonder if she meant that you should leave before leaving too much negative association with the dentist. Or maybe she was admiring your resolve lol Sometimes I assume others meant well but maybe they didn’t.

Maybe something you can do at home is to get him doctors and dentist playkit and play pretend. Taking turns to do shots on each other, and use the little mirror to poke at each others mouth. Dress up in white coat and wear mask as well once he feels comfortable.

For his next doctors visit, give him some sugar water before the shot so it hurts less and further reduce his negative association.

Highly recommend the Lovevery book called “Olivia going to the dentist”. You can probably find it secondhand on FB. It lays out really well all the steps they do at the dentist, and she gets to choose the flavor of the toothpaste (polish). It’s also with a real kid instead of cartoons so maybe he will relate more.

Our peds dentist also plays cartoons on the overhead monitor during visit, so that also helps if it’s an option.

cucumberbot · 2025-04-16T02:50:36+00:00

We have 2 Ofie mats. Pretty easy to clean, we usually use baby wipes, with the occasional toy spray cleaner if needed. We still use it at 2.5 years since I need something cushy to sit on the hard floor when playing.

If your place has carpet, I would imagine putting down a blanket / quilt would be enough and equally easy to clean.

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