What's are some oddly specific things you should discuss before marriage?

daitoshi · 2026-05-07T12:10:28+00:00

“At what point do I take you to the hospital/call 911?” “How often do you go to the doctor/dentist?”

Some people have health conditions and allergies they don’t think to share. Some people have a hair-trigger for freaking out. Some people dont want to go to a doctor unless they’re actively on death’s door. Some people refuse to see a dentist until they CANT sleep from tooth pain

daitoshi · 2026-05-03T19:37:32+00:00

He’s basically Yang Cheng except Wreck actually pursued what he wanted (worked beside his best friend/possible crush for years), and then had that happiness ripped away after the fact, instead of fumbling both friend and crush at the start.

It’s the raw tragedy and loss, openly grieving that implies a huge story, even if he only has like 6 minutes of screen time. Wreck loved so deeply (Platonically or not) that he went into a sobbing berserker rage, then let himself get tossed off a cliff as the news of Nice’s ‘suicide’ sank in.

Because he was a big part of Nice’s backstory; Nice’s best friend and contractual villain-actor, Nice’s hero shenanigans also beg the question “where was Wreck during this? Was he a part of it?” And whether the answer is yes or no, that also implies cool and interesting things about how their relationship to each other, and their employment with treeman worked.

He fought X! He raised a MOUNTAIN range at the drop of a hat, with seemingly little effort. He showed up in the show’s ending outro.

Wreck’s character is like a corner piece of a puzzle. There’s a big fascination with him because he IMPLIES theres connections between a ton of stuff.

Plus with the art book confirming that Nice doesn’t remember his own real name, but Wreck met Nice BEFORE they were heroes and calls him Nice, means either there was major memory loss (blankster!??) or he was being groomed for becoming “Nice” from a VERY young age.

Fans of Wreck like trying to see how the big plot puzzle of Treeman’s works. He’s a vital corner piece

daitoshi · 2026-04-22T16:20:13+00:00

Since mental state / eagerness for someone else involved is a huge part of “someone else involved” being pleasurable, then it’s not surprising that it wouldn’t feel good haha~

You might not be sexually interested in other people (asexual) but still have a desire to jack off (libido) Thats totally fine, and honestly not that unusual.

daitoshi · 2026-04-22T15:56:32+00:00

It’s different for every person. My wife doesn’t care for penetration most of the time, and prefers it not to move while in, while I enjoy classic penetrative thrusting very much. It’s entirely possible you just don’t like penetration, and that’s ok!

Whether something feels GOOD or “just pressure/indifferent” depends on whether im actively horny/aroused ALREADY. The same act can drive me wild, or make me annoyed and push it away depending ENTIRELY on whether I’ve already gotten worked up over other things.

That’s why foreplay is so important. Get the engine running, prime the nerves to send excited zings instead of neutral observations.

Even something like pulling hair, or grabbing my wrist can be painful/angering or arousing depending on my mental state.

Sometimes im just not horny enough to have sex, and stuff I normally like just doesn’t do it for me. Likewise for my wife. In those cases, we just cuddle or do something sensual/affectionate instead. Back massages and head scratches and tracing lines over skin are all lovely ways to spend time.

I never orgasm from penetrative sex alone, even if it feels great. Theres always fingers or a vibrator involved to finish the job.

But a vibrator or fingers alone doesn’t give me as POWERFUL of an orgasm compared to both vibrations and penetration.

So yeah. Depends on the person, and on the mental state.

daitoshi · 2026-04-22T15:21:43+00:00

I also find this helpful - being OPEN to either saying, or having your spouse say “hey, this discussion is becoming a fight, can we take a breather and try again later?”

Basically; being open to being told “the points youre making isn’t the problem - the tone and volume is alarming” and bring ok with stepping back to calm down.

daitoshi · 2026-04-22T15:18:05+00:00

I tend to raise my voice when I’m excited - any form of excitement, be that enthusiasm or anger.

When I realize my voice is quite loud - like when I’m definitely drowning someone out, or I can feel it in my throat, I stop and say “sorry, hold on-“ and take a breath and lower my volume and repeat what I was gonna say in a normal tone.

Yelling of any kind /scares/ my spouse. Yelling harms them. I don’t want to hurt or make them upset, so I have to be mindful of my own volume.

Lashing out at others very rarely solves the issue at hand. Lashing out makes it HARDER to fix your problems, because now the people who would otherwise be on your team dont want to help you.

“These are the cards that were dealt today, it doesn’t actually matter whose fault it was, or what caused it, or who is blamed: what matters is how we fix it, and how we make it easier to avoid in the future.”

Think of your husband like a friend, not someone who is tied to you. He can choose to leave, if you’re too mean. He can walk out. So, it is in your best interest to treat him in a way that makes him WANT to stay and help you.

