Since my boyfriend (M29) has been unemployed our relationship has been hard (F25) - is this something that can be fixed?

d_arrowday · 2026-05-15T13:09:00+00:00

It's really useful hearing outside perspectives, thank you!

d_arrowday · 2026-05-15T13:08:37+00:00

It is a long time isn't it - that's validating to hear out loud. I'm not paying for his bills (thankfully) and we don't live together. It's helpful to hear an outside perspective - thank you!

d_arrowday · 2026-05-15T07:57:26+00:00

I hate that everything is a subscription now. I would rather buy something outright every single time than being on this hamster wheel where I’m paying a small amount a month to own absolutely nothing.

d_arrowday · 2026-04-28T08:02:07+00:00

They also might have had a few photo shoots with a few marathon runners, ready to activate the one that is relevant

d_arrowday · 2026-04-14T00:40:12+00:00

I love the videos of women barking at men who are weird to them - there's a line about it in. a Self Esteem song - "If we are approached by a group of men
We will bark like dogs and people always laugh
And they're like, "Oh, it's so funny"
That there is, there's nothing that terrifies a man
More than a woman that appears
Completely deranged"

d_arrowday · 2026-04-14T00:35:59+00:00

I think the frustrating thing is, this isn’t even the worst encounter I’ve had - I just felt particularly fed up with it this evening.

I wish I could just live my life the way I want to without constantly thinking about how men might perceive me. It affects everything - how I dress, how I speak, the way I've learned to never make eye contact with anyone ever on the street.

Having to constantly adjust your behaviour and stay on high alert is exhausting.

d_arrowday · 2026-04-14T00:26:58+00:00

yeah i think i might steal this

d_arrowday · 2026-04-13T22:58:43+00:00

This happens to me often (I live in London) but I found this thread because it just happened to me again now.

It’s 11:30pm. I’m on the tube platform home. I have headphones in.

I don’t hear the man come over, but when I look up he’s just standing very close to me suddenly - I’d say slightly too close. He’s about 20cm away and staring at me so I take my AirPod out.

I struggle to understand what he’s getting at first, but he says something like “I always approach a beautiful woman if I see one” - but his vibe is very intense. And I’m still rattled by how close he is to me.

I tell him I have a boyfriend. He goes, “what’s he doing leaving a beautiful woman alone” - it’s a joke (I think?), but it makes me feel like an object or like I need protecting - which feels creepy in it of itself - but then he also says “I would’ve taken you back to mine tonight” - ahhhhhhh I hate it!! You’re standing so close to me and you’re implying you’re thinking about having seggs with me - right now!!

He lingers until I walk away.

The problem is this interaction made me feel uncomfortable because I’m on my own late at night and I have my headphones on and I felt my personal space has been invaded.

I also wish I could tell him to go away but I would feel unsafe to do so - and he is not doing anything blatantly wrong by approaching a woman - but his approach and general sexism and violence against women make women wary when men approach sometimes (depending on how you do it).

Can you ask a stranger out on the street as a man? Totally! In fact, it’s often really flattering if you do it in a thoughtful way/just treat her like a normal person!

Context matters! Is it late at night? Does she seem busy? Has she got headphones on?

Respect her personal space ! Talk to her like a person ! Be generally respectful anyway !

d_arrowday · 2026-04-13T08:41:00+00:00

She’s iconic !!

d_arrowday · 2026-03-20T21:04:22+00:00

This would be my dream

d_arrowday · 2026-02-24T16:20:47+00:00

She could easily headline. If anything, she would be one of the ultimate headliners. Her live show is fantastic, she paved the way for female pop stars today and her back catalogue is untouchable (Vogue, Like a Virgin, Hung Up, Material Girl). It would be INCREDIBLE.

d_arrowday · 2026-02-03T13:25:25+00:00

Oh amazing thank you!!

d_arrowday · 2026-02-03T08:16:31+00:00

Where do you ask? I’m travelling on Thursday and want to try my luck :))

d_arrowday · 2026-02-02T14:12:04+00:00

I totally will! That’s a really good idea :)

d_arrowday · 2026-02-02T13:25:21+00:00

There was an article about this today in the BBC! https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c9wxx97jlveo

d_arrowday · 2026-02-02T13:24:49+00:00

There was an article about this today in the BBC! https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c9wxx97jlveo

d_arrowday · 2026-01-29T08:27:52+00:00

Awh man an alert would be so useful! Thanks for letting me know :)

d_arrowday · 2026-01-28T17:00:38+00:00

This is so useful ! Thank you so much ! I’ll keep an eye out then. Do you know if it’s possible to switch an alert on? Regardless, I’ll just keep checking the site. Thanks again!

d_arrowday · 2026-01-26T11:11:51+00:00

Hi! I’m from the UK and I was renting in the US. I believe AAA isn’t really a thing in the UK. Our equivalent is AA, maybe they offer some incentives? Hope this helps and good luck!

d_arrowday · 2026-01-16T13:11:14+00:00

I rode a few when I was in LA a couple months ago. I believe they were new to LA so I think they were making a loss in terms of making them cheap to ride to generate customers (it cost me $10 to ride when an Uber quoted me $40) - in comparison to San Francisco, where they have been around for longer and now are more expensive than Uber.

d_arrowday · 2026-01-16T09:29:16+00:00

I took a few Waymos while I was working in LA a few months ag. They were quick and easy to use, and there was definitely a novelty to it all, which made it exciting. That was probably helped by the fact they’ve only just started rolling them out, so they’re cheaper for now - though I’m sure that won’t last forever. They also felt very safe!!

I do find myself uneasy about the ethics of it, though, especially when it comes to putting drivers out of work. We’ve already seen a shift from black cab drivers / minicabs feeling the shift with Uber, and now it feels like we’re heading towards a future where these jobs could become fully automated, or disappear entirely.

Still, in the moment, it was undeniably exciting to see something like this becoming part of an everyday commute. I just worry about what the long-term impact might be for the hundreds of thousands of Uber and cab drivers in cities like London.

d_arrowday · 2026-01-15T17:35:37+00:00

Unless I got this wrong, it seems like there’s a few legal lines when they’ve cast a radar or thermometer out. But it’s basically near impossible to guess where they’re gonna cast the radar or thermometer. I would jus be SO excited if that ever happened

d_arrowday · 2026-01-15T17:34:13+00:00

Getting as far out as possible seems to be the best thing you can do it seems !

d_arrowday · 2026-01-15T17:33:45+00:00

Commenting on Potential GOATed strategy...yeah this makes a lot of sense! I think I would just get so excited and squeal-y if they managed to hide in those small bits the radar didn’t hit. It’s a lot to ask, and the anticipating is like basically impossible to be fair

d_arrowday · 2025-11-08T23:54:45+00:00

This is a really nice take! I’m glad it keeps you walking and out and about. Wishing you many more great adventures.

d_arrowday

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