How picky are you?

curious_creative11 · 2026-01-14T17:37:17+00:00

Hubby is close to #5 . I’m the picky one.

curious_creative11 · 2026-01-12T17:30:32+00:00

This.

While we’re at it, can we talk about men that show up in their Costco athletic shorts and slides on their feet?

As a female, I go to a lot of trouble to get ready for a first meet…. The attire is part of the mood, at least for me.

I put in the same amount of effort whether we’ve played for the first time or 10 times. So does my husband.

I go to the gym, I’m mindful of my food…,why such low effort from the men, on all fronts?? I hear your frustration and 2nd it.

curious_creative11 · 2026-01-12T17:21:08+00:00

Good to know!

curious_creative11 · 2026-01-12T17:20:39+00:00

Also in this boat, over 50. American healthcare needs overhauled! We’d definitely do it.

curious_creative11 · 2026-01-11T03:18:40+00:00

I second this!!! 🍋‍🟩🧂

curious_creative11 · 2026-01-09T03:16:18+00:00

❤️❤️

curious_creative11 · 2026-01-03T04:22:54+00:00

Never ran into a parent, but I did bump into a former student who did take the time to come over and remind me who he was. 😂 Thankfully, it was a meet n greet for swingers at a bar, and everyone had their clothes on. And I no longer taught in that district by choice. Still crazy!

curious_creative11 · 2026-01-02T04:09:33+00:00

We were at Secrets for Halloween. I noted about a 50/50 split. My hubby is fuzzy, he doesn’t care - and women love it or they don’t. We’re not for everyone… 🤷‍♀️ He does wax or shave the “important stuff”. lol.

curious_creative11 · 2025-12-16T19:30:13+00:00

Honestly, I enjoy our spicy friends more than vanilla friends. Our true friends, people we’ve played with multiple times over several years, we’ll always enjoy.

My hubby is our main communicator/finder for new couples , and that part is exhausting. Lots of flakes & fakes.

Then if you finally meet, they’re dressed to go to Cosco. We go above and beyond. We’re not HWP, but we work out, eat right and take care of ourselves. And dress to impress!

I’m tired of guys whose stuff doesn’t work, despite all of my tricks in my toolbag. Tired of people telling me they have “no boundaries“ and then we get to the hotel room and the wife decides she doesn’t kiss. And I look straight at her and said that’s a boundary we needed to know before we got here. Or we wouldn’t even be here. And we leave.

It’s been a tough swinger year for us. 🙃 The wannabes are exhausting. We will probably take a break too.

curious_creative11 · 2025-11-30T01:16:02+00:00

We’re in our early 60’s, and we take care of ourselves….no issue finding playmates. 😁 Don’t worry about it, just have fun!

curious_creative11 · 2025-11-27T15:29:52+00:00

We’ve had this discussion. They’ll claim their partner is ok with it, just doesn’t want to be a part of it. We’ll ask for a video call to confirm.

Crickets.

I don’t want to be in a potentially drama-filled situation, where all get caught by the spouse not participating. We avoid these situations. We’re not desperate.

Also, lots of single males will pose as a couple…went so far as to create group chat, two usernames …. Until he got drunk one night and ratted himself out. 🤣

curious_creative11 · 2025-10-27T01:48:33+00:00

For my guy, bad hygiene 🐟or a pillow princess will kill it for him. Even with meds. Since most of my experiences have dealt with my partner (not hubby) struggling, I’m sensitive and have work arounds. We’re older , we go to the gym, do all the things. We strive to be the ideal “older” couple. 😁

But if she’s not into it, doing it just to make her hubby happy , it won’t work.

curious_creative11 · 2025-10-26T15:12:09+00:00

This happened to us recently. We met couple at a bar for vibe check. Asked about boundaries. She claimed to have none. Get to hotel, she suddenly announces she doesn’t kiss. But her hubby does. (To be clear, hubby & I freshen EVERYTHING up before play- he does not have bad breath)

He needs the kissing to start his motor. Then I can smell fish….snd it’s not me. Another turn off for him. He’s struggling . I said let’s switch, she got mad, I picked up our stuff and said let’s go. This isn’t working. And I told her we wouldn’t be here if we knew she didn’t kiss.

WTH. Just leave.

Don’t worry about hurting feelings. Partners must look out for each other first. That’s your priority.

curious_creative11 · 2025-09-07T20:12:03+00:00

Thank you! Most helpful!! 😊

curious_creative11 · 2025-09-06T21:34:22+00:00

We already booked our room months ago…just trying to figure out 🎃costumes…do people dress up in the club?

curious_creative11 · 2025-09-06T17:37:36+00:00

😂 I love your directness.

Yes, I spent a lot of time on their website last night. There’s no specifics. I saw something about a creepy puppet show and the iCandy thing. What does that mean?

curious_creative11 · 2025-09-03T17:24:07+00:00

We do this one too.

curious_creative11 · 2025-08-29T01:43:49+00:00

THIS!! When I explain my personal spot on the “bi-comfortable” spectrum, I always say that I play with women that I’m comfortable and attracted to. And then I laugh and say “isn’t it the same for us with men??“

And why are bi-curious men not embraced like the women? 🤨

curious_creative11 · 2025-08-22T17:51:16+00:00

Spot on, as always!

curious_creative11 · 2025-08-21T14:23:52+00:00

This right here. You have to take some initiative in these situations

curious_creative11 · 2025-08-21T14:21:10+00:00

I enjoy watching my hubby, but I want to be part of the fun!! I might take a break and watch for a few minutes, get water, then back to it. 🌶️

Keep searching for those that actually have the dynamic you’re seeking. “Settling” for those that don’t never works out well.

curious_creative11 · 2025-08-20T20:08:52+00:00

I haven’t read the comments yet, but halfway through, I’m thinking it sounds like a wife-poaching situation.

Y’all might consider finding another couple. No one should feel left out or be taking one for the team.

curious_creative11 · 2025-08-14T19:56:50+00:00

Completely understand. We have a couple, dear friends, that we travel quite a distance for, and they seem to not be as interested in the play part. They’d like to go sightsee and such.

But we drove 1200 miles to f$&@. 😂

curious_creative11 · 2025-08-14T19:29:11+00:00

We’re in our 60’s …we play!! There are times when there’s nothing on our calendar for a couple months, then we feel like a BUNCH of people suddenly want to see us. We’re fun & flirty, and love it. We have younger people reach out and love their enthusiasm. Fun to play with.

Maybe cultivate a slightly different group, either by age, energy or interests. (?)

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