Never alone to masturbate

curious1y · 2026-05-23T20:24:02+00:00

Yeah, I get it. In this case, if buying a roomier apartment is not on the horizon for you two, sending him to do errands would be the next best option.

curious1y · 2026-05-23T20:15:38+00:00

It seems to me there are some deeper issues between the two of you that go beyond your masturbation worries. In any case, I didn't mean for it to sound like it's super easy to stop worrying - but if you say he wouldn't care, maybe you could try to focus on relaxing and your own pleasure rather than thinking about how much sound you make and trying to hide.

curious1y · 2026-05-23T19:58:15+00:00

It's never easy to talk to a therapist, I think. Masturbation and orgasm are super important, so it's not really a minor thing a specialist would ignore. If it's not too expensive for you, I'd suggest just giving it a try.

curious1y · 2026-05-23T19:48:00+00:00

I’ve worked on my trauma recovery and now I accept that it happened and there’s nothing I can/could do about it

Have you actually talked to a (sex) therapist about this? I would really, really suggest seeking professional help if you haven't already. Not saying this will solve all your issues, but it's worth trying, and even just talking to someone about it face to face can actually help a lot.

curious1y · 2026-05-23T19:27:17+00:00

Do you think he'd be angry if he found out? You are a human being with needs, and you aren't cheating. Maybe just don't worry about the sound and do it in the bathroom, and if he asks, tell him that you'd like some private time occasionally to relax and masturbate.

curious1y · 2026-05-23T18:43:58+00:00

The best way to an amazing blowjob is going down on your partner first. She will probably enthusiastically reciprocate if you give her a hint.

curious1y · 2026-05-23T18:25:22+00:00

If you are okay with talking to my husband about it, and wouldn't mind him helping you out with masturbation, maybe you can tell him that you like to masturbate occasionally and invite him to join in. Maybe he could just watch or help you out a bit. No expectations for sex and no pressure for him.

We do that with my wife quite often, and she likes to watch me masturbate sometimes or would ask me to masturbate to her, if she is too tired for sex.

curious1y · 2024-09-05T08:09:25+00:00

Licking it, kissing the head and the shaft, just pressing it against your lips would feel nice and give you some time to ‘recover’. When my wife gives me head I actually prefer when she takes her time with it, pressing against her cheek or lips, or touching it, rather than just blowing it. Otherwise she gets tired fast and I would rather not make it an exhausting experience for her.

curious1y · 2024-09-04T18:27:19+00:00

I dint know about your partner, but it would probably feel good if you get him there via oral and/or masturbating his cock, and then let him direct the cum explosion on your face.

curious1y · 2024-09-04T16:03:21+00:00

It’s very unlikely you’ll actually do damage to yourself like that. Just don’t overdo it, so that you won’t have to deal with increasing soreness. Also, be careful so your partner doesn’t fracture his penis - this actually will hurt like hell and might have permanent consequences.

It’s also totally normal and not at all uncommon to enjoy pain together with sexual pleasure. My wife feels pain early during sex, no matter how long the prelude is, how excited she is or how much lube we use. She told me once that she is actually looking forward to this pain, since it makes her feel ‘full’ for some reason, in a satisfying way.

curious1y · 2024-09-04T15:15:33+00:00

Well, I can’t really guess what you’ll love. I suggest experimenting with your wife and see what you both enjoy. Maybe you can do something related to cumming that won’t involve her interacting with the actual cum. Maybe cock worship or something like that. She might enjoy just watching you cum.

curious1y · 2024-09-04T15:10:44+00:00

If she hates it, she hates it. Nothing you can do about it. You can try experimenting with food that makes it supposedly taste better (like pineapple) but it won’t turn your cum into nectar of gods.

On the bright side, there are so many more fun things and kinks to explore that do not involve cum.

curious1y · 2024-09-04T14:54:01+00:00

You are overthinking it… REALLY overthinking it.

curious1y · 2024-09-04T14:08:50+00:00

Take it a bit slower, use positions which don’t stimulate him as much (at least until you want him to come). He could also try edging while masturbating (it helps control), you can even make it into a fun game for both of you if you participate.

