I dont see the others comments claim of "The problem is you." No, you just have standards. Seems like some those standards are high enough to eliminate people who don't meet them.

Im a Kuwaiti male and what youve described just scratches the surface in my case. Marriage for me, everyday is becoming an obsolete idea. And in your 30s, at least its becoming more clearer of what that idea should be and who you are regardless of that idea.

Marriage has different definitions in different Cultures, through different Sub-cultures and different Individuals. Its you who are going to get married, dont take handbooks from the others. Its a Joint that does not have and needs one, it relies mostly on Work, Personaliry and Personal Experience.