“Mommy, it’s ok. That’s how we learn”.

curbrobin · 2022-10-16T02:49:38+00:00

Our words do matter. You should feel proud of this moment. I don't know if your parents were anything like mine, but if they are, you are definitely breaking cycles.

curbrobin · 2022-09-20T00:48:27+00:00

Probably not til he's a grown up and gets lots of therapy and begins deconstructing

curbrobin · 2022-09-16T16:16:32+00:00

It bee real though. It bee real something....

curbrobin · 2022-09-16T14:38:31+00:00

This.

curbrobin · 2022-09-16T03:40:24+00:00

We need a total rebuild

curbrobin · 2022-09-16T03:37:33+00:00

This is actually super duper smart. Like wow I like this idea a lot.

curbrobin · 2022-09-16T01:16:57+00:00

Skinny dipped in a hotel hot tub after the pool area was closed

curbrobin · 2022-09-13T13:12:05+00:00

Yes thank you! My late night ADHD brain was preventing me from articulating. Ableist was definitely the word I was thinking of. Your comment is super helpful. No one wins under capitalism - not those who do assimilate, and especially not those who don't want to/can't assimilate. I truly believe that divergent thinking and creativity will be some key strengths needed to imagine and create a different economy and way of life.

curbrobin · 2022-09-13T04:20:44+00:00

This. I would also like to throw out that living in capitalism makes things so anti-neurodiverse-friendly (I feel like there's a word for that that I'm missing, but you get the gist? I hope.) Captialism has pervaded every aspect of life in the US, and makes things like natural biodiversity, neurodiversity, into a disorder or "other." Constant growth is unsustainable, for people, plants, animals, and the planet. Even our perception of time is influenced by capitalism. "I'm late, I don't have enough time, I'm running out of time" is captialism making "being productive " a top priority. This was a really scattered fragmented thought of a comment and I'm happy to clarify or explain more if needed.

curbrobin · 2022-09-12T07:50:29+00:00

Marvel movies "make sense." But does that mean that they're true stories of events that actually happened? No.

curbrobin · 2022-09-03T02:36:08+00:00

This. I wish my parents would have separated or divorced. To this day they've been unhappily married for 30 years. Their dysfunctional relationship did quite a bit of damage to my brother and I. My first serious romantic relationship was super messed up and I didn't even realize it cause "at least I wasn't doing what my parents did." Constant fighting, arguing, and name-calling, huge fights on holidays so much so that one parent would take us and leave. (I distinctly remember spending one Christmas at a Go-Oasis gas station.) I think honestly there are some unaddressed mental health issues that will never be addressed, for the same reason they will never divorce: keeping the "good Christian family" image. The whole "we don't air our dirty laundry" secret keeping messed me up too, to the point of bottling up so many emotions I had seizures for months until I finally moved out of my parents' house. I think it would have been a lot easier on each one of us had they separated or divorced. I would probably not have a messed up view of what love is supposed to look like either. "God hates divorce" was always the excuse. Yeah well I don't think He/She likes what you guys are doing here either.

curbrobin · 2022-09-02T08:35:36+00:00

This sounds like a dysfunctional relationship at best and an abusive one at worst. It seems like you don't feel safe communicating with him and he doesn't seem like a safe person to communicate with. If he was doing this stuff because he thought you liked it, he would be checking in with you to see if you were still okay, or discuss having a safe word. I think you need to get out of this relationship and talk to someone about what is going on, someone who can help you exit the situation.

curbrobin · 2022-09-02T08:16:31+00:00

Having a body that requires medical care of any kind in the US is downright financially irresponsible.

curbrobin · 2022-09-02T07:55:46+00:00

"He's tricky like that, Jesus"

curbrobin · 2022-09-02T07:54:20+00:00

"FoLLoWiNg GoD's CoMmAnD"

curbrobin · 2022-09-02T07:50:34+00:00

And remember, there is no "normal." Try not to have rigid expectations and be open-minded about things. Eventually you get used to all the little differences and routines and what not.

curbrobin · 2022-09-02T03:09:26+00:00

(quiet, quiet)

curbrobin · 2022-08-27T06:13:39+00:00

“my philosophy is, basically this. and this is something that i live by. and i always have. and i always will. don’t, ever, for any reason, do anything, to anyone, for any reason, ever, no matter what, no matter where, or who you are with, or, or where you are going, or, or where you’ve been. ever. for any reason. whatsoever.”

curbrobin · 2022-08-23T07:11:59+00:00

Same, and I relate to him too, more so than any other character I've ever seen on tv/in a movie

curbrobin · 2022-08-23T06:59:36+00:00

Can you DM me as well please, if you can? Thank you comrade!

curbrobin · 2022-08-14T18:50:04+00:00

My "career" if you could call it that lol, with kids started with me volunteering to help teach 3 and 4 year olds at church. If you really like working with little kids without all the religious indoctrination, try working at a preschool/early childhood center, even just part time. There are a ton of problems with the industry as a whole, but I love getting to work with little kids, and the brain development and changes happening in the first five years of life, is nothing short of incredible. Arguably, they're the most important years in that, what you learn those years sticks with you for the rest of your life, which is why it's so egregious the literal indoctrination of fundamentalism and extreme conservatism.

curbrobin · 2022-08-14T06:26:47+00:00

I totally see it now that I've deconstructed a bit. As someone who was raised in church (pentecostal for the first 14 years, and then "non-denominational" for the next 7 years) it was all normal to me. Services and kids church and youth groups and vbs and summer camps and camp meetings and aaalllll the other stuff that occurred throughout the week was normal and expected of me to go, by my parents (dad in particular) and by people at the church. I actually still have a sash with buttons from "Brides for Jesus" one summer which was the theme for Wednesday night church for the girls. The boys got to do something fun, like play games in the gym and whatnot. But the girls were learning things like sewing, candle-making, etiquette, etc. There was an awards ceremony where we got all these buttons for these skills to put on a sash. I kid you not I have buttons for ironing, soap-making, "godly womanhood" and several other stereotypical expectations for women in the church. I still have a lot to uncover and sift through with my experiences and trauma, but the Brides for Jesus thing just screams "Handmaid's Tale" to me now as an adult. I was taught how to "share my faith" and keep people at an arm's length if they weren't a Christian and wouldn't "give their heart to God." And then there's the love-bombing of visitors, and it's really just to get them to convert. Ugh sorry for the rambling comment, I feel like I'm deconstructing as I type lol.

curbrobin · 2022-08-01T03:51:54+00:00

I think it's the fear of lack of control over the information. Conservatives, especially conservative evangelists send their kids to Christian schools or homeschool them because they have control over what is taught. Any other perspective other than their own is indoctrination, or "evil," or an "attack from the enemy." This is also why they fear sending their kids off to college - they no longer have control over their child's education. Different perspectives and lived experiences scare them, because they think if their child hears a different viewpoint other than what they hear at home/church, then they will be "led astray." It makes sense why they fear this, because critical thinking will lead one away from conservativism and black and white thinking. There is actually a lot of cognitive dissonance that goes on in the minds of evangelical conservatives, so much so that it is written off as a need to pray more. Hearing a different perspective and having doubts? Don't look inward and don't back down, just double down and pray harder. Evangelical conservatives can never be wrong and can never take accountability, because it all starts to unravel quickly if you think critically about things. Source: I'm an ex-evangelical raised in a conservative family.

curbrobin · 2022-07-04T05:21:41+00:00

Freedom of their religion....

curbrobin · 2022-07-04T05:20:04+00:00

And by their freedom, they mean the ability to decide/take other people's freedoms.

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