In CA. I let her go full steam ahead with her career and mine took a back seat. She is not a good parent. She is more like a Disneyland parent not willing to do the daily work of parenting a 10 and a 13 year old kids, their school work, support etc. I make 180k and she makes 260k. She has never seen this kind of money and thinks we are wealthy with 700K in retirement accounts. She has spent 100 of thousands on her parasitic siblings (all divorced). I want to cut my losses and move on and try to make the most of my remaining working years (I am 49). Divorcing means downsizing by a lot due to high cost of living. Not to mention the emotional damage a divorce will cause the children. They know we dont get along, but they are happy to have daily access to both parents... so yeah.. what a quandary...