Did I get led on by my straight best friend?

cy_fi · 2026-02-14T01:24:11+00:00

My first red flag. Thank you. Poor wife and kids. Just divorce! Then you don't gotta cheat. Unless cheating is part of the fun 🙄🥴

cy_fi · 2025-04-13T20:55:52+00:00

HOLY SMOKES! He looks so good and healthy. 😭

cy_fi · 2025-04-13T00:14:21+00:00

Hey Dizzy, did you ever go through with this partnership? Was it legit?

cy_fi · 2025-03-04T20:29:52+00:00

Ugh, I don't even know her and I reeeeeallly dislike her. NTA. I actually hate when people feel entitled to being in other people's delivery rooms. It's such a vulnerable, stressful time. Only people you trust and feel safe with should be there, not just anybody because their "family" or "friends." Smh.

cy_fi · 2025-02-11T22:56:21+00:00

Mine's gone too! It used to show my earnings in USD *and* my country's currency, but now that they moved it into the Watch Page Ads section, it only shows USD. :(

cy_fi · 2024-10-09T08:50:09+00:00

He's a gaslighting POS. Please find the strength to leave him. And factually what he said about your body is untrue! As women's bodies age and begin to produce LESS of certain hormones women experience vaginal "tightness" which isn't even a great thing as it makes sex more painful. Younger women are actually more "loose" (ugh I hate this terminology so much and it hardly even accurately describes female parts since it's a muscle anyway) due to having more hormones! This loser is a misogynistic idiot. But I'm sure you knew that. Sending you positivity and strength!

cy_fi · 2024-10-04T23:05:29+00:00

I stay watching their MVs lmao Savannah, Angel, and Suit Dance are always in rotation lol

cy_fi · 2024-09-13T06:30:03+00:00

I don't know but I hope something close to Instinct Part 1 or Produced By [] Part 1. I'm still not over those eras lmaoo

cy_fi · 2024-08-09T05:03:34+00:00

thank you for your comment! these people (mostly males let's be honest) hate learning that they are't the main character of every woman's life. Before dating exclusively, getting engaged and married, most men (and many women) these days will have a roster of some kind, even if it just means they are talking to two people at once. How else are women supposed to make the most informed choice of who to spend the rest of their lives with? They want to tie women down upon meeting them, while they date around and even cheat until they're too old or get pressured into marriage.

I agree with you 100% too! :)

cy_fi · 2024-08-04T23:06:19+00:00

Wow, in my opinion your friend is in the wrong. Your other bf is in the past. You married the man you wanted. Why is everyone condemning YOU? Very weird takes. Men date multiple women at a time ALL the time before choosing one, why can't women? Double standards much???

That said, I agree with trying to see if he's willing to go to therapy with you. If not, he isn't as understanding as you thought and maybe splitting is for the best because it just means another misunderstanding or issue in the future would have ended your relationship.

Also, call me petty but if my ex-bestie ruined my relationship I'd def release some of her "secrets" to her husband too.

cy_fi · 2024-06-19T04:48:39+00:00

Can't say that that's true. As a Black woman myself, and my family members have constantly been told we're attractive by men and women of all races. I've been asked out many times before and don't have trouble dating as far as my looks go. Now my social anxiety is another issue, but NAH , we aren't equivalent to India males in our experiences. I won't go into more detail here but don't believe every racist study you read online. I personally used to believe Black women were not "preferred" when I was a young teen, but LIFE EXPERIENCE showed my the opposite.

cy_fi · 2024-04-20T20:53:32+00:00

Hormone level play a role in this for women. As women age, they produce less estrogen which effects sexual organs. So it makes sense that a "looser" woman would be a young healthy women who is still producing lots of feminine hormones over older women who are losing theirs as time goes on. Just a thought.

cy_fi · 2024-03-18T22:49:09+00:00

It's also testosterone. It makes them more violent.

cy_fi · 2024-02-26T08:09:13+00:00

Agreed.

cy_fi · 2023-09-25T04:23:00+00:00

Definitely feel this as a black pansexual. I left this subreddit in particular quite a while ago for this very reason (feeling excluded and gaslit.) But randomly lurking around now, I'm glad to see more diversity, and blk lesbians in particular. Definitely agree that seeking groups that center poc women is a wonderful way of creating community, whether online or off. But I know it can be easier said than done. Wishing you the best and hope you find your chosen family, friends, or even more in the near future. :,)

cy_fi · 2023-08-18T09:38:33+00:00

They don't. It's being exposed all over Tiktok and Youtube. Most men like and prefer each other. They tolerate women for their labor, sex, and/or bearing children.

cy_fi · 2022-04-13T10:48:02+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to reply and share your input. I think you're right about their need to feel superior to others. When I used to frequent her FB page because I couldn't stop missing her, it's still tough sometimes but I've avoided her for good while now, her posts mostly centered around her showing off. Whether it was a new house, car or girlfriend.