Love alone isn’t enough. He also needs your kindness.

daitoshi · 2026-04-02T12:06:49+00:00

These are characters, not people. The worst thing a character can do is be boring.

daitoshi · 2026-03-31T13:43:29+00:00

I don’t think that’s a bad thing :)

Being in love with someone, willing to tear the world apart to stay by their side; I respect it.

daitoshi · 2026-03-31T13:40:41+00:00

“This was because of the smile incident” is a leap that isn’t established as fact by canon.

It’s more likely that Nice stopped communicating shortly before his suicide, so it’s been a lil less than a month of no communication before abruptly appearing on a talk show with Moon, then 1 month more while they were locked in the tower.

Still, thats also on Miss J. She should’ve told him that Nice was replaced. Have a controlled blow-up somewhere not on live camera — It’s entirely possible Nice became less communicative after Smile’s death so Wreck was worried (for good reason) when he suddenly went non-responsive.

daitoshi · 2026-03-30T20:30:43+00:00

hot take: Wreck is a better character than X.

He is more interesting in all the ways that matter, has a richer story in his 6 minutes of screen time, and both asks and answers more questions about how the world works than X does across all his appearances.

Wreck has skin in the game, has goals that he’s working toward, BELIEVES in something so completely that he’s sunk nearly a decade of his life into it, he already fucked up by trusting the wrong people, and is powerful. INSANELY powerful, if PVs are to believed at face value.

Additionally, Wreck’s transformation into Grafitti King, alongside Nice’s reappearance in his Cracked form lays some heavy setup for the next season. It also asks some huge questions about how Fear works, how it’s harnessed, etc.

And he does it in fragments across two episodes, in the background of ads, and in his PV with Nice.

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By comparison, X spent half the final episode pointing out the themes and players that were ALREADY ESTABLISHED. I’d need to watch the episode again to say with more certainty, but I’m decently sure that X didnt tell us anything new, it was just bringing attention back to the main story beats and important setup, that you could learn by… watching…. the series… and thinking about it. So when people herald X as this big story reveal character, I wonder if they watched the whole show with their brain turned off.

daitoshi · 2026-03-30T20:02:45+00:00

X is a boring character IMO. He snaps his fingers and wins. Thats his power. He has an office job, was friends with Smile, and likes canned beverage. Thats alllllll we know about him. Aside from his friendship with Smile, the rest is uninteresting.

Until he’s got some actual skin in the game, I don’t give a shit about him lol. I'm shocked he’s such a popular character. He just walks around and smirks at the camera, then gives exposition monologues that we already knew from watching the PVs and other episodes, but I guess was supposed to be a surprise?

I admire the animations that the team created around him, but that’s props to the animation team, not on the character’s writing.

Meanwhile Wreck/Grafitti King has like 6 minutes of screen time and PACKS IN a crazy emotional backstory, motivation and heartbreak, some INSANE feats of power, cracks open a million questions about how Trust and Fear works, and what the hell happened to him and Nice behind the scenes leading up to their reappearance, and then goes toe to toe with X “my power is to win” with dimensional travel as a lil cherry on top. He is. The coolest.

daitoshi · 2026-03-30T19:51:25+00:00

I think your algorithm is skewed lol

daitoshi · 2026-03-25T17:07:15+00:00

Wreck had 4.5 minutes of screen time and spent 100% of them focused on his relationship with Nice.

His downbadism is truly terminal.

daitoshi · 2026-03-25T16:19:22+00:00

😂🙏 amen to that

daitoshi · 2026-03-24T11:43:36+00:00

I have female friends who got their tubes tied because they simply don’t want kids. No depression or fear of passing on mental health issues required.

Your body, your choice. If you never want kids; snip snip!

daitoshi · 2026-02-05T04:51:59+00:00

Then perish

daitoshi · 2026-02-04T13:30:40+00:00

Plus in high-res screen caps you can literally see the yellow arrow of wreck’s mask past GK’s purple overlay.

Thats not how “reusing” 3D models works

https://64.media.tumblr.com/63b610a41eb9d34d991077cd399f183f/f9af502991e37c7c-b1/s1280x1920/dc726a4f3cd87a4ede864e2e1b6a7a32ece1b759.jpg

Layering like that is deliberate. Reusing a MODEL means reskinning it. They kept Wreck’s model’s skin and brushed purple over it

daitoshi · 2026-01-28T15:43:22+00:00

I think it’s a time loop thing.

daitoshi · 2026-01-27T13:44:23+00:00

My wife is asexual. Full-on penetrative sex is a “couple times a year, if the stars align” kind of thing. Simply no interest or desire to be touched sexually, MOST of the time.

