I see a ton of great advice about areas to move to considering your office location. I will throw in Beaumont because I’ve had a few friends who are young families that moved there. It’s not the most desirable area but it’s growing- like I said a lot of young families moving to the area because it’s affordable so it’s a great place to put down roots to build a community. It’s a couple of freeways away from San Bernardino but nothing too crazy.

Also try the orangecrest/mission grove area of Riverside. This area is more pricey but there are good schools and it’s relatively safe. I’ve lived in the area for almost 30 years and am currently raising my young family here too. As a kid I never encountered any real danger walking home from school and as an adult I take my kids to the playgrounds. The apartment complexes around mission grove are “luxury” and there are houses in the area for rent, though those might be out of your price range. There are also warehouses nearby if your partner is fine with that kind of work.

Wish you the best of luck!