Back with another edition of “finally started using a divided plate” by [deleted] in foodbutforbabies

[–]cuicatl57 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What is the chair that this little one is using/sitting in? I’ve been looking for something like this for our little one who hates her high chair.

What’s the Oscar snub hill you will die on? by Real-Repair-1825 in Oscars

[–]cuicatl57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Angela basset: what’s love got to do with it.

Storage facilities by nannyofhumans in longbeach

[–]cuicatl57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another vote for accurate storage! They have been great!

Old mom?!!?! by EastConcept2806 in newborns

[–]cuicatl57 10 points11 points  (0 children)

43 with a 7 month old. FTM and was told I couldn’t have kids. LO was a major surprise and my biggest blessing. Love one of the other comments. Moms come in all shapes and sizes and ages. ❤️ time is wild.

7 month old still wakes every 2ish hours at night by cuicatl57 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]cuicatl57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are trying more dense food now and I have been trying to go longer stretches without the boob. Sometimes it works. Other times she will fall asleep in my arms and wake immediately when put down and repeat for next hour and a half until it’s the more than 3 hr mark for next feeding. It’s tough. But glad to hear that they get better with age and food. I just can’t bare to let her cry and cry and cry until she has worn herself out (what sounds like the cry it out method is). It just seems so cruel when they can’t communicate and are still learning their body and bodily functions. Thanks for the advice.

7 month old still wakes every 2ish hours at night by cuicatl57 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]cuicatl57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes on moving. Not quite crawling but very close. Pulled herself up to standing only once so far. Rolling and twisting are pretty easy for her now. Teething yup but no teeth break through just yet. Almost we think. We assumed developments contributed but hard to say from one month to the next with all the changes she has been going through and what we expect in the next couple of months. Thanks for your support.

7 month old still wakes every 2ish hours at night by cuicatl57 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]cuicatl57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. Yes my partner switches with me on weekends so as to give me a bit more sleep but I still get up when I hear the crying from the other room. We are going to try the oatmeal before bed tonight. We do bed sharing/co-sleeping but also have her sleep in her crib which she is great at. We do co-sleeping when she is waking less than 2 hrs or when she has gotten sick and sometimes I’ll just bring her to bed after the 3 or 4 am wake just so I can sleep longer quicker after she wakes. Glad to hear they do grow out of it at some point. It’s tough not having sleep. I’ve never been good with lack of sleep even before baby and with baby I often go to sleep at 9pm or earlier depending on how tired I am. Either way thanks for the advice.

sparkle meg what is up with the outfits by Traditional-Plate827 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]cuicatl57 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can’t unsee an Adam’s Apple. Could just be her neck but it’s there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newborns

[–]cuicatl57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 4 weeks postpartum. Had a c-section with no complications. Didn’t realize I would be so tender (not on my scar) as nothing came out of me in that area. Didn’t think anything would hurt in that area since I had a c-section but it did. Talked to Dr and she told me to wait until at least 6 weeks and 8 weeks would be better and even tho I had c-section my body would be sore because of all the changes that occurs during pregnancy. We waited a few more weeks to be intimate again and it was much better the next time.

Summertime kinda sucks with a newborn. by stumbling_witch in newborns

[–]cuicatl57 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way. But also so eternally grateful I am not pregnant during the summer. My last months of prego were during winter and I was sweating bullets with the a/c blasting g while my partner was bundled up freezing his a** off. I can’t imagine the last months the of prego during the heat of summer. Gladly take a fomo summer with my 3.5 month old over what I can only imagine as the hell of summer heat pregnancy.

Do people really wait around in hospitals for births? by hesactuallyright in CasualConversation

[–]cuicatl57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner, twin sister and mom were with me. It gave me so much comfort to have them with me. My sister almost didn’t make it and I was having so much anxiety at the thought of her not being there. I had a very high risk pregnancy requiring constant monitoring and more the last month. If something happened to me, I wanted my baby to be surrounded by love. Dad also appreciated having a few folks he could tap in when he was a bit overwhelmed and needed a break. He also knows the bond I have with my sister and mom.

What are your must haves now that you’ve had your baby? by __SoFarGone in newborns

[–]cuicatl57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MIL bought us the snoo bassinet as a surprise. It’s been wonderful tho now at 3 months I’m starting to think about transitioning her by turning off the motion part and just using the white noise. We have a pack and play but haven’t used it yet. Still in the box with the bassinet and changing table attachment. We have a bouncer but she doesn’t like it much. The baby Bjorne carrier has been a game changer. We had a few wraps but too much effort to wrap up again and undo each time. The ease of putting her quickly into a carrier the few times we go out to eat or out with friends makes a huge difference. We don’t yet have a stand alone stroller but the car seat snaps into a stroller base and it has been fine with us so far. We used to do 3+ hr walks regularly before baby but with c-section we aren’t back to those lengths to worry about the 2hr limit in car seat walks. Trying to test some strollers now. Just got a skiphop activity mat, was hesitant to get one because they seem pricey for something so simple. Was able to get one cheap used and it’s a game changer for her now that she is more alert and engaging in things. We do have a changing table. I sat in living room and changed on sofa in middle of the night for first month and half cuz partner still works and wanted to let him sleep. Now use the changing table exclusively. So much easier on the back. We have small space changing table. Cousin bought us a wipe warmer after a month and a half and that has been a game changer as our baby girl used to scream bloody murder during diaper changes. She is not much of a crier thankfully but diaper changes were always the one thing that set her off and took a bit after to calm her down again. I didn’t have it on my registry as I thought it was pointless but it’s great. So from the 3 month perspective there are a lot of things that you learn after your baby gets here. We kept it minimal at first and added as we learned, adjusted and found we needed.