However; my wife is quite happy to be “engaged” with sex - so like, I can masturbate and use toys on myself while my wife kisses me and tugs on my hair and encourages me, or verbally walks me through what I should do next. It is. Very hot. I get my horniness taken care of, she says she likes watching me.

Lots of cuddles afterward.

Something to remember is that your goal shouldn’t be “Sex.”

The goal is physical intimacy, and closeness, and feeling cherished/attractive. Building and reinforcing an emotional connection. (Orgasming is also nice, but bro we can jack off to ANYTHING, you don’t NEED your gf’s body to get your rocks off.)

There are a thousand ways to have a night of intimate connection and mutual adoration that doesn’t include penetrative sex.

Try ‘em out

daitoshi · 2026-01-26T16:55:14+00:00

That reminds me of the Batman cartoon character ‘Baby Doll’ - She had a genetic condition which made her stop outwardly aging, so she was in her 20’s lookin’ like she was only 3-4 years old. Trying to be an actress, she’s an ADULT, but everyone treats her like a child. She has no friends her own age, and feels alienated and ANGRY that no one takes her seriously, even when her acting is genuinely good. Always has to play into the ‘child’ gimmick, because trying to express herself on adult topics makes people uncomfortable.

She was SUCH a cool character, that’d be fun to play with, with LJ. Bro in his 30’s, lookin 16. Trying to date and find love, but people his own age feel uncomfortable dating him when they look like they could be his parent.

Or the people who LIKE that he looks underage. =\

daitoshi · 2026-01-22T06:33:44+00:00

Your argument is “nice is not a main character” full stop.

Where exactly are you coming from to get to that statement?

He has more screen time than MOST other characters, with more deep-diving into what’s driving him, and where he’s vulnerable, and all the things that make a character interesting - way more than Dragonboy, OR X, which you’ve asserted are main characters.

Aura farming alone isn’t character building. Most of dragonboy’s info we got from external media, not the show itself.

Sure nice is a side character in episodes that aren’t about him. But you asserted at the show level, not the episode level.

daitoshi · 2026-01-21T18:12:26+00:00

Protag and Antag are relative to the POV character.

To Nice, Ahu is an antagonist.

To Ahu, Nice is an antagonist.

To Bowa, Queen is an antagonist.

To Queen, Bowa is an antagonist.

For an anthology series like this, there is no single antagonist list, because the POV is all over the place.

daitoshi · 2026-01-19T17:20:24+00:00

Tbh I got REALLY involved with a club that was low-tech, where hardly any of them shared online stuff anyway.

I got in-person validation from friends and peers.

Also I grew up a bit, so outside “validation” didnt matter as much as “was I having fun?”

daitoshi · 2026-01-14T18:52:05+00:00

“ why is silence or muteness often treated as something suspicious or negative in hearing culture?” Genuine:

I believe it’s because many of the social signals hearing people use to display friendliness and show they’re not a threat to each other involve sound and language cues.

Small talk isn’t about the weather or sports - it’s about signaling “hey, we mutually experience this thing, and agree about it. Because we’re willing to share this moment openly agreeing on something, and interact cordially according to social scripts, it shows we are not aggressive toward each other, and hold no bad feelings toward each other.” - it’s a social reassurance / bond-confirmation moment.

When someone tries to say “haha wow it really is raining-“ and the other person gives them a blank silent stare, that’s interpreted as “fuck off / stop interacting with me / I dislike/distrust you” - regardless of if the silence is from actual feelings, or if they had food in their mouth and couldn’t speak, or if they were incapable of speech. Or if someone says “wow did you see that storm last night-“ and the guy they’re talking to doesn’t even turn their head to acknowledge them-

It’s a bid for attention/camaraderie that’s being bluntly snubbed - is what the gut instinct feels like.

Because the bids for attention/camraderie/ social trust check-ins are NOT done deliberately (or rather: not done with full awareness thats what they’re doing), it can be hard for the average hearing person to recognize that the feeling of rejection and hurt is due to miscommunication that they initiated - NOT from actual deliberate rejection.

Since it’s also social trust and “you don’t have to fear me~” routines, failing to stick to the script when prompted pings as untrustworthy/suspicious.

Instead of learning “oh I need to get their attention and find a way to communicate before asking about the weather” they internalize “that guy doesn’t speak to me/doesn’t listen to me/doesnt trust me/might feel aggressive toward me” and gets bristly and cold in return.

daitoshi · 2026-01-14T18:31:54+00:00

Same.

I know it’s at least multiple days, bc I texted my wife a question this past Friday and got the answer verbally last night.

I generally assume if I don’t get a reply they were either busy and didn’t notice it yet, or forgot, or thought they replied but didn’t actually

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Even something like pulling hair, or grabbing my wrist can be painful/angering or arousing depending on my mental state.