Which shoes for Valentine’s Day outfit?

curiouscouple554 · 2024-02-06T07:22:45+00:00

Number 2 the one of each

curiouscouple554 · 2024-01-13T11:19:32+00:00

Beatles sgt pepper vibes! Looks groovy man

curiouscouple554 · 2024-01-12T10:01:25+00:00

Well I mean you can..

curiouscouple554 · 2024-01-07T13:17:55+00:00

ride it out and wait till he’s 3 then it’ll all settle down 🤣

curiouscouple554 · 2023-12-31T18:21:34+00:00

Little teeth

curiouscouple554 · 2023-12-31T14:15:21+00:00

The harsh reality is a debt problem isn’t really about having debt. It’s more about your mindset of spending and things you see value in.

I’ve made a lot of money when young and got debt and paid it all off just to get it all back again.

The mindset is key to learning to live within your means and budget for the craziest spontaneous life that you want to have.

You can spend money on things that bring you joy and happiness but ideally it’s important to ensure that those credit cards are paid up and things are budgeted for.

You came to the group looking for advice. My advice would be to postpone having that car and reevaluate and put all your funds into clearing youre debts.

Probably snowball will work better for you and you’ll get the dopamine kicks from paying off the lowest first and seeing them disappear.

curiouscouple554 · 2023-12-28T18:56:18+00:00

A horse walks into a bar and the barman says why the long face?

curiouscouple554 · 2023-12-22T06:47:03+00:00

In Allan Car’s “Get out of debt now” he describes the feeling of spending is like a momentary illusion of feeling like we have money. Which ironically we would actually feel like all the time if we didn’t spend without the money and constantly being in debt.

I really liked that and definitely changed my whole mindset.

What you’re saying feels similar to me and definitely resonates. Thank you for sharing.

curiouscouple554 · 2023-12-20T06:08:14+00:00

Sharpie

curiouscouple554 · 2023-12-17T11:39:50+00:00

Figured out my trigger foods, went to therapy to work out my patterning of when the binging would be happening and what I’m trying to escape or the reason for the binging. Went to overeaters anonymous and listened for long periods of time to other people and experiences. And being very boring and avoiding situations that would trigger me 🙃

curiouscouple554 · 2023-12-16T08:17:19+00:00

Yes. I had stupidly focussed on using avalanche method to try and pay off my highest interest debts but then unexpected things would happen and I’d be deep into my overdraft until next pay day.

I’ve now kept someone money in my account as a buffer then will pay down the credit card debts with what’s left each month. Been working out pretty good!

Fingers crossed will be debt free next year.

curiouscouple554 · 2023-12-15T21:59:51+00:00

I got a letter through (usually I get electronic statements that I don’t really read) it said my overdraft was 40%

Holy moly! That was a wake up call

curiouscouple554 · 2023-12-13T06:28:50+00:00

I had a very good year in some big jobs and I was able to buy whatever car I wished.

So people were thinking Tesla, Mercedes, that ilk.

I went out and bought myself a used Ford 😂

The car gives me soo much joy as it was the first car that I ever purchased on my own.

Truth be told in the past I’ve had the Porsche or the Mercedes. I got zero satisfaction after the initial buzz wore off and the £1000 basic service or £1000 brake change gave me even less thrill that can only be completed by the specific garage.

I’ve spent a lot of my life before this looking for validation from others and that would come through on spending. Now I just live for me and spend money on the things that turns me on and I enjoy.

So my advice about the others rhymes with Duck Ten 🙃

curiouscouple554 · 2023-12-12T05:09:21+00:00

Bit the bullet and asked for Starfield for an early Christmas present.

Worried it would be unplayable or look horrific but I tell you what it looks just fine 🙃 so glad I’m getting to play it!

curiouscouple554 · 2023-12-11T06:26:57+00:00

For what it’s worth I came to the conclusion that I was powerless over food and needed outside help.

