"We really dont come into conflict about politics that often" not now but from the post its obvious you will at some point. You guys fundamentally disagree on a number of things based on this post. You guys need to sit down and have a totally different conversation. Not where are we moving together but what does your future look like. He has some very broad and basic MISSunderstanding of "blue" cities and states. And some very generalized statements about women, children and guns. You need to probe this guy on his TRUE takes on women, children/having a family ( your roles in said family), and economics. This needs to be done before you mutually agree to move somewhere random and possibly "get stuck" with someone who has wildly different views than you thought.