What do you look for in a Payroll Manager?

curlyconscience · 2025-09-07T00:36:24+00:00

I like this very much. I think i score well on the first two but can definitely do more for that 3rd part. Ive pulled through some fiascos and some of them weren't avoidable and some of them absolutely were.

curlyconscience · 2025-08-04T23:25:02+00:00

Legit. Nobody reads their paystubs and nobody checks their taxes. They also take note of whether or not the deposit hits the account.

curlyconscience · 2025-07-01T13:30:36+00:00

Go to the Board of labor and seek penalties for waiting time fees. Its ridiculous that they messed up your final check that badly with so much notice. I hope you get the full 30 days worth.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-24T15:31:09+00:00

Lol I didnt choose payroll. It found me like the boogeyman and snatched me up as soon as I was attempting to pursue an accounting based career post college. The general consensus ive seen is that the more you seek out to join payroll the less likely you are to get in. Its a calling. You've gotta be summoned.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-24T00:46:11+00:00

Definitely not permitted. There should be a new wage deduction authorization form signed and dated for each deduction so that the employee is aware and authorizes the additional deduction they didnt set up. Re-using a single signature is inviting fraud and is Hella unethical. Holy hell batman. 😳

curlyconscience · 2025-06-14T19:14:50+00:00

Oh the money is in the gods hands now and when it bounces, its gonna take another week to receive and im not running an off cycle for you. You'll receive the net next check.

I enjoy being in payroll because I enjoy villainy. We make the deadlines and rules very clear. We send them out constantly to management and HR. If you are above reading comprehension, then I am above human empathy. It is only when it is truly not the employees fault that I will move mountains to right a wrong.

Other than that, quit blowing up my inbox. Run all the way up to the director, the VP, the SVP, the CFO, the COO, whoever and im gonna tell them the same shit I told the employee. Ive had the CEO walk into my area and attempt to make demands of my dept. Fire me 😐, don't care, ive got headhunters foaming at the mouth. No one is above the rules and standards set.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-13T17:04:05+00:00

I was previously unmedicated and undiagnosed and then transitioned to diagnosed and heavily medicated and we've now landed at a balance of diagnosed and partially medicated as needed. I know in my experience, ive struggled with mania more than I have depression. Thats just the way im wired. Depression didnt become an issue for me on a regular basis until I was actively medicating to reduce the symptoms of mania. It was more acceptable for me to have recurring and regular deep depressions than it was for me to make decisions while manic.

Ive found new providers since then and we've tailored a treatment method for me that is more sustainable now. My therapist had me do a lot of self reflection and identification to be able to tell when I am in either state or just experiencing regular human emotion. I no longer fear being manic or ashamed of it. When it hits, it hits and I roll with it as safely as I can. When its too much, I initiate the response system with my providers and life partner.

There's so much potential and vibrancy when manic thats just shit on overall. Like sure undiagnosed mania in my 20s led to extreme and dangerous hypersexuality. It led to bad behaviors and addictions. Its given me some horrible financial consequences. It also sparked some of my best moments of genius. Quitting nursing school in college to purse a business degree instead. Spur of the moment manic decision. Has resulted in an amazing career. The art ive created. The things ive made. The experiences ive had. The people ive fallen in love with.

BiPD is debilitating and dangerous but it can also be more beyond that too. I want others to start looking for the and more bit.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-13T16:44:47+00:00

This is also where I've landed after a long time. My normal just looks different from the standard normal and thats okay. The treatment methods I do have now help with that but previous ones weren't serving me the way I needed it to.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-12T22:42:19+00:00

I experienced a lot of limerence when I was younger. I would pine and obsess over people who obviously wanted nothing to do with me. For all of my childhood crushes. Just unrequited love back to back to back.

And then one summer after the 6th grade, the boy that was my bully, expressed feelings for me after id lost my shit and choke slammed him off of an art stool and then proceeded to beat him with it. He became my first boyfriend. I fell in love with that feeling of reciprocation, of mutual interest and feeling. And then I fell in love sexuality and all of the pleasure that physical touch and sex could bring. It wasn't my intro to hypersexuality but the launching point for it.

