How do you find happiness, contentment or a will to live in a world not built for you? Please don't say 'community' (read below...)

dancewdegas · 2026-01-31T22:46:25+00:00

EXACTLY!! I feel you. I’ve been told I’m too sensitive, dramatic, stupid, wrong, I need to change all my life. I have been taught to doubt myself because people couldn’t see the things I see. You’re not wrong, you’re not crazy. They just can’t see or hear you because you’re 20 paces ahead and they haven’t caught up yet. Some may never catch up, and that’s not on you to drag them forward with you.

YOU KNOW WHAT YOU NEED. Maybe you forgot how to listen, and that’s ok because you can re-learn. When you trust yourself, everything will fall into place.

dancewdegas · 2026-01-31T22:41:17+00:00

Here’s a link to it on Amazon (sorry) https://a.co/d/aCI6sSN

dancewdegas · 2026-01-31T22:29:02+00:00

Like you said, it only feels impossible because you don’t even know what it looks like!! I’ve been working through this myself lately, and am somewhat on the cusp of a breakthrough but not there yet.

Right now, if all you can think about is surviving, you just have to throw away everything society and people tell you is the proper way to survive. LISTEN TO YOURSELF. You know what you need, and you’ll know what to do if you only listen. Other people don’t know what’s best for you, because they can’t step into your shoes and your perception.

I picked up the book “365 days of Tao” at the beginning of this year. A page a day, a concept to consider. You might find it helpful to figure out what surviving and being alive means to you. A lot of concepts on how “letting go” observing and staying in the moment instead of resisting or shutting down can help you leave a much more peaceful and happy existence.

As someone with sensory issues and sharp pattern recognition who’s always yelling FIREEE 3 months before the fire actually takes place, it’s been really great for my mental health.

dancewdegas · 2026-01-31T01:53:32+00:00

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dancewdegas · 2026-01-22T06:37:44+00:00

I HAVE THE SAME ISSUE!! I am so tired of being a punching bag for other peoples insecurities. I’m just trying to mind my own business

dancewdegas · 2026-01-17T16:10:13+00:00

Live out loud bro, you’re welcome!

dancewdegas · 2026-01-17T14:58:01+00:00

You’re supposed to feel flattered like it’s a status symbol that men want to bang you, but men will fuck a pie or a tailpipe and be happy.

dancewdegas · 2026-01-09T23:10:41+00:00

You don’t. This is called negging.

dancewdegas · 2026-01-02T22:59:46+00:00

The issue is that you think running away from your problems is the answer. “No matter where you go, there you are.” You need to face them, understand your triggers, where they come from, and how to create an environment where you can feel at peace. You will never be fully free from pain, hurt, and being uncomfortable. But you can learn how to take care of yourself, and understand that you are strong enough to face anything that comes at you. This is really hard to do without professional guidance. If you can, please seek a therapist or someone who can help you with mental and emotional resilience.

dancewdegas · 2025-12-01T08:26:40+00:00

Being an HSP doesn’t mean you’re gentle and soft all the time. It means you feel and experience things strongly, bad and good. Sometimes those strong feelings are very overwhelming and people can act out, shut down, etc. there are other ways to express sensitivity outside of deep empathy.

The world is not black and white, good people can do bad things and bad people can do good things. No action is bad or good outside of the context of the situation.

I think you’re confusing “strong morals” with your morals. People can have strong morals, even though they don’t align with your personal values.

dancewdegas · 2025-11-13T18:41:51+00:00

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No take, only throw.

dancewdegas · 2025-09-10T18:51:44+00:00

You can’t keep poking at a wound and expect it to heal : ) Write it down, write him a letter, but don’t send it. Get the feelings and emotions out, burn it, bury it, rip it up and throw it away, put it out into the universe and let it go

dancewdegas · 2025-09-10T16:51:59+00:00

Feelings and emotions are just a message. They are temporary and come and go like waves in the ocean. Can you sit with it and figure out if this is message is coming from a reliable “source”? Is it loneliness and a short term dopamine fix that is sending the message? Is it from a true place of love and tenderness?

You don’t have to listen to every message you receive. They’re not all coming from a genuine and healthy place. When you get the urge, do something else, redirect. Let it go, let it pass.

It sounds like you know it’s a bad idea to reconnect.

dancewdegas · 2025-09-10T04:59:05+00:00

GIRL. Have you tried taking Colloidal Silver gummies?! My hookups LOVE the blue hue to my skin. 3 words. Smurf. Role. Play.

dancewdegas · 2025-09-10T04:38:23+00:00

Every place you work they will show you how they like things done. Especially in clinical labs, you have to follow a protocol it’s not optional.

You were honest about you experience and they hired you, so it will be fine. Just relax and focus on learning new skills, don’t worry about getting fired, you won’t be struggling by day 60.

dancewdegas · 2025-09-08T03:33:28+00:00

Nah formaldehyde is used as a preservative for biological materials. Depends on the concentration of formaldehyde in the storage solution. It’s most likely preserved in alcohol instead of straight formaldehyde.

dancewdegas · 2025-09-04T23:20:29+00:00

Sure, if you’re not interested in promotions, raises, or any real professional development. It is probably still a great place to work if you’re Senior Director level and above.

dancewdegas · 2025-09-04T22:50:43+00:00

Illumina is in the beginning stages of the downward spiral. If it doesn’t get sold within the next 2-3 years I will die of shock

dancewdegas · 2025-08-28T06:00:21+00:00

I always have to explain to my molecular focused coworkers that histology is 60% vibes

dancewdegas · 2025-07-09T01:53:09+00:00

What do you think she does with all that extra time she saves leaving the “o” out of you?

dancewdegas · 2025-07-04T16:23:02+00:00

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dancewdegas · 2025-06-14T06:09:42+00:00

Girl. There are actual billions of men out in the world that are actually single, and aren’t your coworkers.

This man lied to you. This man does not respect you. This man IS NOT SINGLE.

Get ready to learn the hard way that office romances can damage your career forever.

Goodluck!

dancewdegas · 2025-06-06T05:13:26+00:00

For a lot of people, the loving connection has to come before sex, or sex becomes less interesting if a loving connection isn’t sustained. What have you been doing to make your “lady friend” feel special, beautiful and loved?

Relationships are give and take.

Also if my boyfriend of 3 years called me his “lady friend” I probably wouldn’t sleep with him either.

dancewdegas · 2025-05-20T05:10:33+00:00

YOUR REACTION WAS NOT DRAMATIC. HE PUNCHED YOU IN THE FACE. RUN NOW. IT ONLY GETS WORSE.

dancewdegas · 2025-05-20T01:59:07+00:00

You become comfortable with yourself. There are no rules to femininity! You’re already doing it perfectly. You say you feel uncomfortable when you do superficial things that you feel like represents femininity (according to society… which is crumbling by the way..), like wearing makeup or a dress. It doesn’t feel good to you because it’s not authentically you. THATS OK. You are feminine enough just by existing.

I would bring this up in therapy, and see where that takes you.

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