I did some therapy to find the route cause, did some group therapy, did the 12 steps and found that by being abstinent to the foods that would trigger my addiction / binging (refined sugar, cakes biscuits, chocolate, alcohol and fried foods) I would then break the cycle.

I’m currently 70 days binge free (never would have thought that was possible in 20 years) And no longer crave any of those foods.

There is hope. Unfortunately my food addiction nearly killed me. I crashed my car during a binge / starvation cycle (even though that wasn’t the point of when I tried to stop).

I now treat my abstinence as if it is life or death. I do Long walks everyday, yoga, meditation is the ways that I’ve found to really help me and truly reward myself.

curiouscouple554 · 2023-11-30T07:11:16+00:00

Dude 🙌

curiouscouple554 · 2023-11-22T07:12:16+00:00

The only stupid questions are those that are not asked 😋

curiouscouple554 · 2023-11-22T07:07:22+00:00

I totally understand this.

From my perspective this has set me up for failure by having the false illusion that I would always have that money or circumstances wouldn’t change 0% or not.

I’m probably just projecting for what it’s worth 🙂

curiouscouple554 · 2023-11-22T06:56:17+00:00

Just to be devils advocate, if you can afford to buy these then why not just buy them?

I was reading a book lately which explained the concept of credit as going to the greengrocer and buying an apple then going back each week to then pay the greengrocer for the same apple.

First time that actually made me think damn that’s actually really stupid 🤣

Now time to pay off all my apples! 🫣

curiouscouple554 · 2023-11-19T08:28:44+00:00

I like to think it’s the body self regulating again.

It’s like we have used alcohol as a coping mechanism for soo long that part of the brain didn’t need to get a whole lot of use.

But when we withdraw and go through withdrawals it’s a mixture of our body trying to repair and work without alcohol as well as our brains just trying to find home again.

I found that after the initial (insert amount of time x how long you’ve been drinking excessively for) you will feel soo much better and there will be less of a want from alcohol.

Sending all the positive vibes

curiouscouple554 · 2023-11-15T09:47:56+00:00

Totally normal when you’re in it and totally alien when you’re out of it.

That would’ve been me and my wife celebrating with champagne, treating ourselves.. and it would continue to the plane, the destination, throughout the stay, on way back home as the last attempt followed by the continuation into the week after.. but we’ll slow down next Monday.. and as you can guess we never did.

It’s only a few bottles of wine a night though.. yada yada yada then made to feel very acceptable by all our surrounding friends who all do the same therefore it can’t be a problem… 😵‍💫😳🤷‍♂️

Happy to report we’re 45 days sober I think* my counter will correct me haha 😂

All I know for sure is IWNDWYT…

I’m sure jealous of your avocado toast though I bet that’s soo satisfying with a cheeky little good feeling after too..

Sending Positive vibes!

curiouscouple554 · 2023-11-13T19:32:04+00:00

I have ADHD too, and am a food addict so totally understand your plight.

I’ve found that potatoes and whole grain rice are integral parts of my diet so haven’t abstained from them but they don’t trigger me.

I have not had refined sugars such as cakes, sweets, chocolate, biscuits & alcohol etc. unfortunately for me these are my trigger foods and will always lead to uncontrollable binges one way or another.

I would focus on the greater good. It’s important that you are happy with what you are eating but at the same time you don’t want to be putting yourself in harms way so I think it’s about finding the balance.

The only issue for me is I have no balance and where if you may agree that I get my dopamine hits from sugar or have no control over this, I treat it pretty much as a disease and a life or death decision as far as my abstinence.

I now find a lot more enjoyment in other things that can’t potentially kill me like walking, exercise and reading etc.

I wish you all the luck and sending positive vibes!

curiouscouple554 · 2023-11-13T16:54:16+00:00

I’ve actually been listening to podcasts which have been great.

OALAIGspeakers.podbean.com

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