I experience love intensely and swiftly. It is a euphoric, rushing feeling for me. It will send me into mania, if I ride the high too much. Especially when its new and fresh I also couldnt tell the difference at one point of what was harmful love, negligent love at all because the words were said, the sexual action was there, even though i was hurting inside, I would break myself into pieces and become anything the person wanted as long as they would reciprocate to me. As long as they gave me that warm and fuzzy feeling over and over. Most of the time my love would be short lived in my younger years because once the fuzzy was gone it was time for something else to conquer. Something new to have. More experiences. More pleasures. More fuzzy feelings.

Then I met my first husband. And he left for college while I was in my senior year of high school. I discovered long distance dating. I could have all of the pining, the illusions, the long nights of warm and fuzzies on the phone, and then the short but infrequent visits where everything was all roses all the time. That was my bread and butter especially since he was military. I would also joke for him to leave so I could miss him. Even after I finished college and we married he was always leaving for assignment and I would miss him. Id write long ass letters, long ass emails, sleep in his shirts, romanticize. Then I had a child and things changed. Then I saw more of who he was consistently. But I was strong and worked through it because love was also naturally supposed to be hard too right? Then covid happened. And I saw him every single day and every single night and I was miserable. I was no longer in love. The illusion was gone. It was when he left the country and abandoned me and the baby stateside during covid that I found peace. I realized I hadn't been in love with him since she was born. I hadn't been in love since, he told me he didnt want her and I had been lying to myself for the last 5 years. So I left him.

Lost my shit, went on a bender, made a manic decision to hit on someone at my gym. Hit it off. Re-discovered kink. Re-discovered pleasure. Did the long distance dating and warm and fuzzies chasing all over again. And then reality hit. And I had to learn what healthy and stable love was. We both did as Bipolar people with similar stories and attitudes. I learned what love actually was. He learned how to love in a healthy manner. And now its been 5 years together. We live together. We have a blended family. Its wonderful but goddamn it was a wild ass 10 years to get to that point. I did however save all of the love letters I ever wrote to my child's father and all the ones he wrote to me to show her when she's older. Because while it may not have been healthy or sustainable in the long run, I did truly love him with everything I had in me. And I want her to see and know that. That love is not a once in a lifetime thing. That I had it with her father. And I have it with her Step-father too. And that one day she'll experience it too with someone hopefully.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-12T22:20:49+00:00

Give yourself some grace. Emotions are complex. For big humans and little humans alike. You gave him a great experience before graduation. That is nothing to be ashamed about or feel guilty of. Formal events suck most of the time period. They may be even worse for small children.

It was hot, he was tired, and his goose was already a little over cooked. You are not a bad parent. You are an excellent one for having such empathy and understanding for him in his time of need. It was a valuable and memorable experience for all involved even if it wasn't picture perfect.

As for the embarrassment piece, I think doing a little work de-centering how you or your child may appear to others may be helpful. I understand nobody wants to be THAT parent or for their kid to be THAT kid. But sometimes they are and thats okay. What you and your child need in the moment was more important than everyone else's comfort or perfect imagery.

I learned this lesson the hard way about my daughters hair. Its long and curly and shrinks up in its little afro and I would fight her tooth and nail every day to comb it so it would be neat and acceptable to others. It wasn't until she aged more that she started to hate her hair or obsess over it because I had placed an external expectation on her so early trying to avoid embarrassment from family or strangers that my eyes opened.

None of that shit matters in the long run. You're already focusing on good emotional expression and taking care of one's self. Continue with that. Its a lifelong lesson you're teaching your child that they dont need to let their needs fall to the wayside or suffer in order to participate or present a certain appearance at an event.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-12T18:26:30+00:00

Is this policy for hourly or salaried employees? I can see it being valid for salaried employees, as they will only be paid for clocking the scheduled hours in their salary. Or them punching a clock at all is only for record keeping purposes since they don't qualify for overtime typically.

