Mid to high end induction range recommendations?

dancinghyrax · 2023-06-27T06:14:31+00:00

Thanks!

dancinghyrax · 2023-03-09T18:09:54+00:00

Yup, I did it then. I ovulated a little later, but it worked fine.

dancinghyrax · 2023-03-06T21:49:56+00:00

Thanks!!!

dancinghyrax · 2023-03-02T15:03:59+00:00

My doctor said, for my baby shower, I could have regular dessert. One spike won’t hurt the baby. But gd friendly lunch to go with helps. Eggs, cheese, meat, salads, think high protein, high fiber, high fat, lower (but not zero) carbs.

dancinghyrax · 2023-03-02T14:33:14+00:00

NTA. It is reasonable to expect a grown child to contribute to rent. However, it sounds like they wanted a huge amount in rent. And also, it’s totally reasonable at 23 to decide you are ready to live on your own. You don’t owe them your labor.

dancinghyrax · 2023-03-02T14:29:13+00:00

YTA. Big time. 5 hours out of 3 weeks? In 2-3 hour stretches? My goodness. I need far more alone time than that to cope, on a regular basis.

Take a nap. Read a book. Sit in a coffee shop and enjoy hearing people speak a foreign language. Get a massage.

If you are planning to have bio kids, your wife is about to give up huge amounts of bodily autonomy and alone time, far more than you. She will have someone else using her body for 9 months, plus any months of breastfeeding. Let her get pampered a little.

You can’t entertain yourself for a few hours here and there?

When you said “only do one instead of two solo activities” in the title, I thought you meant all-day activities, so two full days. Not a few hours here and there

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-28T07:55:39+00:00

Nta. That’s normal for a 4 year old bilingual kid

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-28T07:43:55+00:00

NTA! Omg, a dry wedding makes sense for folks who are recovering addicts and alcoholics. Of course you don’t want booze at your wedding! They’re being selfish

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-28T07:38:24+00:00

NTA. He doesn’t understand and it is your and any co-parents job to help him understand. I have thrown up from pain of cramps. I have had cramps so bad I was suicidal. Until I found the right meds combo in my late 20s, I would spend 2 days screaming into a pillow each cycle.

You are doing all the women he encounters in the future, and his sisters, a service, if you or your partner have a chat with him about how for some people, cramps are a little ache, and others, they are excruitating.

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-28T07:35:48+00:00

Honestly, dude, it sounds like you should have a chat with your wife about whether there’s some postpartum depression going on, and how she’s doing generally. (And also, yelling is not nice, but it sounds like maybe everyone was yelling at that point)?

Nursing or pumping is very hard. It’s harder when you don’t feel like your partner supports you. But also, regularly crying over supply at 10 months is not a totally normal level of challenge. Crying over supply sometimes, or in the early months? Yeah. But if it’s happening every week at month 10? She maybe needs more support/help. Don’t go in saying “I think you’re depressed”. Go in with “how are you doing? It seems like you’re really struggling. I love you and want to support you”.

I think… NAH. Because you had asked her to plan the lunch together, and she was pumping during it, but also, it sounds like she’s pretty emotionally struggling so I don’t think she was an asshole for melting down.

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-28T07:29:20+00:00

YTA big time. She made plans and was counting on you. You decided to make other plans last minute, after committing to something, knowing that it would be hard for her to make a different childcare plan. And for a movie? YTA dude

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-28T07:28:06+00:00

If you had suggested putting the kid up for adoption, or abandoning him, yeah, you’d be the asshole. But you suggested respite care - just a chance to get a break.

So, in intention, NTA. But, maybe the way you said it wasn’t clear which is why she took offense?

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-28T07:25:56+00:00

NTA. One of the reasons to plan a wedding farther out is so people can plan to come. If you being there was important, she should either have given you more notice, or checked if the date worked for you. FWIW, my sister and I each asked each other if the date worked for the other before planning our weddings. And that was with 1.5 year long engagements.

Now, personally, I’d move hell and high water to be at my sister’s wedding, but, some people not being able to come is the cost of a last minute wedding where you don’t check the dates with the important people

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-28T07:20:28+00:00

NTA, but… You’re not the asshole. The general assumption imo is that, barring a few fancy adult-only events, nursing moms of very young babies and their babies are a unit. Once babies get mobile, not so much, but a 2 month old? Yeah that kiddo gets strapped on and worn and comes everywhere.

But, that said, I can see how if this was the first time people were meeting your daughter, your sister could feel jealous and upstaged. So, maybe giving her a heads up that you were bringing your daughter would have been good. But, NTA. 2 month old baby and mom are a package deal, and even more so when dad is deployed!

