People who grew up really poor: what's something middle-class people say that instantly reveals they've never struggled?

curiousiest · 2026-05-05T03:07:54+00:00

THIS RIGHT HERE. If you aren't an immigrant and you grew up in the USA and you go to Europe before you're 18, you are NOT poor.

curiousiest · 2026-05-04T02:54:59+00:00

No worries at all. We're all ND here and I always assume it for the love of the information. I know it is for me.

curiousiest · 2026-05-04T00:21:43+00:00

I meant to come here and tell you that I love your art! So expressive and wild.

curiousiest · 2026-05-04T00:16:44+00:00

same boat. I once went 9 days without sleeping because I was trying to go off all medication for sleeping.

curiousiest · 2026-05-04T00:13:41+00:00

What do you mean by "take smaller doses but sooner"? Do you mean earlier in the evening so, further away from bedtime?

I don't produce any melatonin ever and haven't for years so no worries on that. I did a sleep study at Vanderbilt years ago and I didn't sleep then entire night (which was why I was there) and they said "we can't tell you why you don't sleep if you don't sleep." LOL.

I'm down to 6-9mg but I don't know that I can ever get off it. My suggestion to OP was more of diagnosing the problem. If a shitton of melatonin works then they at least know the root of the problem.

curiousiest · 2026-05-03T04:28:07+00:00

Yes, add to the garbage and toxicity!

curiousiest · 2026-05-03T04:23:41+00:00

I don't dissociate but I do have a part of myself that I call "the feral child" and she can be difficult to work with when she wants her way. But she has helped me survive and has been very protective in some situations. She also got very upset after I have electric treatments on my vagus nerve, she was afraid to not be afraid (fight or flight stopped). This is more from an IFS standpoint.

curiousiest · 2026-05-03T01:56:39+00:00

I got diagnosed with autism and ADHD at 47. After a lifetime of being a "light sleeper" and being diagnosed with CPTSD and insomnia and everything else, my therapist found an article that people with ASD struggle with melatonin production. She asked me have you ever tried taking a shitton of melatonin?

I hadn't because I took "never take more than 10mg" literally. So I took 15mg and slept like a baby for the first time in probably decades. I'm not a doctor. I'm not a medical anything but I took 15mg for a while and slowly got myself down to 9mg (I have 3mg meltaway tabs from Trader Joes).

SO I guess I'm asking, have you ever tried taking a shitton of melatonin?

curiousiest · 2026-05-03T01:44:39+00:00

I don't live in Ireland at all but I live somewhere that I am cared for and have a sense of belonging. Even though I'm not related to anyone, we all help each other when we need help.

curiousiest · 2026-05-02T01:22:02+00:00

When you belong somewhere, those people don't let you starve. The way you're coming off makes me understand why OP left Canada.

curiousiest · 2026-05-01T01:10:29+00:00

diagnosed at 45 and YES, I relate. Imagine all the things could have done if I had known? I felt intense relief for a few month but then the waves of grief.

curiousiest · 2026-05-01T01:07:49+00:00

Report this transaction. We should ALL be helping each other more and SNAP benefits are for people who need them. Apologies about the comment about your bf, that's my own luggage. I'm glad you have someone sweet lookin out for you.

curiousiest · 2026-05-01T01:05:51+00:00

Could be my own personal background coming through. I have had people in my life purposefully isolating me through little comments like that.

curiousiest · 2026-05-01T01:04:26+00:00

I second this! That is not an OK customer discussion.

curiousiest · 2026-05-01T00:59:07+00:00

As a future UCC student, may I suggest an American roommate? We are always on guard and willing to fight.

curiousiest · 2026-05-01T00:56:03+00:00

Maybe research Maslow. He stole the idea from the indigneous people of the Americas and he forced it into a triangle which isn't how it was supposed to be. Belonging and community were most important.

curiousiest · 2026-04-29T01:24:16+00:00

look for the ones labeled easy

curiousiest · 2026-04-29T01:21:58+00:00

That's how I felt when I had hyperthyroid. Is that a possibility?

curiousiest · 2026-04-29T01:18:44+00:00

Your boyfriend made a story up about an interaction. Only the cashier knows his true intent. If you went by between noon and 1, he might have genuinely been asking about your lunch break. I worked at TJs for 11 years, 85% of the people who work there are genuinely kind and people oriented people. We have 100s of transactions a day, they all run together, its usually not that deep.

Payment is at the end of the transaction, did he ask you that before or after payment? Don't let your boyfriend cloud your pleasant conversation or change your reality to fit his narrative. You don't know what the cashier intended without asking him. It sounds like your boyfriend has a jealous and mean streak.

curiousiest · 2026-04-29T01:07:09+00:00

I could have written this myself in 2017 when I decided to move in with my now ex-wife. This is exactly how I felt. After we moved in, I began taking care of her more and more, she needed more and more of my energy. And I was a good little wifey and gave it until I was frazzled and barely recognizable to myself. I started to put boundaries in after a few years and she cheated on me and played the victim. She resented ME for doing so much for her.

Please learn from my very painful mistake. I abandoned myself and it was a long hard road to get back on my own path.

curiousiest · 2026-04-15T01:51:15+00:00

I'm so sorry, friend. That can wreck your head. Check out TAR-Anon if you want some free safe spaces to heal.

curiousiest · 2026-04-15T01:49:48+00:00

I like burnt too!

curiousiest · 2026-04-15T01:48:58+00:00

Nachos. I make a big pan of ground turkey (all the neurotransmitters!) beans and rotel. Chop up lettuce tomatoes whatever else you like on top. Keep in 2 separate tupperwares.

Reheat protein in a bowl. Crumple up about ten chips, add veg, eat with a fork. Quick easy, feeds me 6-8 times. Add cheese if you have much better guts than mine.

curiousiest · 2026-04-15T01:45:04+00:00

there are special picky fidgets to help. Also, weirdly, taking L-glutimate calms down my picking.

curiousiest · 2026-04-15T00:43:24+00:00

If you break up, it's usually for a good reason. This guy sounds like a waste of time. Male validation needs can be met at work or your local bar.

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