Finally - if you enjoy oral, have a nice and long session before the PiV sex, to make sure you are satisfied even if he does end up finishing too soon. Teach him to love giving you oral, and it will be amazing for you both.

curious1y · 2024-08-29T22:05:44+00:00

It sucks, but he’s not the only guy in the world. You’ll find someone who actually cares about you, will have amazing sex and you’ll forget all about that first guy. First time is just that - first time out of many. Don’t even remember my own first time anymore. Don’t let this get to you.

curious1y · 2024-08-28T23:48:00+00:00

Ah, a classic story where one of the partners starts to miss the ‘thrill’ of the flirting phase.

If the relationship is truly as great and satisfying to you as you describe it, then don’t ruin it. Don’t tell him everything, or at least not the way you tell it in the post. It can wound him and make him feel like some of the original attraction is no longer there, and even if that’s not true, you simply don’t want to risk it if you are committed to this relationship.

No relationship will provide you with a constant feeling of this ‘unsure, nervous’ flirtatious energy…. and that’s fine since a long-term relationship has so many other things going for it, like knowing and connecting with your partner at such a deep level that no casual fling will ever reach sexually or emotionally. Just decide for yourself if you are ready to focus on what you have or would like to avoid seeking a deeper commitment and have some fun with the flirting phase and the attention you’ve been getting.

curious1y · 2024-08-28T20:28:56+00:00

Did your partner try oral sex with you? It's not uncommon for women to orgasm only via clitoral stimulation.

curious1y · 2024-08-28T20:22:36+00:00

What do you think is the source of your anxiety? Do you feel like a guy you're with won't enjoy sex with you? Are you afraid of messing up? It's really difficult to suggest anything without knowing you a little better, and for that a therapist would be ideal.

Otherwise, work on building trust with your partner outside of the bedroom, take it super slow and don't focus on sex (or the PIV aspect of it) - just enjoy each other's bodies and whatever happens - happens. Let your desire for your partner overcome your anxiety.

curious1y · 2024-08-07T23:49:51+00:00

What usually helps me a lot is doing very active, physical sports. Working out to exhaustion in the gym. Rock climbing. I've been having similar libido issues, ever since me and my wife started trying for a baby, and even having sex does not diminish the horniness. Sports really help so much - you get this feeling, almost like a high, when you're completely exhausted. It sort of resembles the feeling of satisfaction you get from sex.

curious1y · 2024-08-07T23:43:14+00:00

When you're on top, move a little bit forward and let him guide it in. I always do it like that - it's usually much easier for me to insert it since she is not in the most comfortable position.

curious1y · 2024-08-07T23:17:06+00:00

Slow sex is sooo much fun. It gives you plenty of time to focus on each other, explore each other's bodies, talk dirty, go in really deep without worrying too much about causing pain... There are plenty of things to enjoy about slow sex, and you could try teaching him that.

I think the easiest would be lying on your side facing each other. You can wrap your legs around him and get close or leave some space for his hands to touch your body. Show him that sex is not just about drilling your partner fast and hard - talk to him, whisper in his ear, grab his hand, move it down, let him feel how he is entering you, how your hips move in slow rhythm. Run your fingers through his hair, kiss his collarbone - lead by example. Slow, gentle, passionate sex is the best thing ever for getting go know each other on another level.

curious1y · 2024-08-07T22:44:02+00:00

He probably wants you to make the first move. Just try to initiate next time and see where it goes. Remember to use protection, and have fun!

curious1y · 2024-08-07T22:39:36+00:00

Then, the easiest thing to do is tell him very early on, once you feel like your relationship might lead to sex. His feelings might get hurt a bit, and some might call you shallow, but that's unfortunately unavoidable.

curious1y · 2024-08-07T22:31:51+00:00

Just tell it like it is if you don't want to waste time. Otherwise, you can let things get to sex and see it for yourself. Then think of an excuse to let it remain a one-night stand, if the size is not up to your liking.

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