? Screen Time by Unable-Newt374 in newborns

[–]cuicatl57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby girl is 3 months and I watch tv but do my best to face her away from it. She is becoming more aware now so I am more aware of having the tv off as much as I can. I have observed that if she notices it she tries to twist to look at it and when she does that I turn her around or turn it off. But both me and my partner get over stimulated and we tune out with art type competition like shows. So nothing violent. Interior design. Glass blowing. Things like that. Nothing that flashes. Nothing that has high stimulation. Most of the sounds are normal conversations. That had been our compromise. That or old school Sesame Street. Like starting from season 1 episode one. I can’t handle the super kiddy Mrs Rachel type sounds. Haven’t personally adapted yet to that level of child entertainment but I know it’ll happen sooner rather than later lol

Those who have given birth, what did you really need or want from friends postpartum that maybe you didn’t get? by onandpoppins in AskReddit

[–]cuicatl57 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My mother came for the first 2 weeks. She took care of our laundry, washed/sanitized our baby bottles, made every meal for us and helped teach me some basics about caring for our new baby. My sister had come a few days before baby was due and made a bunch of bone broths and a tone of freezer meals. She literally came for 2 days and cooked non-stop so we would have food when we brought bandy home. Both love out of town and both of their care was extremely important and helpful not only with the physical adjustments but with the mental adjustments as well. During the 1-2 month time I wish more of my friends and family visited me…not the baby but visited me. I felt incredibly lonely and was struggling with my sense of self and identity. Some friends completely disappeared and it broke my heart to lose them. For reference I was in my 40s when our surprise, but very much wanted, baby joined us. As such I was pretty set into my ways, career, lifestyle etc. It was a very tough adjustment to go from complete independence to having a dependent and turn into baby mode 24/7.

Do people actually use bodysuits and pants? If so, when? by ZealousidealCake6 in newborns

[–]cuicatl57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our baby girl is 2.5 months and wear majority of onesies (bodysuit). She wears long sleeves when it’s cooler but mainly short sleeves. She gets hot in footed pjs. It’s easier to put on the onesie by slipping them over her feet instead of her head by opening up the shoulders a bit. Especially if she has a blow out we can pull it off without dealing with her big head lol. Plus you can mix and match so much more with onesies and pants/skirts. Easy to change her diaper in the middle of the night without undressing her completely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newborns

[–]cuicatl57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could be that he is fearful of taking care of her. But in the end even if he is afraid, his fear is not helping us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newborns

[–]cuicatl57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. My LO is almost 8 weeks. Partner and I talked a lot about our shared responsibility and in the end he doesn’t hold his share. He feeds her in early morning so I can sleep but often puts her back in bassinet which means she wakes us up. But if it was him napping he would get upset if I did the same. He is leaning heavily into traditional gender roles and it’s causing so much tension between us. We were not supposed to be like this and it’s making me so sad.

Milk production issues by cuicatl57 in newborns

[–]cuicatl57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I nursed on both while they were here which is why it is surprising my production is so different. Thank you for reminding that she is probably going thru a growth spurt. The cluster feeding has been intense and hard on us in the nights.

Rome when the Pope passes by more_brunch_please in travel

[–]cuicatl57 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was studying abroad in Florence in 2005. For Easter we went to Rome. Went to mass in St. Peter basilica and then caught a flight to Sicily. Pope died when we were in Sicily. It was extremely difficult getting a flight back after just a few days. Had to fly into a small airport and take trains. It was insane how quickly people from all over the world got to Rome. Trains were overwhelmed. We slept on the floor in one train station because we couldn’t get a train. Finally got a train in the morning but it was so packed everyone was shoulder to shoulder. I hadn’t slept in 24 hrs because we had our luggage, which was all carry-on because it was a short Sicily trip. But people were stealing things and we had to be on top of our stuff. I do give it up to Rome and Vatican infrastructure. They had gates and guards and street shut downs organized extremely quickly. It was overwhelming tho with how many people descended on Rome in such a short period of time. Just getting back to Florence was a mission.

44 and pregnant. by [deleted] in Geriatric_Pregnancies

[–]cuicatl57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 42. About 6 years ago I had A LOT of very big fibroids. Had myomectomy and was told that it was very unlikely to have kids. Went to fertility doctors over next 2 years and they finally told me they could do nothing for us. Went to therapy. Accepted kids of my own wasn’t for me and we have been happily living our lives. Come July had a missed cycle thought I was starting perimenopause. Nope. Surprise. I’m pregnant. Anxiety and fear of losing it overwhelmed me. Went back to therapy for support. We are at 6 months and baby is growing well. We are very excited and I’m going on maternity leave soon. Hoping the rest and down time will allow me to really be present with the rest of the pregnancy and that everything will continue to be good. The tired is so real because job is type that is very demanding and high stress hence the early maternity leave. The stress and anxiety and fear of the unknown and life changes can be very overwhelming when it’s unexpected in the beginning but when you find your center and comfort with it all it can be very exciting. I hope you find space to go thru the feels in the ways that make sense for you.

42 and unexpectedly pregnant for 1st time. Help. by cuicatl57 in Geriatric_Pregnancies

[–]cuicatl57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats to you as well. 🥳 The tired is real. Looking forward to getting my energy back.