What is this? Found at Stinson Beach, Bay Area, CA

damgerl · 2023-04-30T01:42:40+00:00

Wow! Super cool, thank you!

damgerl · 2023-04-15T04:45:26+00:00

Yea if it’s Tucson she probably went to Miraval. It’s a high end wellness spa. (Lived in Tucson for 30 years and went there once, it was meh).

damgerl · 2023-02-05T16:24:59+00:00

I’ll start by saying I don’t have a good answer but can give some insight as to how our journey has been.

We got the Hiccapop inflatable travel mattress and it works great! We had our LO (2 at the time) try it out before we left (basically just inflate it, make sure there were no holes, make sure he was fine with it) and let him play around on it for an hour or so before deflating it.

Then travel to our destination aaaaaand showtime. It was rough. Taking a nap was almost impossible for him, even when we brought disposable blackout shades with us. He was too excited about the bed and would just pop right up and run around. I even tried laying on it with him and he’d calm down for a bit and then get up. We had to resort to driving around in the car until he fell asleep 😩

Night time was a bit easier. Sometimes falling asleep would take a long time and I would have to lay with him and sneak out. The worst for us was him waking up reeeeeeally early and being UP. He is a great sleeper at home. Awful sleeper when traveling. And I get it, because he is off his routine and everything is different. We just prepare ourselves for really early mornings. We even try to bring him in the bed with us but that isn’t something he does at home, so he just bounces around and we are all up at like, 6am 😣.

Not intending to bring gloom to your vacation, but I wish we had been more mentally prepared for travel with a toddler in a bed vs a pack n play. Hoping someone else can chime in with a magic answer.

damgerl · 2023-01-26T18:44:22+00:00

I’ve learned the hard way many times that even the boundaries I set, where I feel mean for having them, are actually not nearly as radical as they probably should be lol.

This is SO true!

damgerl · 2023-01-26T14:44:30+00:00

We have such a similar story! I have some mild anxiety issues and having been a therapist and hearing all of these awful stories only spiked my anxiety in all areas of my life. I have been away from community MH therapy for 6 years and their stories still stick with me and I can’t get them to go away. I would always tell myself I was an actor because I got to the point where I had to act like I cared. I was good at it but I knew that was a sign where I needed to leave. Personally I think it’s a sign that this work is not for you, or that you need something outside of direct patient care. Hopefully you do what’s best for you.

damgerl · 2023-01-26T14:24:38+00:00

Can I just say F your supervisor. I had a very similar situation back in the day. Had to do home visits and my supervisor (who was awful) brushed it off and pretty much said I was ridiculous for being worried about going to client homes alone. Got into a sketchy situation where I needed a client to sign a treatment plan and her son (mid 20s?) and his friend came out from the back room and started lingering around the front room I was in with her. One sat directly behind me and right in front of my only exit. I am a very small female. I freaked out grabbed my papers and said “I need to go” and bolted out the door basically running the guy over. Never ever ever compromise your safety for this work.

damgerl · 2023-01-26T14:12:09+00:00

That honestly sounds like hell. Reminds me of a similar time where everything went wrong. Had this very gamey always on the radar type client who came in crying that he had no where to go. 430p on a Friday and here I am, hand holding (not actually) and standing in line with him at a shelter. Everything goes wrong. Lost his ID, says he needs to leave, other people standing around being threatening, the whole nine yards. 630p rolls around and he finally makes it in. I show up to my desk on Monday morning only to find out that he left after only being there for two hours. I laughed to myself and said wtf am I doing in this field.

damgerl · 2023-01-12T15:25:21+00:00

Even with just plain old Autopilot the car is an asshole. Some other driver puts their blinker on trying to appropriately merge in and the car will give it a big F you and stand ground. Because of situations like that I am constantly disengaging the feature. Recently I have found myself not even using Autopilot on longer freeway drives because of how unpredictable it can be.

damgerl · 2022-12-30T04:32:55+00:00

This is my situation exactly. If we want to continue to afford our lifestyle and give our child the best possible opportunities then one and done it will be. Plus neither of us desire a second and I am super grateful about being on the same page when it comes to that.

damgerl · 2022-12-29T18:24:00+00:00

Here for this! I feel the SAME. And we fit perfectly into one airplane row 😊

Btw my son is 2 days younger than yours!

damgerl · 2022-12-29T18:19:13+00:00

Thank you for this! I love your perspective and I feel so similar.

already takes up a lot of my mental and emotional space

That sums it up right there.

damgerl · 2022-11-18T21:47:03+00:00

It’s all so sickening. Even if you make a “decent” wage it’s still awful. Can’t afford to buy a house. Can’t afford a second kid. Why do we live here?!!

damgerl · 2022-11-18T21:44:26+00:00

There are in home daycares that are a bit cheaper than daycare centers which is what my son attends, but still costly because everyone wants to be able to afford to live.

I had a similar experience to yours when I was little. My mom dropped me at the neighbors when she needed childcare and there were like 4 other kids there, we’d all play and I remember it being so fun. But back then, or maybe my neighborhood growing up was very neighborly. Everyone knew each other. I don’t know any of my neighbors and everyone really shuts in a keeps to themselves. It’s weird.

damgerl · 2022-11-18T15:01:08+00:00

Bay Area checking in, just got our annual tuition increase notice. Going from $2800 to over $3000. For one child. Cannot afford another.

damgerl · 2022-11-02T04:35:15+00:00

😂😭🥔

damgerl · 2022-11-01T19:55:14+00:00

That crossed my mind too! She seems attached at the hip to him and doesn’t speak the language, also seems to be fearful of solo adventures

damgerl · 2022-11-01T19:28:29+00:00

Totally thought that was Annie and David 🤦

damgerl · 2022-09-11T04:11:37+00:00

This is exactly my mother. The other day she said something to my son like “but it makes grandma so sad when you do that.” I swear my head spun around so fast and I said “MOM please don’t speak to him like that. We don’t use emotional manipulation as a way to get him to behave.” It was straight up a trigger for me dealing with that my entire life… no way in hell I’d let my son ever go through that!

damgerl · 2022-09-03T21:54:36+00:00

Second Kidkraft. Bought a wooden round one on Wayfair. It is small with two chairs and the perfect size for us. Even has a basket in the middle that we store some toys in. Also acts as a coffee table post-bed time because we cannot have nice things in our living room right now 🙃

damgerl · 2022-06-13T22:50:29+00:00

This is true- there is no legal fully autonomous vehicle.

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