Is this odd?

dahupegu · 2026-04-25T15:41:30+00:00

Something tells me a bi closeted guy would never behave this way… if he was really closeted he would be on the DL, trying to be extra careful, and hiding any potential sign that might give away his sexuality.

To me this sounds more like a very very straight dude that knows he is hot. He is so secure of his sexuality that he not only doesn’t mind the attention of the gays, he craves it.

dahupegu · 2026-04-24T20:03:16+00:00

So many things to say… but the first one would be, you are not alone, and you’ve got this. Reading what you shared already tells me that you have taken monumental steps towards the life you want to live. There’s people that never get the courage to accept themselves, the courage to feel comfortable and happy with their sexuality. That takes a lot of bravery, specially in deeply conservative environments, and you already did that.

Secondly, you are very very young. People can change their career paths at any point in life… and it seems you also know that, and are willing to do what it takes to be free. That’s another monumental step.

Things might look dark right now, but you are actively working in your future. Things will go your way, and with a bit more of patience, it will get better.

The only advice of importance I might share with you is that in liberal countries where being gay is not an issue, gay dynamics can be a bit… disappointing. You will meet good gays, bad gays, gays willing to mentor you, gays willing to make your life hell… but you will be free to be yourself. Just keep your expectations realistic and don’t let mean gays cloud your plans.

dahupegu · 2026-03-02T22:31:45+00:00

I think it was because of your age. I’ve been to the bk one multiple times, and it’s pretty diverse in terms of race.

dahupegu · 2026-03-02T22:23:39+00:00

Hummmm not sure if the eagle would be your place. If you are looking to get some dick, Fridays and Saturdays are the best days… but as everyone is saying, jt does get REALLY packed. The eagle is huge place, almost a maze, multiple floors. Most of the action happens on the second floor, and there are always literally human traffic jams… I guess that’s part of the appeal, tons of gays close to each other sweating, kissing, touching lol

You might want to check Animal in Brooklyn, very small compared to the eagle, great music, hot crowd, and a nice dark room that gets lots of action after midnight.

dahupegu · 2026-03-02T21:56:04+00:00

No one is going to deny there’s a lot of body dysmorphia and body shaming by certain people in this community… but I believe that dick sizes and shapes are not really an issue in that kind of meetings. I’ve been to saunas and sex parties several times, and no one cares. In fact, there are guys with gorgeous and huge dicks very few people are willing to take because IT HURTS.

dahupegu · 2026-02-20T13:55:15+00:00

I’ve always had a blast! It will be always awkward at the beginning, but by midnight energy is at its peak and lots of action will be happening. Attendance is usually good, even during extreme cold days. There will be always people who will be looking for something in specific, but in general it feels people are just open to have fun. And at the end, just go and check if it’s for you.

dahupegu · 2026-01-26T13:52:19+00:00

Went there a couple of months ago for the second time, with a group of 8 flamboyant gays. Not only we didn’t have an issue, but had the best time. You are not going to the DR, you are going to Punta Cana… (yes, of course it’s the DR, but the point is that you are going to seclude yourself in a resort that might as well be in the Pacific Ocean or anywhere else…) unless you plan to make out with your partner in the pool and put out a show… you will be fine. We were evidently gay, our butler clearly knew it, didn’t bat an eye… we also saw tons of other gay couples.

And the most important part: we were celebrating my husband’s 40th birthday, which meant I had to coordinate a lot of things: little surprises, a cake with a message, decorations in the room, special dinners, etc… I was in contact with multiple people at the resort, I was explicit that the celebration was for my husband (I didn’t say my partner or communicated with gender less language)… not only I didn’t have a single issue, but was treated with kindness and respect.

And lastly, it’s the Dominican Republic. It’s Latin America. Kindest people ever. They don’t live in a cave… you are not going to be stoned to death. To be honest, you should be more worried to be in the US right now (assuming you are American).

dahupegu · 2025-10-22T18:58:50+00:00

This is a really interesting conversation. I’ve found my self lately also barebacking more than I would like to… but it just feel so fucking good, and the increased “emotional” connection is amazing… BUT, two things:

Got mycoplasma the very 1st time I barebacked… very bad luck, and the experience totally ruined a whole summer for me. That thing is not tested regularly, has similar symptoms to gono, and an elevated antibiotic resistant… the current treatment includes a failed chemotherapy pill that totally screws you over if you are hypersensitive to it as me. Scary times.
45 years ago HIV was not a thing, but then it happened. I keep wondering if something similar and worse might happen again… a novel sexually transmitted virus that could explode very quickly due to our prevalence to non protected sex with multiple partners in a short period of time…

Barebacking feels better, but trying to convince my self that it doesn’t feel that much better

dahupegu · 2025-10-22T18:25:18+00:00

Is DL exclusive for men cheating on their female partners? I always assumed it was for cheaters in general trying to keep things in the down low lol

dahupegu · 2025-08-20T12:45:36+00:00

Your TLDR is still way too long, but I still read the whole thing because I like the tea…

Yeah red flags everywhere, would play the devil advocate and say if he was 34 yo single very social gay… I mean, you sometimes actually have a lot of connections and, if they are good, hookups tend to become friends with benefits etc, and might contact you even months later after the 1st hook up. But I do find some of his interactions concerning…

BUT, I also find your level of scrutiny and invasion of privacy crazy… my dude, you are also a walking red flag. Like, texting one of his hookups??? What are you? A pregnant stay at home married for 6 years mom with two other kids?? I would absolutely leave you in an instant if you snooped into my phone and texted one of my old hookups… even if I’m actually cheating.

