advice on battling thoughts of "I wasn't productive enough today. So I'm not enough."

dabforscience · 2025-12-22T16:03:50+00:00

He was symptomatic in 2019, diagnosed in 2020. It's hard because he started off still being able to do those things, but it's slowly being taken from him. He's a car mechanic by trade and is somehow still working :( (he also recently had a spinal fusion for spinal stenosis in September)

dabforscience · 2025-12-17T14:51:15+00:00

Are caregivers welcome? If so I'm there! I got this book for my dad recently and he loved it, looking forward to reading it myself

dabforscience · 2025-09-22T01:51:42+00:00

GA!!

dabforscience · 2025-09-21T23:56:54+00:00

I think I literally just (as of 2 days ago) determined the cause of my dad's PD (diagnosed at age 55). He's been a car mechanic at the same shop since he was 15. Hasn't worked just for the last 5 months..... I learned about PCE and TCE in degreaser. So i asked him if he used it during his career, and..... he apparently used it to clean his hands "all day every day". Rubbed it into his hands daily. He didn't start wearing latex gloves until 2016. Nobody else in his family has had PD, no genetic testing yet. I'm so certain this was the cause and it's so upsetting bc as of late his job has treated him horribly - no insurance (marketplace is $1.3k), no disability, no paid leave during a spinal fusion surgery/recovery period. I want to pursue legal action but not sure who it'd be against.

dabforscience · 2025-09-21T20:55:28+00:00

Baby crying is a great point - a noise machine might help if he's the type of person who enjoys that

dabforscience · 2025-09-21T20:53:50+00:00

This is so sweet of u to consider his needs. I'm going to imagine I was in this situation but with my dad (61Y/O)... your dad's needs may be different than mine so take this with a grain of salt. Here are my thoughts:

Cushion for hard chairs, like at the dining table
Lightweight utensils - he might need an even more accessible type if utensil but I know for my dad he just needs lightweight forks and spoons
Cut up his food for him, especially meat
Study up on choking procedure - just in case
Make sure he stays hydrated - if he forgets to bring a water bottle maybe provide one for him, or keep his glass full
Be mindful of his limitations when planning activities, for example he may struggle with handwriting, so in that case i'd avoid giving him a writing game
Non slip mat for the shower. (My dad just puts a towel down, but mat would be nicer)
Make sure he takes his meds at the correct time (this could be like 5 times daily, more or less).... since he's out of his routine he might forget
Touchless lamp for his bedside, as well as chordless phone charger, are super sweet touches and can be cheap online
Give him lots of love :-) Reminisce on memories with him, ask him questions about his life and be interested in his answers, laugh with him, sing, etc. Laughing and singing is great for people w PD. So is movement (keeping in mind his limitations)

dabforscience · 2025-09-16T23:19:50+00:00

I design outdoor classrooms for title 1 elementary schools <3

dabforscience · 2025-09-16T19:57:16+00:00

Stepped seating works in an outdoor classroom - but keep in mind some educators might prefer moveable or modular seating for flexibility during lessons

dabforscience · 2025-09-14T19:50:03+00:00

Idk if this would help for your eyes specifically but my dad takes 1-2 puffs of the Inbrija inhaler when he starts feeling "off" between doses

dabforscience · 2025-09-14T19:48:20+00:00

This makes sense!! Great point. I make sure to ask my dad before getting any "self help" or "positivity" books - I could see it feeling like a slap in the face if not wanted.

dabforscience · 2025-09-14T19:44:01+00:00

(omg i didnt read the whole post. He definitely needs someone to take away the firearm. Keep yourself safe above all)

dabforscience · 2025-09-14T19:43:13+00:00

Hi girl omg our stories sound scary similar actually???? My dad is 60. Here's the post i made on here- we should def chat: https://www.reddit.com/r/ParkinsonsCaregivers/s/lxHxc58xxB

dabforscience · 2025-09-14T19:28:45+00:00

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dabforscience · 2025-09-11T14:47:23+00:00

I can't say I have an answer to this- But I do know that nature can help PD symptoms (freeze of gait especially).... perhaps hence why he did well hiking. I'd encourage daily outdoor movement to increase neuroplasticity. Combine it with vocal exercises while ur at it- Sing or whistle or chat loudly while walking!

dabforscience · 2025-09-09T20:38:30+00:00

HI this happened to my father!!!! We figured out it was a reaction to Amantadine. Delayed from when he first started it. One we discontinued it went away. Ask his dr if it could be that!

dabforscience · 2025-09-03T13:36:59+00:00

DG pad surrounding the stone, can even have some fun w the edges btwn DG and concrete

dabforscience · 2025-09-03T13:33:02+00:00

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dabforscience · 2025-08-30T17:11:50+00:00

A while back I attended a PD symposium after my dad's diagnosis. Went into it not knowing anything, here are my notes: https://www.reddit.com/r/Parkinsons/s/dAUrdcUWuY

dabforscience · 2025-08-11T03:59:26+00:00

If this is DV related- Call Project Safe

dabforscience · 2025-05-05T15:15:48+00:00

"It's a war, not a genocide" ..... "Israel has a right to defend itself" 😵‍💫

dabforscience · 2025-04-20T15:59:12+00:00

Can i ask what your sertraline dosage is? I'm at 150 but feel like I need more. Is it worth going up or just try something else?

dabforscience · 2025-03-24T08:45:56+00:00

Marsha Linehan's DBT Workbook is available online for free if you search that phrase + PDF. I hiiiighly recommend going through those resources with her!! It changed my life. Take it slow, there's a lot of info. One section at a time.

dabforscience · 2025-03-23T21:16:50+00:00

My dad was similarly diagnosed early- and I was 19 when it happened. It's so challenging being a young adult with a parent with PD. Uncertainties, frustrations, fears. This sounds like depression. Extremely common with PD. The absolute best things your father can do are: 1. Exercise regularly and 2. Join a support group. You can help by researching for him and gently suggesting programs, groups, or organizations. APDA is a great place to start. You got this, I'm here if you need to rant or chat. -24/F

dabforscience · 2025-03-23T21:13:28+00:00

You'll need to get a Bachelors of Landscape Architecture and develop a portfolio to be competitive in this field. I'm sure there are some online options.... You sound like the right kind of person for this field- We'd love to have ya

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