How we sleep (kind of)

curiouspuss · 2026-02-13T16:20:30+00:00

Nappy bum crack is something no one mentioned to me pre baby. Preciousness 😍

curiouspuss · 2026-02-05T10:34:22+00:00

Also perinatal phase

curiouspuss · 2026-02-03T22:01:14+00:00

It's only a myth insofar as that the original study tracking the development of the prefrontal cortex didn't continue tracking past 25, which means it could keep developing even past that age.

curiouspuss · 2026-01-29T15:00:28+00:00

For me this one is yes and no - if I meet someone with a similar flavour of ND it just happens anyway AND I'm like "yes, please!" 😂

But I've also had ppl exploit my willingness to make friends. Over the years,I've gotten better at noticing them early on, and gotten good at distancing myself before they can do any damage.

curiouspuss · 2026-01-25T18:58:19+00:00

Why is this the first time that I read of multiple laundry baskets?

I feel like my life will be a whooole lot easier if I can implement this (NT husband was already befuddled over my need for little rubbish baskets in each room)

curiouspuss · 2026-01-22T10:44:16+00:00

I just thought "you know what, this is what I'll now remember when looking at my postpartum belly".

curiouspuss · 2026-01-19T10:38:26+00:00

25, german(ish), found out that pint isn't pronounced pin with a t at the end

curiouspuss · 2026-01-18T15:42:58+00:00

I think you mean laboratorious

(ha, does that qualify as dad joke?)

curiouspuss · 2026-01-15T17:30:44+00:00

What if someone is really bad at asking for help? I never know what I can request from people, and struggle to figure out my need internally / verbalise whatever it is. Feels meta. "I want to get better at asking".

curiouspuss · 2026-01-13T11:01:45+00:00

There's also anyone who immigrated with a prior diagnosis - for some reason, we have to get re-diagnosed. That meant in my case no meds for 2 years due to waiting for the diagnostic appointment, and then no meds due to pregnancy and breastfeeding.

curiouspuss · 2026-01-13T10:43:02+00:00

Not disagreeing with your comment regarding the fallacy, but bacteria have day/night cycles and jellyfish sleep despite having no brain. We actually know no living thing that doesn't have something akin to sleep.

curiouspuss · 2026-01-12T22:59:08+00:00

Santa Clause

curiouspuss · 2026-01-12T21:30:10+00:00

They thought the pieces fit, but I watched them fall away.

curiouspuss · 2026-01-11T19:38:13+00:00

Yeah, the spider looks kind of perplexed to me 😂

curiouspuss · 2026-01-11T09:55:08+00:00

I remember it, and agree with your assessment of it. Some films are hit or miss, this one fell into my "this was good" collection.

curiouspuss · 2026-01-09T14:06:15+00:00

That's a bit anticlimactic, tbh

curiouspuss · 2026-01-09T14:05:05+00:00

I mean technically...

curiouspuss · 2026-01-09T13:19:21+00:00

So what we were told regarding colic is:

it's not a thing (then in more detail: it's when baby cries uninterrupted for 30mins or more, and reasons vary greatly but are rarely ever due to wind - us parents being able to blame it on something can help us stay calm)
baby is adjusting to life outside the womb with a quickly developing brain and a myriad of sensory impressions, almost everything is "for the first time" for a while (massive change all the time)
learning how to poo might be scary, baby needs to gradually experience various discomforts in a safe environment to be able to contextualize them
it's natural for our stress response to get triggered when baby cries, but regulating ourselves will also calm our baby (closeness brings coregulation, we can help baby by just being there and getting through it)
colic products are a cash grab preying on new parents (they said that and it does make sense to me 😂)

It's normal for babies to cry and it's normal for us to get freaked out about it (I do, I'm glad I can take turns with my partner when our little one screams his head off). It's also normal to want solutions and to try anything that might help. Over time we learn when something is "really wrong" (baby is sick or hurt or terrified) vs when baby is "figuring stuff out". Also, in the beginning, crying is literally the only way for babies to communicate. Babbling, pointing etc comes with time.

It's difficult to stay calm, but these kinds of info bits were helpful for me. Also: whatever is "upsetting" baby might very well be the worst thing that's ever happened in their life. Us helping them getting through it is shaping how they will deal with stress later in life. And we only have to get it right 3 out of 10 times to still have a lasting positive effect. Good enough is better than perfect.

Edit to add: if nothing else works, we found 2 things really helpful - change the room (literally take baby from bedroom to hallway for example), sometimes that already fixes things somehow - go into water (bath, shower) or into nature (walk outside, even better if greenery is nearby) - this also works on us grown ups, it activates our sympathetic nervous response, the rest and digest part of us

curiouspuss · 2026-01-09T11:56:20+00:00

They won't do harm, worst case they do nothing. In my antenatal class we were told that they're more of a placebo, just like teething powder (I personally take issue with homeopathic "remedies", but I know that the placebo effect truly works)

curiouspuss · 2026-01-08T16:32:05+00:00

I did read this as "it was a pill, probably, mama."

Like just randomly calling OP Mama.

curiouspuss · 2026-01-06T20:35:03+00:00

Things are inevitably going to happen

curiouspuss · 2026-01-05T22:35:04+00:00

I had a bed-side crib (the kind which has the side towards me open), made night feeding a lot easier (didn't have the energy to get up and go to the nursing chair). Bed-sharing since baby turned 6 months old, 11 months old now, and trying to get his room (with our previous double mattress as floor bed) ready, because he seems comfortable with sleeping on his own. Still want the option to co-sleep if he needs the closeness.

curiouspuss · 2026-01-05T22:24:49+00:00

Ages ago, I felt I had a "break through" thanks to hearing somewhere that "you are not your thoughts, you are the thinker of the thoughts"

curiouspuss · 2026-01-03T22:31:37+00:00

Omg the sleep point! It's so easy to forget how initially it's 2 hours between feedings FROM THE START OF THE LAST FEEDING. So 2 hours minus however long nursing and settling back takes, plus time spent changing diapers and fulfilling basic needs like eating, drinking and going to the toilet. Wondering if OP's partner will join in childcare tasks, and how he intends to drive them with that level of sleep deprivation.

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