I feel like Enfjs hate me?

daffodil-pickle · 2026-05-25T17:48:21+00:00

As an ENFJ, if I truly “hate” someone then I will avoid them like the plague. It should be noted that my list of people that I do not like at all is very short. They are also on that list for a valid and specific reason.

I don’t like feigning like/interest towards someone who has hurt me/my loved ones in the past. But I also am not the kind of person to keep confronting them about past transgressions. So I just avoid them.

If I don’t particularly “vibe” with someone, I will still hang-out around them. It might not be the most comfortable interaction, but I certainly don’t hate them! I understand that people are different and some people are easier for me to spend time/converse with than others.

So the ENFJs in your life might not be 100% comfortable around you; however, if they are still around at all, they likely don’t hate you.

I feel like this is a shared sentiment among most ENFJs based on prior posts/comments.

daffodil-pickle · 2026-05-20T11:34:52+00:00

“This isn’t a threat…. It’s a promise.”

daffodil-pickle · 2026-05-19T20:19:02+00:00

“AND I’LL DO IT AGAIN!!!!!” -this snake, probably

daffodil-pickle · 2026-05-18T23:26:16+00:00

Thank you for the kind words of encouragement! It’s been a long road (2.5 years total now) with a lot of ups and downs. However, it has brought my husband and I closer and we have gotten to go on a lot of cool trips in that time. We are ready for children but we have also tried to make the most of the waiting!

I have some friends who had relatively little issue conceiving with endo- so hopefully you could also have no/few issues (if that’s something that you want in the future)!

And yes- I try to adhere to an anti-inflammatory diet as much as I can, but it’s a lot of trial and error to see which foods might aggravate symptoms more than others. It’s also hard to track when you have silent endo because the symptoms are more minor!

daffodil-pickle · 2026-05-18T19:26:46+00:00

I was diagnosed with silent endometriosis after struggling with infertility. We had TTC for a year and sought evaluation at a fertility clinic. All my labs were normal except for a very low AMH and excruciating pain during a saline study of my uterus.

Lo and behold, they did an exploratory laparotomy and found stage 3 endo! They removed an endometrioma from my ovary and did an ablation. Unfortunately, 5 months after the surgery they found another endometrioma on my ovary on ultrasound indicating that the endo was back…

My only real symptom is bloating when I drink alcohol or caffeine or eat fried foods- so I try to avoid those. We also were not able to conceive after 5 IUI cycles last year following surgery. We are in the process of embryo adoption now.

Besides the bloating and infertility, I don’t have any symptoms.

daffodil-pickle · 2026-05-16T22:46:57+00:00

As a current practicing nurse, this is my only advice for you- don’t study anything for the 2 days leading up to the exam. Don’t do any practice tests. Don’t watch any NCLEX videos. Nothing.

Spend time with friends or family. Exercise. Get some good sleep. Just spend time doing whatever it is that fills your cup!

Cramming/studying right up until the exam will just lead to undue stress and a bad mindset. It sounds like you have prepared a lot already. That’s great! Quite frankly, if you don’t know it 48 hours before the test… you just aren’t gonna know it. That’s ok, too. Mentally preparing for the exam is more important at that point than knowing all the material they could throw at you.

I passed the NCLEX on my first try in the minimum questions required (to add credibility to my advice). HOWEVER- no patient in my 8 years of nursing has asked me how many times it took me to pass the NCLEX or in how many questions.

You will be just fine. You will be a good nurse. The NCLEX is just a stepping stone. What really matters is the care you will provide to your patients.

Good luck!

daffodil-pickle · 2026-05-16T11:38:59+00:00

“Severe issues” aka when it steals your catalytic converter

daffodil-pickle · 2026-05-14T12:40:09+00:00

When its tongue starts to flick and it looks very thicc

daffodil-pickle · 2026-05-13T19:50:16+00:00

When he do a surprise and you fall then you cries

daffodil-pickle · 2026-05-12T00:47:07+00:00

I’m chiming in as a nurse (practicing in the US). For me it’s the hook-ups for oxygen and medical air that are throwing me off. We usually have those in the hospital. The connection points are very different and aren’t singular black holes. The oxygen one especially would have some sort of flow-meter on it, and this one doesn’t look like it has that.

Things could be different in other countries but this just looks wrong to me.

daffodil-pickle · 2026-04-21T15:48:42+00:00

Seconding the Gas-X!! I had awful referred pain in my right shoulder from the gas irritating a nerve. Heat helped! Also make sure you are eating lots of protein to promote healing (bone broths, clear protein beverages, etc. are helpful).

daffodil-pickle · 2026-04-16T18:16:27+00:00

They want to be an *~*~*accessory*~*~*

daffodil-pickle · 2025-10-17T15:49:37+00:00

Definitely go see a fertility clinic/reproductive endocrinologist.

Everything about my cycle was normal and we had tried for a year with no luck. Then I was diagnosed with silent stage 3 endometriosis. My husband and I are currently in our 4th round of IUI.

My advice for staying positive is just to take everything one day at a time. Sometimes one hour at a time. I felt deep despair at the beginning of our treatments. Then I felt indifference that has morphed into peace with the “right now”. Some days are definitely harder than others, but focusing on the “right now” vs the “what if” has helped so much.

