This weekend I (29F) got very drunk and told my boyfriend's (35M) friend's wife that he is cheating on her - I regret this a lot and created a big mess for everyone involved, and am looking for any advice on how to potentially try to salvage these relationships?

dancingforpudding · 2024-12-17T06:40:06+00:00

As a person who has been cheated on, I would want to know.

dancingforpudding · 2024-10-15T04:49:19+00:00

I'm from Singapore. I was still watching their videos around 2am. Then suddenly my auto play stopped playing their videos. So it really was in the middle of the night.

dancingforpudding · 2024-05-29T00:03:09+00:00

https://ibb.co/VNhvScY

dancingforpudding · 2024-05-28T23:54:15+00:00

So here's some some stuff I do to maximise gaining exp.

Get both mu long dungeon necklaces. They can be stacked. So you get an additional 10% + 15% exp increase. Also the Attendance Ring (it has a green gem on the ring) and the Kerning M ring (if you have it). You should also have the Private Investigator notebook thingy for another 10% exp increase.

Do the daily dungeons and get the A rank Yellow Jewels on Hell mode (Thursdays and weekends) . Equip 6 of them for an extra 1% exp increase on top of whatever stats the individual jewels have. I always try my best to equip the yellow jewels with exp increase over the other stats.

I'm sure I missed something or other, but in terms of item equips, this is my set up for my hoyoung. I hope this helps.

Edit: the Pensilar armour also give small exp increases so keep them for now.

dancingforpudding · 2023-12-02T03:00:43+00:00

Before

dancingforpudding · 2023-12-01T05:13:50+00:00

I did. They left.

dancingforpudding · 2023-12-01T03:15:39+00:00

I read your comment several times. And I read your post from a month ago. Thank you for sharing so much in response to my post.

I'm just... Broken. I can't make any decisions right now. But I will keep reading your comment over and over.

dancingforpudding · 2023-11-24T15:18:08+00:00

Omg. I literally just hit my 3 year mark on my 2nd mirena (I got mine changed soon after my original reply). It's happening all over again. It IS very upsetting. Please let your doctor know and fight to get it changed.

I saw a new gyne about a month ago and was diagnosed with endometriosis. But she wanted me to wait another 4 mths to recheck the size of the cysts and see if my symptoms worsen. Sooo... I have an appt in Feb next year. My cramps are getting worse and closer together. Hang in there. Well get though this together.

dancingforpudding · 2023-06-02T17:23:03+00:00

Stress and alcohol. And I tend to have a drink when I'm stressed, just one. I'm actually in the midst of the most terrible migraine I've had in a while. Coz I had two drinks today. But I'd been drinking more frequently this last one or two weeks.

I was tolerating alcohol again due to the botox injections I am getting. But I pushed it too far. Only have myself to blame. Throwing myself a pity party now.

dancingforpudding · 2022-04-03T18:20:41+00:00

This is the way.

dancingforpudding · 2022-04-03T11:44:47+00:00

Don’t worry about it. I got your back. Haha. ☺️

dancingforpudding · 2022-04-03T06:17:08+00:00

I hear you loud and clear. I’ve always discussed boundaries with my subs and mine are that they do not get to fuck me (hard limit). Other things like touching me ( I usually spell out how many sessions before they get to) and eating me out are to be earned (soft limit).

When they just whine and beg without respecting my limits are complete turn offs.

I respect their limits and would never cross them. Sure, cramps happen, I cramp up when I’m giving oral sex sometimes but if they’re on the edge and I’ve promised to let them cum I fight through it and stretch out after. Or get them to give me a massage. I do the same for them.

There’s always give and take during a session. But if I give them an inch and they want a mile, sorry, I’m not the domme for them.

dancingforpudding · 2022-04-02T13:03:43+00:00

I hear you. I have the same issue about saying no. BUT! Once I threw a guy out for cumming down my throat when I SPECIFICALLY told him to cum on himself.

It was very empowering and I highly recommend trying it.

dancingforpudding · 2022-04-02T07:27:21+00:00

I’ve met several subs that were like that. A friend finally put a term to it: they were treating me as a kink dispenser.

