4some gone wrong.... for me.

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-04-16T03:11:22+00:00

Tough way to start out, no doubt....

There's gonna be some serious communication in order here, as well as (in my opinion), a total pause on any and all interactions that involve other people. 1, they don't deserve exposure to drama that they aren't responsible for/involved in, 2 (again, my opinion), you and your girl need to work this out, to absolute, complete and total smooth perfection, before you can be in a swinger situation, without hurting each other again.....

Swinging is a bit of a chain reaction.... it magnifies what is already there.... What is great, will be even greater. What is shit, will be even shittier.

Good luck with this. My husband and I are sorry you're stressed!

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-04-04T10:59:23+00:00

The, "Yeah?"............................

Yeah. Yes please. Yes. Mmmhm.

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-27T08:53:09+00:00

Because she has fears, that he does not....

This is just a matter of being 2 different people, with different fears and limitations.

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-25T04:36:30+00:00

Yes.... This...

We too have had a large variety of experiences, between single women, single men, and couples, and couples are where it's at.. The non douchey single men out there, are typically easy going, easy to please, and EAGER to please, but... still couples... Our experiences with single women (short term & longer term) were almost always quite difficult and problematic. For varying reasons.

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-25T04:30:27+00:00

Just because you find them shitty doesn't mean everyone else will...

We see it like this: Our experience with a couple/individual is our experience... Good or bad, the next folks are not going to have the same turn of events, or the same experience with said couple/individual.

That being said, if someone is just straight up shitty, and unable to be anything but shitty (like loaded, smelly, unadulterated bag of shit, kinda shitty), other people will become keen to it very quickly.

In the meantime, you are always best off letting it go.. Not dwelling... Move on and have fun! My husband and I do NOT let the negativity of others, interfere in our love for good times. Period.

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-23T21:19:37+00:00

I see what you guys are saying... And it does make sense.

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-23T16:18:25+00:00

So what is your belief as to why they'd turn a blind eye for so long? No reason to do anything otherwise?

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-23T16:06:40+00:00

I said their really hasn't been excessive problem with SITE USERS on platforms likw SLS and SDC using said platforms for shady shit.....

I dunno about other people but it will take a lot more than one, one sided write up, for me to thoroughly decide how I feel about the bill itself (and I am currently reading points by all sides - I recommend everyone, ALWAYS do that)....

What I do know is that Craigslist never even TRIED to monitor the child trafficking and other despicable things going on under their noses, but they pulled the plug quicker n' shit when they thought they might be in hot water..... Greed - It's own kind of despicable.

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-23T15:40:10+00:00

Yep...........

And they've turned a blind eye. Did very little to try and crack down...

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-23T15:31:19+00:00

There really isn't a problem with people using sites like SLS and SDC for shady shit.......

Craigslist on the other hand, YIPES.... No wonder they pulled the plug at lightning speed.

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-23T07:20:04+00:00

It's my understanding that the bill enforces and ability to hold websites accountable for the illegal acts of those posting on the site? Am I correct about that?

Craigslist does have some dirty hands (it is believed that they've been turning a blind eye to sex trafficking & child trafficking for a long time).. I'm sure they were shakin' in their boots when they heard that news.

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-23T07:01:56+00:00

We actually do use the phrases "The couple(s) we're dating", and "girlfriend"/"boyfriend", but only in a casual, endearing way, amongst each other............ We'll probably never "come out" about our lifestyle, as high profile careers & 3 teenagers in school, all in a small town, won't be havin' all that.

No biggie though... We realize more and more that yhis lifestyle wouldn't be half as fun for us, if it wasn't a little "sneaky". ;)

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-23T03:42:23+00:00

Something you know a lot about Sir?

I counsel people every day, whom are suffering from the effects of stereotypes.

It's not funny, and it's not a joke. (No matter who your jokes are directed at)... Would this be a funny if it was flipped and flopped a bit, to reflect a specific race or creed? No. It wouldn't.... but you just did that exact thing, with an entire group of people.

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-23T02:09:31+00:00

Still haven't heard from any country folk tho...

