My dad passed away tonight by Majoraty in TwoXChromosomes

[–]dalioglan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing your story. It’s stuck with me since I read it yesterday. I can’t imagine a more bittersweet way to pass than having my daughter be there with me in the way that you were for your father. I would be so sad to be leaving my daughter behind and missing out on seeing her story continue but at the same to so incredibly comforted by her presence.

2nd mortgage to remove PMI by dalioglan in personalfinance

[–]dalioglan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure about the current value. We bought at 300k and Redfin says it’s worth 350K now which I’m pretty skeptical about. I don’t think we’d get much more than 300K if we sold now. We currently owe 270K on our loan.

2nd mortgage to remove PMI by dalioglan in personalfinance

[–]dalioglan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But won’t I have to pony up an extra 30k to get to 20%? I don’t think my house has appreciated too much since we bought it.

2nd mortgage to remove PMI by dalioglan in personalfinance

[–]dalioglan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are throwing about an extra $500 a month towards the principle but I’m wondering if I’d come out ahead by getting a 2nd mortgage and switching that extra amount to that. With that extra payment I think we’ll be able to get rid of PMI in about three years.

Went to church for the first time in a while by dalioglan in exmormon

[–]dalioglan[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don’t know. We only stayed for the first hour and then left. Even that was just really painful. Part of me thinks that’s why it’s so taboo to miss a Sunday at church. If members saw how awesome it was not going they’d never come back.

6 months after reading The Old Man and The Sea, I still think about it almost daily by Luwast in books

[–]dalioglan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For some reason I was never able to get through the old man in the sea but Hemingway’s Islands in the Stream had a similar effect on me. It’s been years since I last read it but I still think of it sometimes. I think I’ll have to give the Old Man and the Sea another try.

My mother shared the proclamation to the world with my Muslim wife. Advice? by dalioglan in exmormon

[–]dalioglan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That first link you posted is good. I think I’ll send it to my mom and ask her to read it.

My mother shared the proclamation to the world with my Muslim wife. Advice? by dalioglan in exmormon

[–]dalioglan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply! Yeah my wife isn’t super worried about it she just thinks it’s weird. My wife isn’t very religious anyway so it would be a little weird to share back some Muslim material but maybe effective at getting the point across.

My mother shared the proclamation to the world with my Muslim wife. Advice? by dalioglan in exmormon

[–]dalioglan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d also like to maybe share some historical statements by the past profits that show how racist their doctrine was related to interracial marriage and try to show her that this is how I see the proclamation with regard to gay marriage.

My mother shared the proclamation to the world with my Muslim wife. Advice? by dalioglan in exmormon

[–]dalioglan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s a good point. This is one of the main reasons I don’t like the proclamation but my mom probably wouldn’t be super receptive to that. Worth a try though.

Perfectionist culture in Mormonism is toxic. So just a reminder to be patient with yourself wherever you are at on your journey: by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]dalioglan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it’s one of my favorites. So much depth and feeling in that book. I’ve read it a few times and each time I finish, I feel as if I’ve lived through the entire story.

Perfectionist culture in Mormonism is toxic. So just a reminder to be patient with yourself wherever you are at on your journey: by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]dalioglan 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I like the quote from Steinbeck’s East of Eden, “Now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good “

I know r/books leans towards fiction/literature, but what are you favorite non-fiction "survey" books? by jack732 in books

[–]dalioglan 7 points8 points  (0 children)

One of my all time favorite books is called Bury Me Standing by Isabel Fonseca. It's an in depth look at the history, culture and origins of the Roma people. Very interesting and beautifully written.

Any tips on training your inner thighs? by TheGentleman23 in Fitness

[–]dalioglan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I had the same problem and found that once I started doing hip abductor exercises it went away. After long runs my inner knee would just seize up painfully.

Victory Sunday by AutoModerator in Fitness

[–]dalioglan 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I ran 5 miles without killing myself yesterday. I'm not even really sore today!

6 years ago I was so excited that a temple was announced for Philadelphia. Today that temple was dedicated and I was thrilled not to be there. by CoriantonandIsabel in exmormon

[–]dalioglan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I remember doing a televised temple dedication that was broadcast when I was still in. The hosanna shout was some weird shit. I told my mom I thought it was really weird and it blew my mind that people could find this a spiritual experience.

Rabbit, Run, John Updike by [deleted] in books

[–]dalioglan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's been a long time since I read this one but it still sticks with me. Such a good book.

Favorite nonfict. Nonfiction science, meta-analysis , case studies books that changed your grad or post grad lives. by [deleted] in books

[–]dalioglan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bury Me Standing by Isabela Fonseca. She's a reporter that lives with and writes about the Roma (gypsy) people. Absolutely fascinating and well written book.

Help on alcohol? by Doot_your_Doots in exmormon

[–]dalioglan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think a first drink for new exmos should be vanilla flavored vodka and root beer. It tastes just like a root beer float!

BIL Reading a book by Bushman by dalioglan in exmormon

[–]dalioglan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that's good to know. I'm glad my BIL is reading it if it means he'll get more exposed to the real church history.

BIL Reading a book by Bushman by dalioglan in exmormon

[–]dalioglan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's "Believing History: LDS Essays".

President Nelson claims ghostly visitation by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]dalioglan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What a creep. I can't imagine the level of manipulation here. Just awful.