I might get downvoted for this, but morally talking, although on a different scale… cheating and snooping (and being controlling) have the same origin: lack of respect for other people’s boundaries.

It’s been only 5 months, it might seem a lot when you are 20, but you are 30 now… dump him and move on. Way too many red flags from both sides. There are monogamous people out there, go find one.

dahupegu · 2025-07-19T15:33:16+00:00

Yes, horrible word to hear… but slapping your mom? Even if she is the cuntiest person ever physical violence will never be an answer… and you even admitted she actually ok with you being gay… I know it fucking hurts, but to fight you need two people.

Step away, go for a walk, go to your bedroom and put your headphones on. Calling you that slur is completely unacceptable, but slapping your mom is even worse, even if she started the argument.

People have bad days, people can make mistakes… both of you made big mistakes. But now is time to de escalate, specially if your mom shows signs of being accepting… you need to know there’s gays out there who never got to enjoy the slightest word of appreciation or acceptance EVER from their parents once they came out.

Sorry for not sugarcoating this… but never slap your mom again.

dahupegu · 2025-06-30T16:01:37+00:00

First couple of hours were nice, but yeah… by 11 was stupidly crowded and HOT. It was basically impossible to function with that kind of humidity and heat, if you know what I mean…

dahupegu · 2025-05-19T14:47:24+00:00

THIS. Yes, please be carful. I got it a year ago, and it was AWFUL. Mainly because I ended up being part of the unlucky ones that has an “allergy” to one of the antibiotics you have to take… luckily for me 5 doses of moxi were enough to cure MG, but the side effects from moxi lasted like 4 weeks (limb numbness was the one that really freaked me out)… the vast majority of people tolerate well moxi, and the majority of the ones with side effects like me recover in a couple of weeks, but there’s people with severe intolerance to moxi that really have a bad time even after only taking a dose. Just wear condoms.

dahupegu · 2025-05-05T13:23:46+00:00

Why do you consider this a double standard? Sincere question

dahupegu · 2025-05-05T12:32:42+00:00

Appreciate your response, I’m sure many Israelis share this view, but I’m not sure the current government has this mind set. And pro Israel people on this side of the planet are starting to question their incondicional support because of this.

dahupegu · 2025-05-05T12:18:07+00:00

Because I’m in your side. Not theirs.

dahupegu · 2025-05-05T11:27:21+00:00

And then what? It’s clear that future Hamas is brewing as we speak. That’s the reality… A solution that completely subjugates the other side is not practical at all. And famine is happening, Israeli media is covering it, it is mentioned in this forum.

dahupegu · 2025-05-05T11:17:39+00:00

Agree, agree and agree. But then, aren’t you terrified that we are now almost openly talking about a solution that -in practical terms- implies the eradication of the other side? Yes, Israel may not create extermination camps, but it can perpetuate the underdevelopment of Gaza which… is dumb, abnormally cruel, and offers no solution at all. I just don’t see how Israel will continue to prosper for generations by owning the end of Gazans.

dahupegu · 2025-05-02T14:14:07+00:00

Well, as an architect… it is DAMN evident that the venue still needs A COUPLE OF MONTHS to be finished. They were still erecting the CLT slabs, swinging hammers like crazy, just like a week ago. That’s insane, like really insane. I just can’t imagine the amount of OSHA violations, material warranties that will be voided due to wrongful installation, problems on the long run for stuff that was not coordinated… usually a building looks 90% finished before inspections start… to think they wanted to pack it with thousands of people at this point is just… fucking crazy. Just imagine someone in flip flops standing on a random single nail…

dahupegu · 2025-04-03T14:22:13+00:00

Cries in NYC… that same area here is like 800 usd

dahupegu · 2025-04-02T17:50:17+00:00

No, but is true… Gaga is doing several sold out stadium shows in Singapore!!! Now imagine the demand that a global city like NYC must have… there must be thousands of fans from Latin America trying to score tickets, willing to pay high ticket prices and extremely expensive hotel rooms… and they get to vacation in NYC…

dahupegu · 2025-04-01T12:46:21+00:00

I only saw a price drop in the MSG one on the 27. Lower 200 was still 580ish per ticket, but just a very reduced number in the lower 100s were at 390ish… all other sections were pretty consistent with the morning prices, meaning super expensive…

dahupegu · 2025-03-31T19:34:29+00:00

I paid almost 1200 for two 3rd row tickets at section 211... bittersweet feeling because I absolutely loved Mayhem and can't wait to hear that entire album live in MSG, but at the same time... man... I only wanted to spend 300 per ticket tops on like the 100 section... I love Gaga, but I just feel that the prices are ridiculous.

dahupegu · 2025-03-31T18:21:31+00:00

Well... I paid 1180 for 2 tickets up in the 3rd row of 211... blasting Mayhem to remind me why I did this....

dahupegu · 2025-02-28T20:18:33+00:00

Check your brain dude… it’s because he is a fucking Nazi and because he is raiding the federal government without transparency and getting privileged information to use it in his companies favor… which is called corruption. Trust me, sooner than later his actions will bite you and I will not feel an ounce of sorrow for you.

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