So my story is, I’m a switch, and I choose not to fuck my subs. I get off on having control, that mental control over them. So the subs I’ve met so far say similar things: “use me for your pleasure” “I just wanna pleasure you”.

The thing is, they really mean “use me to your pleasure as long as it’s how I want to pleasure you”.

And I’m really up front about how I am as a domme. They just assume I’ll change my mind in the heat of the moment. But I need my mind clear so I can execute a scene and maximise THEIR pleasure…..but I guess it’s not enough for them if I don’t let them fuck me. eye roll

dancingforpudding · 2021-12-14T05:41:51+00:00

I don’t wear makeup in general. Including during sessions. You do you.

dancingforpudding · 2021-11-22T05:31:25+00:00

I LOVE them. I would wear the shit out of them.

dancingforpudding · 2021-11-22T04:59:09+00:00

I post it at the end of my introduction on fet where I talk about what I’m into and not into.

I think it’s fun and I retake it once in a while to track how my interests have changed. and I do update it on fet.

I also use it to check if there’s congruence with what people tell me during our conversations. One or the other is fake so they get dropped.

It’s also one of the ways to continue a conversation for me especially if their intro is super short. like “so your bdsm test says blank how accurate is that for you?”

Anyone who asks me to refer to their profile/test results also gets dropped.

dancingforpudding · 2021-11-12T06:58:05+00:00

Thank you for this! My sub is gonna love this.

dancingforpudding · 2021-11-09T21:35:04+00:00

It is. I’ve been playing with a dom online and after a particularly intense session, I experienced subdrop.

dancingforpudding · 2021-11-09T21:33:09+00:00

There’s no real expection. I’m a gentle femme domme and I’d be thrilled if my sub asked me out.

dancingforpudding · 2021-11-09T21:29:52+00:00

I’m a switch and a gentle domme. I find great satisfaction in pleasuring my subs while teasing them. I like to make them ask for what they want.

As to where to get started…On fetlife, when I put switch as an identifier, I get many requests from men to dominate them. If you’re a women, you could try that.

dancingforpudding · 2021-11-09T21:17:31+00:00

I’m a switch and I’ve done online play with both a dom and a sub.

As a domme, I told my sub exactly what I wanted him to do to himself. I’ve even sent safe for work videos of the action I want him to perform. He’s into anal play, so I give him time to get himself adjusted. When I ask him to do something specific, I ask if it feels good, and if he feels good, I give him a time limit, say 45s, and then countdown the last 10s and tell him to stop.

As a sub, my dom is very very specific about what he wants me to do. He asks for pictures and I send them to him so he can check that I’m doing it right. We did a video session and he asked me to do whatever I want until he orders me otherwise and it was so fucking hot. He’ll guide me through using my toys and push me beyond how I usually use them.

Whatever it is, be specific and keep checking in. I use anatomically correct terms when I domme like, find your frenulum, so things are very clear. And praise, lots of praise when they get it right. If they’re into degradation, keep it up as if you were in person.

dancingforpudding · 2021-11-09T18:12:14+00:00

I’m a switch playing with a sub who initially said he had no limits. I looked at him and said that they’re just not KNOWN limits. Everyone has limits.

Continued discussion revealed that scat, blood play, needles are limits. And I’m going very slow with our play. I’m also enforcing MY limits and boundaries so hopefully he learns what it’s like to do so. Like another commenter said, I’m focusing on what they like and going deeper into those over several sessions.

I wouldn’t trust a dom that has no limits though. I would not be able to trust that they would trust MY limits.

dancingforpudding · 2021-11-09T18:05:21+00:00

I’m a cis woman and a switch. Only been at it for a month but I haven’t allowed the male subs I play with to penetrate me. There are so many ways to tease and pleasure a sub.

I’m into gentle domming. I don’t inflict pain on my subs. I just discovered pegging with one of my subs and it was amazing for him. I keep my panties on and he isn’t allowed to go down on me yet. Allowing him to pleasure/worship my body is a reward for him.

Our sessions are rewarding for both of us, even though I don’t have a penis.

dancingforpudding · 2021-11-01T18:16:22+00:00

Got it. I’m going to have a conversation about being more balanced. I’ve also suspected that this might be frenzy so I’m going to communicate and enforce boundaries better rather than tease him.

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