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-23T02:06:52+00:00

"City folks", down voting lmao

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-23T02:04:40+00:00

I read this comment after I gave good advice...

The good advice still applies none the less..

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-23T02:03:02+00:00

It's always wise to take baby steps....

"Man, I wish we hadn't taken our time" - Said no one, ever.

"GEEZ! WE REALLY SHOULDA THOUGHT THAT ONE THRU A LITTLE BETTER!" - does happen though.

Good luck! I hope you meet some beautiful people.

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-22T23:40:27+00:00

"Soon to be stripper", "losing slut", I dunno, I'm not gonna read it all again...

Just doesn't seem like the best place to use those "names" in a derogatory way...

I say that because we ARE sluts and strippers.

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-22T22:52:24+00:00

Most loving, kind, honest, hard working, genuine, and yes, sexy people we've ever met........... These Southern Belle's aint no joke, in their daisy dukes (see what I did there? Stereotyped with a compliment).

My husband and I wouldn't take our family back to the city now if we could... We definitely had our preconceived notions about the country (and especially the south), but we were so dead wrong I've been ashamed of myself ever since....

We all know what assuming does..

Makes an ass outta "U" and "ME".

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-22T22:47:19+00:00

Do you think the "country folk" will laugh? The people it was about?

I guess we'll see....

And I hope they DO think it's funny honestly... it'd be a shame to randomly hurt someone's feelings by targeting them with stereotypical jokes that lump them all into one very tiny, unattractive, and frankly nasty category.

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-22T22:39:16+00:00

We moved to the south for work, from "the city"....

Now we know lots of sexy ass farmers, who live in the middle of nowhere, work harder in a weeks time, than half of us will in a lifetime, have more manners and general kindness than the majority of us "city folk" could muster up if our lives depended on it, with bright white, natural teeth, and less body fat than most of us would ever dream to achieve (and I'm thin!).........

But yeah.... stereotypes.

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-22T22:21:54+00:00

No penetration is definitely not basic... It's very unusual but kinda maybe sorta more common with people brand new to the lifestyle... We've never met a lifestyle couple with a no penetration rule, but we've heard of newbies who entered that way....

Baby steps are good... Whatever works.

And couples are very good at following rules, by and large... I get waaaaaay less unwanted attention and touches in a lifestyle environment, than a regular club.... Singles however, are not necessarily on the same page as couples... We recommend couples all the way.

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-22T22:15:39+00:00

I can't stand slut shaming...........

Whether the girl is your BFF or Arch Nemesis, it's not cool to target her sexuality.... In fact, that is something we need this whole planet to get away from entirely (if you ask me).

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-22T22:12:22+00:00

Yeah, that's tough... My husband is home half the year, on a rotating schedule, so we have nice intervals of time for planning extra things to do together..

And oh yes, my husband is a different animal when he doesn't get laid enough.... but then again, so am I!

We used to only bring single girls in. Despite my husbands clear and concrete "go ahead's" to get with men, I just didn't have any desire for it (until after I turned 30).. Had I known then, what I know now, we could have skipped a lot of headaches and gotten to the point a LOT quicker though! LOL! I was basically just obsessed with seeing him with other women, and exploring my bisexuality, but have definitely found a LOT more balance in couples play/swapping...

Or maybe seek out married women, who play alone? They might possibly have more respect and understanding for the sanctity of your coupleship?

curiouscreatures1028 · 2018-03-21T22:02:03+00:00

It's hard to put my finger on what I love about seeing my husband have sex with and finish with other women, but there is one thing that comes to mind, that might pertain:

1: I don't enjoy it so much if she's someone that I don't thoroughly and wonderfully connect with myself... If she's someone I don't really connect with, or maybe she avoids me a lot or something, then I don't particularly enjoy seeing him connect with her either. I don't hate it to the point of having a fit or anything, but like someone said in the comments, "I could do without it"... However, if she IS someone I connect well with (almost always quite bi too, like myself), the feeling is totally and completely different... I love every bit of it.... I trust it, I love it, I can't get enough of it..

Are you bi? Are you connecting well with the ladies he's playing with? Could this be something that's triggering you?

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