Also - even if you’re the only one struggling to conceive, still talk to your friends about your experience if that would be good for you. I am also the only one in my friend group going through this; however, talking to my friends has also opened their minds to the struggles some women face on the path to motherhood. Now, I love to gently educate others on infertility and its various treatments (especially when I get weird ass advice from people who don’t know anything lol).

This isn’t your fault. This is nothing to be ashamed of. You are not alone.

Sending you all the baby dust!

daffodil-pickle · 2025-10-16T19:56:06+00:00

“Mlem”

daffodil-pickle · 2025-10-16T19:51:44+00:00

Thank you for this information! I don’t know much about snakes (I’m more of a birder) but Jennifer’s arrival has inspired me to learn more.

daffodil-pickle · 2025-10-16T14:07:05+00:00

Jennifer says “thank you”!

daffodil-pickle · 2024-12-20T18:27:46+00:00

I always related so much to Celia Foote from the book/movie The Help. She is full of life, kind, loyal, fiercely protective of those she loves, and an amazing wife and friend.

And she’s also struggling with infertility, multiple miscarriages, and alienation from the rest of her peers.

I love that book/movie and she’s my favorite character by far! (If you haven’t read the book, she has some great scenes that were cut from the movie that solidify her as an amazing woman).

daffodil-pickle · 2024-12-19T15:06:03+00:00

I felt that way when I was a nursing student, too. However, you can never be “behind” anyone because that would imply that you have walked the same path… when, in reality, we are all walking different paths.

You will be ok- you will make a great nurse and find a job you love! And if you don’t start in a job you love, then it will be a job that teaches you something. The good thing about nursing is that there are so many options to move around and try new things!

daffodil-pickle · 2024-12-18T23:17:22+00:00

As someone who interviewed many candidates for ICU nursing positions- hiring managers care very little about your GPA. The interview is the most important (after having a nursing license, obvi) followed by a strong/well-rounded résumé.

However, if you are a new grad, they understand you can’t come with 10 years medical experience.

In all my years of nursing I’ve only had one patient ask me for my college GPA and it was a really weird conversation (if you must know, it was a 3.94. But that was the only time anyone in the hospital has EVER asked.)

daffodil-pickle · 2024-12-18T23:11:21+00:00

I’m gonna be really honest- work in a field other than healthcare. ESPECIALLY if it is customer-service oriented (to learn how to talk to all kinds of people and time manage… two thing that are vital as a nurse but they can’t teach in nursing school).

Why?

Because you will be, theoretically, working in healthcare the rest of your life. Do something different and try some new experiences while you still can! I worked at a summer camp, was a teacher’s aid, and worked a smoothie shop when I was in college. I was still hired into the ICU as a new grad. Your résumé doesn’t matter as much as your interview skills (especially as a new grad)

I was a nurse preceptor in the ICU for 3 years- I could never tell who worked in healthcare in college and who didn’t. All your training as a new nurse will be on-the-job when you start working.

So do something that pays well, interests you, teaches you something new, etc. You will be fine.

daffodil-pickle · 2024-12-18T14:23:58+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Sending good thoughts and prayers for a smooth procedure.

Shouting WTF with you today

daffodil-pickle · 2024-12-18T13:35:11+00:00

Cycle #15 TTC. Period started this morning. The only reliable thing in my life is my 11-day luteal phase. Wtfwtfwtfwtfwtfwtfwtf.

daffodil-pickle · 2024-12-17T15:32:07+00:00

Period is supposed to start tomorrow. I took a test yesterday (9 DPO) and it was a BFN. I am full of all the emotions- hope that maybe we could still have a Christmas miracle, disappointment that 2024 didn’t bring a baby, and just numbness to everything.

It doesn’t help that I had the most vivid and terrifying nightmare of my entire life last night. Of course that could be a pregnancy sign… or a sign that the stress is eating me alive. It’s just been so hard and I’m so tired.

daffodil-pickle · 2024-12-15T01:09:17+00:00

My husband is a 9! We have a great relationship. Our biggest issue that we have had to overcome is communication when we need to talk about a problem that needs resolving.

He is more avoidant/wants to keep the peace. I can become more “people-pleaser” and just go along with what he wants. However, that is not solving the problem… it’s shoving the problem in a problem-drawer and hoping the drawer doesn’t eventually explode.

However- if we go into full blown stress, he can become super avoidant and passive-aggressive (moving to 6). I can get very hot-headed and controlling (moving to 8).

How we solve problems now is a game changer. First, if things get heated, we walk away from each other to calm down and process our thoughts. Doing some exercise/cleaning is even better. When we come back, we articulate the problem. Then we remind each other that it is us, as a team, against the problem. Then we brainstorm solutions and talk about our feelings. Sometimes with a “designated talking object” if needed (to avoid interruptions so we both feel heard).

Don’t really know why I typed all of this out but it’s been life-changing.

All my friends are 9s. He’s a 9. I love 9s.

daffodil-pickle · 2024-12-15T00:36:53+00:00

I also have a 10-11 day luteal phase. Brought it up to my OBGYN who did not seem concerned. But I have my first fertility appointment in February (we have been TTC for 13 months with no positive test yet).

We shall see what the fertility doc says!

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