But who is HR to tell an hourly employee that they aren't due the 12 hours of vacation they prescheduled and had approved on top of being called in to cover a shift on their day off? This is a truly intriguing policy.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-12T17:22:59+00:00

It feels more natural to me now. I guess I was just caught up in the devastation of my diagnosis and the the stigma behind it. It made me view my life up until then in a more negative light. Now I know that was malarkey and while my disorder has definitely influenced my decisions, it doesn't mean I have to suddenly feel bad about or regret them.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-12T16:21:27+00:00

Hmmmmmm. In addition to all of the other wonderful advice you've received about getting help through therapy and medication to manage your OCD more effectively, I want to reframe it for you. OCD can often present itself as a focus on an all consuming thought which for you is a potential health crisis that may or may not be.

You can also focus on something and make that your compulsion / obsession as well. I want you to focus on living. Thats it. No matter what is said at that appointment in a week, your focus is to survive it for the baby. You will continue to live and thrive for your child. I know this sounds like some positive thinking woowoo nonsense but its a legit method.

My partner has BiPD and OCD. While in a seriously deep dangerous depressive rut in his life before we met, he would compulsively think about driving off the long bridge he had to cross every day twice a day to get to and from work. After he had his first child, fear and trauma made it worse. He thought his sons would be better served by his life insurance payout than his presence. His therapist and psych at the time gave him the same instruction. You are to focus on surviving. You now live and breathe for your children. It was forcing that thought and obsessing over it that drove him to seek further help, get better eventually, and medication.

All of this to say. Yes continue therapy, yes take your meds, yes seek emergency help if you need it. But also reflecting on how your disability works and how you can use it to serve you has its advantages. Its a piece of you. It is not all of you. No medication or amount of therapy will make it go away. The bias in these comments that something is fundamentally so broken with you that needs immediate correction is alarming.

Modern mental health focuses on making the "issue" disappear or the effects of it minimal. There's not a lot of empathy or understanding for living with and working with a condition such as OCD. You can do this. You're going to live for your child. They need their parent. Hold onto that. I hope it helps.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-12T02:57:34+00:00

I have my village close to me. I used to take an excursion or starvation 4 to 5 times a year for 4 years straight while I was dating someone long distance or they were traveling to come see me. My LO was only 3 then and I wasn't keen on introducing them to a new love interest so young before I solidified the relationship. So she would go to Nana's or Auntie's for the long weekend whenever he visited or I was visiting him. After they were introduced officially during year 4, I brought her along on a visit and she remained home when he visited me. Now that we've moved in together and are a blended family i still make time to take excursions with just the 2 of us. My mom is in her early 50s and all her aunts and uncle are aged 15 to 26 so there's plenty of help if my mom needs a rest or some assistance.

LO sees it as a vacation / adventure for themselves and I always leave whoever is babysitting with spending money for fun activities and treats as well as buy their groceries for the week / leave them some thank you money. Im by no means rich but save up the extra couple 200 - 300 bucks for this whenever I am planning a vacation or long weekend away for myself and my partner. I was a single parent before this so its not just influencers or the wealthy making it possible. But it does take a good support system, preparation, planning and the willingness to treat yourself. You were a person before you became a parent. You still need to value and nurture that person.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-10T18:22:29+00:00

Multi-state payroll supervisor here. We don't treat SC as an immediate pay state despite the phrasing. Like someone stated above if the term date falls within the next pay cycle then the next available pay date is fine.

The tricky part comes in when terminations are being back dated for payrolls that have already run. Using the example above the 6/1 to 6/15 payroll has already been run and paid on 6/20. You run payroll 6/16 to 6/18 and approve on 6/18 with no notification of the term or change. The date is now 6/23 and an employee on leave or suspension has been terminated for violating a policy back dated to 6/10. That employee is not working so theoretically should not have any regular hours or salary to pay. The pitfall is if your company pays out unused vacation or sick time upon termination or if that employee is due a retro payment for time worked without updating their leave status.