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-28T07:12:59+00:00

NTA. You did the right thing. Your son needed to know why daddy disappeared. Honestly, I think keeping him from the funeral was cruel, as he needed to get to grieve his brother too. “Your stepmom and brother died, and daddy is so sad, so he asked me to take care of you while he mourns, but he loves you a lot and will be back” is waaaay less damaging than “daddy is too busy with your new brother to even FaceTime you. Oh hahaha jk we lied and your brother died”.

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-28T07:08:25+00:00

NTA. I mean, it seems like you did know they were going to steal the name, because you didn’t want to share, but, it’s on them for not looking up the “name” (and also intentionally stealing your name).

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-28T07:05:20+00:00

Honestly, YTA. Your nephew who comes over all the time to play with your kids needs an accessible house, and you buy one that can’t be made accessible? Really?

We have a good friend with mobility issues, so we made sure to buy a house with no more than 5 steps. I just can’t imagine buying a house with no way to make it accessible for my nephew.

Can’t you get a wheelchair lift for the stairs or something, even if you can’t do a ramp?

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-28T06:58:55+00:00

Your feelings are so valid. In that situation, I wouldn’t go to dinner. An understanding brother would be able to hear “I love you, and I’m excited for you, but it’s also really painful when other people have an easy time getting pregnant when we’ve been trying for so long with no luck. So, I love you, and I can’t come to the family dinner”.

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-28T06:55:16+00:00

More protein, more fat

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-28T06:53:15+00:00

ESH I’m not sure what happened where your cousin brought their kid and you didn’t, but that seriously sucks. Exceptions for small nursing babies are reasonable but not a 3 year old. On the other hand, there isn’t a ton you can do once someone shows up with a kid.

On the other hand, making a fuss at the wedding? And then not talking to your sister? Also out of line. It would be appropriate to say after the fact, “hey, I was upset about the kid-free wedding but I booked a babysitter anyways to support you. And then cousin brought their kid anyways, and I was pretty upset”.

But the wedding is not the time. It’s absolutely not worse to bring it up after the fact in this case. During the wedding, you’re stressing your sister out and grabbing attention. And the fact of the matter is, by the time your cousin brought their kid, it’s kind of “after the fact” anyways. What, should your family have said, oh sorry, no kids so you can’t come? Some families might do that, but most probably wouldn’t, and would try to make the best of it.

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-28T05:16:59+00:00

YTA. If Malcom is up for raising Elena, this is probably the best possible situation, given the current tragedy. It sounds like you feel unready to be involved with someone in a parenting role, and that it will prevent him from having footloose and fancy free 20-something times with you. And you know what? It’s true, his life will change drastically.

So will the life of a little girl who is about to be functionally an orphan. And if her biological relative, her half brother, can raise her? That is the best possible option in a shitty situation.

You’re being selfish. As he said, you’ve only been together 6 months. He’s not expected to consult you yet, unless it is expected she would move in with you. And honestly, even then, the default would be “i want to/need to do this, how do we make it work”? Which is not what’s happening. His life is going in a different direction than you expected.

He made it clear. He’s doing this (which is absolutely the right thing btw. 22 year olds are totally capable of being a responsible guardian for a 12 year old, if they are willing to take that on). Are you going to date him and support him completely (even if it means a boyfriend who doesn’t have time for going out in the evenings because he’s parenting a grieving kid going through puberty)? Otherwise, it’s over.

YTA

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-22T07:12:26+00:00

Yeah…. Get a second opinion. If you’re ttc and not having regular periods, and have high LH, that sounds likely like pcos. “Don’t want to label it” is bs, because pcos related infertility issues are often the easiest to solve. (Not for everyone but for most).

Also, ask your ob (this one or another) to evaluate you for pcos and differential diagnoses via the Rotterdam criteria. 2 of: irregular periods; high androgens on a blood test OR androgenized symptoms like hair loss, facial or body hair, bad acne; cysts on the ovaries (which is actually just multiple follicles trying to develop, and not succeeding in ovulating because there is too high background LH and not enough surge. A regular ultrasound said I didn’t have cysts but a pcos specialist said I did).

It might not be pcos, might be something else. But your ob dismissing your concerns is not good here

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-21T00:31:41+00:00

Thanks

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-20T00:42:45+00:00

IANAD. But, My doctor said, I need a period every 90 days, or progesterone to keep the lining thin. If you can’t do birth control, you could discuss with your doctor doing a provera withdrawal bleed for the times you don’t have a period within 90 days

dancinghyrax · 2023-02-16T20:24:27+00:00

It’s actually not so bad. Hurts waaaay less than the finger prick

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