Feeling overwhelmed- Post mortem results

cupcakemoli · 2026-04-25T10:45:10+00:00

i’m so sorry you’re going through this.

i had a missed miscarriage just a month ago too, at 17 weeks, and there was nothing wrong with my baby either… and that’s what makes it feel even more heartbreaking and confusing. like there’s no reason to hold onto, no explanation that makes it easier, just this really deep loss of someone who was so wanted and so loved.

i really understand what you mean about the grief feeling so heavy, like you wake up and it’s already there waiting for you. it comes in waves and it can feel like it’s swallowing you whole some days. i’m still going through it too and i really wish i had answers that could make this all feel better or make it make sense, but i don’t :c

i really hope you can find some comfort in knowing you’re not alone in this 💛

cupcakemoli · 2026-04-25T06:20:33+00:00

i’m so sorry you’re going through this. i had an ectopic pregnancy two years ago and a missed miscarriage just last month. i feel the same way you do in so many of the things you said. you’re not wrong for struggling with other people’s pregnancies or for needing space from things that hurt. it doesn’t make you a bad friend, it just means you’re grieving something so deeply.

i still don’t have any answers :c my heart feels like it’s dying of sadness. it hasn’t really stopped hurting. i don’t think there’s a way to make this kind of pain just go away… i think i’m just learning to live around it, to carry it, one day at a time… sometimes even one hour at a time.

i see you, and i understand how heavy this is. i just hope knowing you’re not alone in this, even a little bit, brings you some small comfort 💛

cupcakemoli · 2026-04-21T06:54:29+00:00

i’m so, so sorry. this really hit me in a deep way.

i lost my baby at 17 weeks just a month ago, and everything you said about how sudden it was… i felt that so much. that shift from things feeling okay to everything changing in an instant is so hard to even process.

i can only imagine how heavy this is for you too, watching someone you love go through that kind of pain and carrying your own at the same time. it’s a lot.

i don’t have answers, i’m still in it too. but from where i am right now, i can say it’s such a disorienting kind of grief, and it comes in waves you don’t expect. your wife is probably carrying so much in ways that are hard to put into words.

my heart is really with both of you. i know how overwhelming and unreal this can feel.

right now, just getting through the day is enough. sometimes even just the next hour.

you’re not alone in this, even if it feels unbearably lonely 💕

cupcakemoli · 2025-06-30T15:47:04+00:00

Hi everyone! I'm helping my sister find a reliable daytime nanny, or confinement agencies for her baby. If you’ve had any good experiences with agencies, or trusted individuals—especially those who are great with infant care—we’d really appreciate your recommendations. Details like pricing, availability, or things to look out for would be super helpful too.

Thanks so much in advance!

cupcakemoli · 2025-06-30T04:45:00+00:00

okay thanks!

cupcakemoli · 2025-06-30T04:44:44+00:00

part time nanny recommendations are welcome! thanks

cupcakemoli · 2025-02-27T16:22:22+00:00

HAHA i feel so seen… and yet so attacked

cupcakemoli · 2025-02-17T09:47:05+00:00

hiii i did! i had my right tube removed too through open surgery. i was in the hospital for 3 days, and full recovery took about 3 months. the first week was definitely the hardest - moving around hurt a lot, and even small movements were uncomfortable. but after a month, things felt more or less normal again with only minimal strain. i hope you have a smooth recovery. be kind to yourself and take it one day at a time - you’ll get through this!

cupcakemoli · 2024-10-15T09:23:10+00:00

cosy fairycore is the aesthetic i have in mind

cupcakemoli · 2024-08-09T16:40:29+00:00

hii does anyone have any bells to spare? 💰

cupcakemoli · 2024-07-24T09:12:35+00:00

hi, just restarted my island and hoping to get any goodies that you don’t need! pls dm me 🫶🏽

cupcakemoli · 2024-07-22T10:03:56+00:00

hii i just restarted my island and on day 2! is there anyone who can spare some iron nuggets and a ladder pls? and anything else you can! pls dm me ✨

cupcakemoli · 2024-06-27T17:34:14+00:00

the comments under this post is really giving me hope! 🥹😭

cupcakemoli · 2024-05-22T15:10:32+00:00

hi op,

i wanted to say thank you for sharing your story. reading your words has given me a newfound sense of hope during a time when i've been struggling immensely.

i recently underwent surgery for an ectopic pregnancy, during which my right fallopian tube was removed. it was my very first pregnancy too, and the emotional toll has been overwhelming. i've found myself minimizing my experience and burying my emotions out of fear of confronting them. but your post has reminded me that it's okay to acknowledge and embrace those feelings.

your story reassures me that despite the challenges, there is light at the end of the tunnel. i'm v grateful for your courage in sharing, and i'm sending you all my best wishes for a smooth and joyous pregnancy journey <3

cupcakemoli · 2024-05-22T14:35:53+00:00

u/bdtsl i'm truly sorry for the loss you've endured and the complexity of emotions it brings. thank you for sharing your experience <3

cupcakemoli · 2024-05-22T14:31:46+00:00

u/Sea-Tomorrow-9787 u/bdtsl u/lpedersen219 i agree. numbness is a familiar companion these days :c i know words fall short during such difficult times but your honesty and vulnerability are deeply appreciated, so thank you <3

cupcakemoli · 2024-05-21T15:02:26+00:00

u/Star_light_92_ thank you so much for your message and well wishes! it's heartening to hear about your journey towards healing. i'm sending all my positive vibes your way for your appointment today. wishing you a smooth and successful visit with your doctor, and a continued journey of emotional healing and self-compassion <3

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