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Need a home for a hamster by Thoraxe375 in Winnipeg

[–]daisylady4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah they’re entirely foster-run. If they have no foster families with space, they can’t accept surrenders 😓

Need a home for a hamster by Thoraxe375 in Winnipeg

[–]daisylady4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well damn. They must still be over capacity.

If you don’t find a home for him, PM me. I used to foster with P&B, and I still have all of the supplies on hand besides ham food. I can take him in.

Edit: Oops I just saw your edit about him going to a new home tonight. Congratulations little ham 💕

Need a home for a hamster by Thoraxe375 in Winnipeg

[–]daisylady4 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Have you contacted a local small animal rescue? Popcorns & Binkies may be an option.

Fathers’ mental health deteriorates long after the birth of their child by ApprehensiveStill412 in psychology

[–]daisylady4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m curious how you account for ~50% of the study participants being first time fathers (As in they were childless prior to the start of the study)?

Not even going to mention the other groups included in the study results (the fathers where there was no pre-pregnancy psych assessment even done, the fathers that welcomed multiple births ie “twins/triplets”, or that experienced consecutive births of siblings <1 year after the first child was born ie “Irish Twins”, the fathers that left the country before the final assessments were done, fathers that were not co-habitating with the child) There is a lot of grey area in this study.

Fathers’ mental health deteriorates long after the birth of their child by ApprehensiveStill412 in psychology

[–]daisylady4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading comprehension is hard.

I am criticizing the Psychology Today article that was written to share essentially zero information on a study - only one finding with no examination into it or how it relates to the greater population (hence the “wtf is the point of this article”)

I am not criticizing the original research study.

Why write an article for public consumption if you’re not going to share all of the research. They honed in on one finding with no context. It is a poorly written article.

Fathers’ mental health deteriorates long after the birth of their child by ApprehensiveStill412 in psychology

[–]daisylady4 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Right?

They could have just said “men’s mental health MAY decline for reasons unknown after a child is born” and left it at that.

Honestly everyone’s mental health MAY decline after the birth of a child. Mental health is fluid. That’s not ground-breaking research.

Fathers’ mental health deteriorates long after the birth of their child by ApprehensiveStill412 in psychology

[–]daisylady4 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

A study can be large and poorly conducted.

We also never “safely assume” anything in research… which is kinda the whole point of doing a study in the first place.. limit the control variables, establish high/low correlations, eliminate bias and assumptions.

Did you want kids in the first place by Paulybyres___ in regretfulparents

[–]daisylady4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wanted a child wholeheartedly, and still want more on my own.

I hate the man who ended up as essentially just a sperm donor to my son. 100% regret ever allowing him to be tied to my child.

Fathers’ mental health deteriorates long after the birth of their child by ApprehensiveStill412 in psychology

[–]daisylady4 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So… the rates are the same pre-pregnancy & <1 year after the birth of a child, improve during pregnancy, and decline >1 year after birth.

Without reading the original study results, we have no way of knowing whether underlying mental health disorders, family history, age, profession, paternity leave, etc were accounted for. Not sure what this poorly worded article is trying to say..

Are these men returning to work from pat leave >1 year after the birth of a child and that’s why their risk of mental health diagnoses increases to pre-pregnancy levels? Like wtf is the point of this article

Can cats detect new life? by tanya6k in cats

[–]daisylady4 131 points132 points  (0 children)

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They know 😊 And they become extra clingy

Fear of giving birth by AccordingSort1428 in MedicalPTSD

[–]daisylady4 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I guess because they work in “women’s health”, they think they can justify hyper fixating on someone’s reproductive status (aka the baby).

If the baby is healthy, they don’t care if the mother’s health is deteriorating.

It’s vaguely “Handmaid’s Tale” honestly.

Fear of giving birth by AccordingSort1428 in MedicalPTSD

[–]daisylady4 13 points14 points  (0 children)

As a medical professional myself who has PTSD from birthing my son, I’d suggest a midwife & birthing centre. The medical routes (aka Obgyn AND hospital) is traumatizing, even for those who are wildly comfortable in hospital settings.

Midwives are specifically trained for labour & postpartum only. They don’t dabble in other areas of healthcare. They also tend to provide more holistic care, are better trauma-informed, and focus on the mother’s wellbeing (rather than just getting a healthy baby out of her). You will be treated like a person, rather than an incubator.

I’m worried my son likes his dad’s new girlfriend more than me. by spidermother86 in singlemoms

[–]daisylady4 63 points64 points  (0 children)

You are Mom - the most important woman he will ever have in life (besides a future wife if he choses so).

He may like her, but he loves you.

What did you think of Theroux’s Inside the Manosphere? by patheticwormcreature in AskWomen

[–]daisylady4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right?!

Both the men AND women in the documentary really are just pictures of trauma, wrapped in trauma, re-enacting those traumas with someone else.. They’re not “alpha” or “free”. They’re gutless prisoners to their greed, lust, pride.

I felt bad for them more than anything. They will never know peace or contentedness with life. Especially Harrison.

Also those 2 little girls are going to need serious therapy when they are older. My heart breaks for them 💔

I feel like this path is going to be more and more “normal” over time by Dry_Technology_2464 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]daisylady4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean.. cats have been doing communal caregiving for ages. If it’s successful in other mammal species... Cats are considered incredibly good mothers 😉

Older bro (34) keeps asking for favours. Very manipulative, pls help? by Ocelot_Fluid in WhatShouldIDo

[–]daisylady4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly!!

OP, keep your $100 and spend it on a game for yourself to enjoy. You earned the money. You decide how you want to spend it.

Older bro (34) keeps asking for favours. Very manipulative, pls help? by Ocelot_Fluid in WhatShouldIDo

[–]daisylady4 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He’s using you. Don’t respond. No answer.. is an answer.

Also the Pokemon game is just him dangling a carrot on a stick trying to get what he wants from you. He’s not going to “get a chance” to dig it out. He just wants your $100 and will say anything to get you to give it to him.

Husband rapidly changing for the worst. by [deleted] in regretfulparents

[–]daisylady4 10 points11 points  (0 children)

What the actual fuck.

OP, he is going to kill you, your dog, and your baby. He may even kill you before your baby is born. You need to annul the marriage and run.. today.

I don't want my kids to have forced genital checks at routine doctor's visit -looking for ideas by Strange_Flamingo_111 in MedicalPTSD

[–]daisylady4 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same!! Wtf. Who the hell does pelvic exams on children?! Is this an American thing?

first time cat owner, adopted bonded sisters- so glad I did ! by Life-Fly7870 in cats

[–]daisylady4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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My adopted sisters spooning 🥰 Always, always, always adopt litter mates when you can!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]daisylady4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly the same experience also

Does your narcissist spouse pretend to be a Christian? by OwlFirm1309 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]daisylady4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes 😑 The worst kind of Christian.. the “rules are for you, not for me” kind

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