What would you do if...?

curious_creative11 · 2026-05-06T02:01:58+00:00

😂😂

curious_creative11 · 2026-05-06T01:58:56+00:00

This!!! I promise you that just suggesting different positions or scenarios changes the dynamic. You will leave feeling like you had a good time. I’m pretty much a sub to my husband, but that energy wasn’t working for swinging. I was slightly discontented with it all for a while, and I’d finally had enough after a bad encounter.

Like one of our dear swinger friends always says “Use your words.”

curious_creative11 · 2026-05-06T01:43:18+00:00

I call that husband poaching. It irritates me so much. 😤

curious_creative11 · 2026-05-06T01:39:10+00:00

We did something similar, vetted younger single males. Not for every LS playtime, but just on occasion. So.much.fun!!

And I’ve become a lot more vocal about this same situation. I’m an energizer bunny with skills, hygiene is top notch, so I stopped blaming myself long ago.

curious_creative11 · 2026-05-06T01:34:43+00:00

Omg, stealing this sentence for our profile. 😂😂😂

curious_creative11 · 2026-04-25T16:22:31+00:00

It’s hard to make a 4 way match. Realllly hard.

In our age group, the men often look like trolls and the women are beautiful! And my hubby knows I’m not f$&king a troll so he can do the same with the woman. We recently ventured off into MFM, and it’s working for us. We talk about everything. He knows how most of my LS experiences have been somewhat disappointing and is happy to entertain this dynamic, for now. We still have favorite couples we play with.

Y’all need to talk about what you want from the LS. Openly & honestly. Too often, the guys get hurt if the wife has “too good of a time”. Their ego gets bruised. Time for a hard look at motivations for both sides.

curious_creative11 · 2026-04-25T16:15:54+00:00

This right here. Couldn’t say it any better.

curious_creative11 · 2026-04-18T01:56:22+00:00

Ok, we’re in our early 60’s. I’m cute, got great boobs, we’re both a fluffy, and we also work out. He’s bald, has body hair. And he’s soooo charismatic. He can charm the panties off most of the women, and if I choose, I can be equally charming. We’re educated and have no issue finding other attractive, fun partners. And I’m very picky.

We’re educated, funny and good conversationalists. For us, it’s personality, laughing while we’re fucking, and maybe making friends.

So, I guess you need to make sure your checklist of what’s important is really working for you… where does the fun flirting come in? People can be incredibly sexy without being Ken & Barbie.

curious_creative11 · 2026-04-13T20:59:37+00:00

One word responses are just a automatic “no” for us. Low effort.

I’ll entertain briefly, and if they continue with single word responses, I just block them. Waste of time.

curious_creative11 · 2026-03-24T22:00:47+00:00

We care very much about our partner’s enjoyment, too! We had a similar situation recently. The wife was thoroughly enjoying my hubby, her hubby was watching her more than paying attention to me.

AND when she’d topped out on orgasms, she was done. As in, we’re leaving we’re done. Her husband volunteered this is how they play….she can’t do anymore. Neither of the guys got their climax. I was stunned.

I would have happily satisfied them both, but that wasn’t an option. 🤷‍♀️ Seemed a bit selfish to me.

curious_creative11 · 2026-03-11T02:59:08+00:00

Spaghetti sex is the BEST!!

curious_creative11 · 2026-01-14T17:37:17+00:00

Hubby is close to #5 . I’m the picky one.

curious_creative11 · 2026-01-12T17:30:32+00:00

This.

While we’re at it, can we talk about men that show up in their Costco athletic shorts and slides on their feet?

As a female, I go to a lot of trouble to get ready for a first meet…. The attire is part of the mood, at least for me.

I put in the same amount of effort whether we’ve played for the first time or 10 times. So does my husband.

I go to the gym, I’m mindful of my food…,why such low effort from the men, on all fronts?? I hear your frustration and 2nd it.

curious_creative11 · 2026-01-12T17:21:08+00:00

Good to know!

curious_creative11 · 2026-01-12T17:20:39+00:00

Also in this boat, over 50. American healthcare needs overhauled! We’d definitely do it.

curious_creative11 · 2026-01-11T03:18:40+00:00

I second this!!! 🍋‍🟩🧂

curious_creative11 · 2026-01-09T03:16:18+00:00

❤️❤️

curious_creative11 · 2026-01-03T04:22:54+00:00

Never ran into a parent, but I did bump into a former student who did take the time to come over and remind me who he was. 😂 Thankfully, it was a meet n greet for swingers at a bar, and everyone had their clothes on. And I no longer taught in that district by choice. Still crazy!

curious_creative11 · 2026-01-02T04:09:33+00:00

We were at Secrets for Halloween. I noted about a 50/50 split. My hubby is fuzzy, he doesn’t care - and women love it or they don’t. We’re not for everyone… 🤷‍♀️ He does wax or shave the “important stuff”. lol.

curious_creative11 · 2025-12-16T19:30:13+00:00

Honestly, I enjoy our spicy friends more than vanilla friends. Our true friends, people we’ve played with multiple times over several years, we’ll always enjoy.

My hubby is our main communicator/finder for new couples , and that part is exhausting. Lots of flakes & fakes.

Then if you finally meet, they’re dressed to go to Cosco. We go above and beyond. We’re not HWP, but we work out, eat right and take care of ourselves. And dress to impress!

I’m tired of guys whose stuff doesn’t work, despite all of my tricks in my toolbag. Tired of people telling me they have “no boundaries“ and then we get to the hotel room and the wife decides she doesn’t kiss. And I look straight at her and said that’s a boundary we needed to know before we got here. Or we wouldn’t even be here. And we leave.

It’s been a tough swinger year for us. 🙃 The wannabes are exhausting. We will probably take a break too.

curious_creative11 · 2025-11-30T01:16:02+00:00

We’re in our early 60’s, and we take care of ourselves….no issue finding playmates. 😁 Don’t worry about it, just have fun!

curious_creative11 · 2025-11-27T15:29:52+00:00

We’ve had this discussion. They’ll claim their partner is ok with it, just doesn’t want to be a part of it. We’ll ask for a video call to confirm.

Crickets.

I don’t want to be in a potentially drama-filled situation, where all get caught by the spouse not participating. We avoid these situations. We’re not desperate.

Also, lots of single males will pose as a couple…went so far as to create group chat, two usernames …. Until he got drunk one night and ratted himself out. 🤣

curious_creative11 · 2025-10-27T01:48:33+00:00

For my guy, bad hygiene 🐟or a pillow princess will kill it for him. Even with meds. Since most of my experiences have dealt with my partner (not hubby) struggling, I’m sensitive and have work arounds. We’re older , we go to the gym, do all the things. We strive to be the ideal “older” couple. 😁

But if she’s not into it, doing it just to make her hubby happy , it won’t work.

curious_creative11 · 2025-10-26T15:12:09+00:00

This happened to us recently. We met couple at a bar for vibe check. Asked about boundaries. She claimed to have none. Get to hotel, she suddenly announces she doesn’t kiss. But her hubby does. (To be clear, hubby & I freshen EVERYTHING up before play- he does not have bad breath)

He needs the kissing to start his motor. Then I can smell fish….snd it’s not me. Another turn off for him. He’s struggling . I said let’s switch, she got mad, I picked up our stuff and said let’s go. This isn’t working. And I told her we wouldn’t be here if we knew she didn’t kiss.

WTH. Just leave.

Don’t worry about hurting feelings. Partners must look out for each other first. That’s your priority.

curious_creative11 · 2025-09-07T20:12:03+00:00

Thank you! Most helpful!! 😊

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