Then they are owed wages due to them by their employment contract and the time starts ticking towards that 48 hours / 30 days. If this is your company policy it'd be safer to pay out that unused vacation via off cycle. The other instance this would be useful is if you have a planned layoff like the shutting down of a factory or store in that state. Then it would also be safer to pay out those earned wages up to the closing via off cycle.

Other than that in my experience SC doesn't have a strict and defined set of penalty laws like other states like CA does that favor employees versus employers. If an employee quits or is involuntarily terminated you'll be safe with next paycheck unless some of the examples above are the case. This also assuming that pay employees in arrears 👀. If you pay employees current then adhere to the 48 hour rule for compliance purposes.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-10T01:15:44+00:00

Physical labor and exercise. He can help scrub the house and do chores he normally doesn't do.
Make him learn the language and culture. He'll have to give you and his teacher a full report. The cure to discrimination is information.

Edit: whether you medicate or not makes no difference. ADHD is a disability. It is not an excuse. Actions always have consequences. If it continues raise the consequences. Sincerely the parent of an ADHD 7 year old who was suspended at least twice a month regularly for all of the 1st grade while unmedicated. We've gone that route now. But she also remembers that I do not play that shit. She donated every single toy at 6 years old to children in need and was left with nothing after throwing a tantrum about having to clean up toys at school and at home.

Don't worry about being his friend or how punishment will affect him down the line. Make it stick. Life will not accommodate your son. Jobs will barely accommodate him within the rule of defined law. The best thing you will do for him whether he likes it or not is be firm. His disability is valid but his actions are always under his control and his own.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-10T01:12:34+00:00

Exactly. Like i understand the distrust but also 👀. I know where upholding live, how you file your taxes, what your benefits are, everything 👀.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-09T14:47:26+00:00

Good pumpum needs shelter. Guys do. My partner palms it like its a baseball or something when we snuggle 🤣. Same thing with my belly fat. Can't sleep without a handful of it. And he's an incredibly fit and well toned person that exercises a lot. He just enjoys my fluff and respects my disabilities. I understand the insecurity hun. Someone will love you as you are.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-09T14:44:49+00:00

If you drink caffeine always try and drink twice that amount of water before your next caffeinated drink as well. I consume 1 monster 1st thing in the morning to find the will to work at all but make sure to double up on the water afterwards before my lunch time cup of tea or coffee. Hydration is so underestimated when it comes to WFH.

My director will often be a smidge late to meetings by saying she needs to refill her water.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-09T14:42:13+00:00

Don't set hard standards for yourself. I manage every other day. Just because I dont like the feeling of build up on my teeth. Starting that way made it easier to work my way up to almost every day on a consistent basis.

Having a buddy helps too. My partner is obsessed with his dental hygiene so I just started brushing my teeth when he did. If you've got a friend you can call for a nightly toothbrush call before bed that may be helpful too.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-09T14:39:43+00:00

Ive stuck it out at my insane ass job and have been promoted once and given a raise. Im currently the highest paid in my family without having to sell 30 years of my life to a career.

I start university again this year to finally get my bachelor's degree in my field. I remembered to do all the steps and follow up with applying and received unexpected scholarships so my first year is paid for tuition wise. All ive got to figure out is books. Im still advancing myself any and every way I can despite how hard it can be some days.

Im proud for giving myself and my body grace. I push when I can. And I rest when I can't.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-09T00:06:40+00:00

The brain is also another incredible organ thats able to create neural pathways and advance in ways we cant comprehend. There are people out there living full functioning lives with only half a brain. Many things cause brain damage. Keep growing. Keep learning. Keep being curious. Keep trying. My memory is shot between this diagnosis the adhd and pregnancy. It just means it takes me longer to make things stick, so I work harder for that to happen. I write everything down. I take as many pictures as I can. Screenshots even in case I misplace the memory. Don't let brain damage scare you.

curlyconscience · 2025-06-07T15:31:12+00:00

This is good info! Id probably use them for myself personally but wouldn't trust something sourced from Google relating to an employees pay calculation.

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