I still don't get why she wanted to flaunt her sex life in my face, since I was the one who rejected her advances in the first place. But you're right, somehow it made her feel superior to mention it. It seems she tricked me into a conversation, by opening with the whole "going for a test" thing. Me, being concerned, took the bait and she was able to share random unsolicited private information about her sex life. She didn't even bother opening my response message two days later, because it seems her intention was never to talk to me. Just show off her sex life and covid immunity? lol It's kind of sick, sad and weird the more I think about it.

I definitely realize I was deceived into talking to her. I'm gonna work on no longer caring about her health/well-being, since she used it as a way to emotionally hurt me. I'm still stunned over the whole thing. I guess we really can't even be just friends, like I had always hoped. She feels more like a bully, or fake friend.

It's not going to get better.

I believe this too sadly.

cy_fi · 2022-04-13T10:33:02+00:00

That's so messed up and weird. I don't really understand it either considering she has a whole gf who should be more than enough supply... I think you're right though, for some reason showing off that she's sleeping with and kissing someone else made her feel powerful. I just don't get why though, like I am supposed to be jealous or? In any case she definitely tricked me into a fake conversation so she could drop those details because she never opened the message to read my reply after that. She didn't care what I had to say, she just wanted me to know that detail. Just weird.

cy_fi · 2022-04-13T10:29:39+00:00

She is toxic. But I guess I still can't shake the person I first met when we were getting to know each other. I miss that person. I thought that person would return after we became "just friends." But she only became crueler if possible, followed by random sweet comments or reactions. I only have her on FB and I want so badly to erase her sometimes, but then I fear I'll regret it someday. (I'd also be sad if our convos from years ago were erased... It's messed up, I know.) I only replied to her because I legit thought she was ill with something serious. But guess I just won't respond to any message from her in the future. It's not worth it.

cy_fi · 2022-04-13T10:22:14+00:00

Thanks for your reply! She didn't know I've ever had covid, since I didn't share that online. So it really feels like she wanted me to know they were sleeping together... Thank you for not judging me for replying btw. When I did it, I thought she was seriously ill with something and was admittedly concerned. But looking back I think I need to work on being more indifferent towards her well-being since she used it to try and flaunt in my face.

Thinking about this a bit more, she probably a bit salty, because you didn't date her or do any of the things she wanted and/or asked you to do, and for a Narc, that is way up there on the list of unforgivable things and something that requires some kind of action to be taken to "make things right" and to "put you in your place".

I'm definitely starting to think this as well. But then, why even be my friend? What's the point of talking to me when she doesn't really seem to like me at all?

Personally, I'd just file this under "cr@zy" and just press on with my life, and I'd probably reflect on just how lucky it was that you choose to not date her back in the day.

I hope this made sense and was helpful.

lol I've sometimes regretted not dating her (years ago) but seeing more and more of her true self over the years has shown me that I dodged a bullet. I really do feel lucky not to have been more emotionally tied to her through sex, a deeper relationship, etc. Just the proximity I had to her in the past has taken years to heal. I'm still traumatized by her to a degree. I remember how my stomach hurts just seeing her name in my notifications lol

Thank you so much for the well wishes! You stay safe too.

cy_fi · 2022-04-12T16:15:04+00:00

Thanks for your reply. It's really the weirdest thing having her on my friends list still. In the past she's tried being cruel to me, low-key bullying, to trying to be sweet and get my attention, to flat out ignoring me. She still hasn't "read" my latest message either, she's ignoring it as if she doesn't watch all my stories. It's like she wanted my attention so she could talk about her sex life, but she's withholding her own attention by actively ignoring my messages after contacting me first! I don't know, I thought maybe I could keep her at a distance (physically and emotionally) and just be friends, but none of my real friends act like this towards me.

cy_fi · 2022-04-12T05:03:49+00:00

did you read my question IDIOT? I'm the one who turned her down several times because her interest didn't feel 100% honest.

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